They seem to come during different stages of your life. When you’re in kindergarten, they come in the form of the girl sitting next to you taking the last purple pencil and not wanting to share and eventually breaking it—probably not on purpose though.
Then primary and middle school shows up and they’re in the form of girls gossiping behind your back while you’re eating the sandwich your mother made that turned a little bit soggy from the syrup, crowning you with a lasting nickname.
High school rocks up only to be back stabbed by your best friend who decides to leave you behind to join the plastics because deep down she’s a little bit jealous of you for whatever reason.
Adulthood finally appears and it’s in the form of a client making false accusations to your boss about you in order to get you into trouble. Purely out of jealousy. It never seems to end.
So what do you do? How you should be dealing with evil women?
You don’t smile to return the spite shown to you, but rather to show her that whatever she’s trying to do isn’t working on you. You’ve been through too many situations where you’ve encountered a mean streak from someone to have this event take away your smile.
You’re not laughing at her—that’s a whole different thing! You’re just showing her that your happiness doesn’t depend on whether or not she’s trying take you down, or if she’s trying to see what your reaction would be and if you’d stoop down to her level.
Surprisingly, with some women, it doesn’t matter what age they are. If they want to be mean and completely spiteful, they’ll try whatever they have to do in order to succeed.
2. Stand up for yourself
Smiling doesn’t mean that you keep quiet and let her walk all over you. Perhaps, in kindergarten, you let the girl take the pencil when you really wanted it and didn’t say anything. As an adult though, you have to stand up for yourself. Speak your mind when the time is right. Choose your words wisely though when it’s in a professional setting.
In some bizarre way, you may even be respected more in a work setting if you stand up for yourself and leave a mark instead of being a shy Sally who doesn’t say a word. After all, who just accepts meanness from other women? You’re an adult; it’s your job to do what’s right by you because if you don’t, no one else will.
3. Stay composed
Speaking your mind also doesn’t mean that you stoop to her level. You stay composed, just like a lady should. You don’t use foul language. You may have learned a few new words from her, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to repeat them.
You also don’t need to raise your voice in order to be heard. Staying calm is key to acting like the lady you are. You don’t return the favor and seek revenge on her. That’s just child’s play. Besides, I’m sure you have much better things to do with your time than to think of ways to get back at her.
4. Wish her well
This one is probably the hardest tip to follow. Wishing someone well when all they’re trying to do is give you a bad name has to be considered as an achievement. It requires a lot of self-control, love and compassion to be able to do that. It’s usually not a skill that you learn overnight, but it’s attainable.
The best way to look at it is that you’re doing it for yourself. I’m sure you’ve heard people say that when you hold a grudge against someone, you hurt only yourself. It has more to do with peace. The minute someone’s words and actions no longer have a hold on you, you feel an amazing sense of peace. That’s exactly what I want for you.
5. Don’t take it personally
The one thing I’ve learned about mean vixens, and anyone really who treats me badly, is that it’s never really a reflection of the person they’re trying to hurt. It almost never has something to do with you.
Most of the time, it’s about something that’s happening in their life that’s causing them to take it out on other people. Healthy people don’t go around destroying other people. It’s just a fact.
The truth is, there will always be a mean vixen in your life at some point, whether you like it or not. The higher you rise, the more people will want to bring you back down. Women, unfortunately, have a way of doing it in a very hurtful way.
6. Focus on yourself
Some women never come to terms with the fact that someone may be doing better than them. They may never want to be happy for someone else doing something great with their life. That, however, has nothing to do with you. Your job is just to focus on being the best version of yourself that you can possibly be.
So, the next time someone like that enters your life, see it as an opportunity to practice what you know and to rise above what that person is trying to do—you never know what that person may be going through at that particular moment. It doesn’t make it right, but perhaps you were chosen to show her there’s more to life than just being a mean, spiteful vixen.