It seems as though anyone who travels to a foreign country while they’re single is just looking for that romantic connection with a foreigner.
They dream about their seductive accents and how incredibly good looking they’ll be but they never really think of falling in love with a foreigner realistically.
Because love can be kind of messy. After the honeymoon phase wears off, you’re faced with some harsh realities that you may not like dealing with.
If you suddenly realize you’re falling in love with a foreigner, here are a few things that’ll help you think about your relationships realistically.
1. Are you ready for the challenges of a possible long-distance relationship?
Let’s be real, long-distance relationships are not for the faint of heart. They challenge the two of you in more ways than you could possibly imagine if you’ve never been involved with one before.
If you’re falling in love with a foreigner who still lives in their home country, you may have to face the reality of a difficult road ahead.
Obviously, you can certainly make a long distance relationship work. Many people have before. But you need to have a strong, solid relationship in order to do so.
You’ll have to remember that, in order for a long-distance relationship to work, you’ll need to work really hard at it. Communication and very strong trust are essential and if you don’t have that already, you may want to think twice about letting yourself fall for them.
2. Do you both want to live in the same place?
If you met overseas or while they’re only visiting from their foreign country, you really have to think about where you’d live if you two stayed together for a long time.
You can date long-distance for a while but eventually, you’ll want to be together. This can cause a really big issue if you’re not thinking about it early on.
Maybe they think you’ll be willing to move there with them when really, you have no interest in doing so at all.
Being on the same page about where you both would like to potentially live is a huge deal if you really want to make a relationship with them work.
Falling in love with a foreigner means you need to think about the future of your relationship a lot more than if you fell in love with someone who lives where you do.
It might seem like you can just forget about it and “live in the now,” but the way you’re feeling now will have a big impact on your future.
3. Do you really care for them for more than their foreignness?
This might sound silly, but hear me out. You really need to think realistically about how you truly feel about that person.
It’s completely possible that you’re really falling in love with a foreigner but you may also only be falling in love with the idea of being in a relationship with a foreigner.
It’s exotic and erotic. It’s like your biggest fantasy coming true and that’s great! But it’s only a good thing if your feelings are true.
So do a little reality check. What do you know about them? Do you know about their values and their deep thoughts on life, love, and death? How about what they want to do in the future or their thoughts on kids and family?
If you don’t know these things and you think you’re falling in love with a foreigner, take a step back and reevaluate. You could just be in love with the fact that they’re foreign.
4. Do their culture and customs fit yours?
Obviously, you can easily learn more about their culture and adopt some of their customs but that’s not exactly what I mean.
What I mean is that some cultures have traditions and beliefs that can be very, very different from yours and the way you view life.
Do you know what theirs are? Are you okay with adopting their culture and potentially raising kids in it if the two of you end up together in the end?
Knowing how you feel about those things early on can help you make the best decision for you and your future family.
5. Are you willing to live away from your entire life?
You have your family, friends and a job where you live right now. Your entire life is where you live. Are you willing to give that up for someone else? If not, you may not actually be falling in love with a foreigner the way you think you are.
This is a great way to see if you’re truly falling for them or not. Sometimes you may think you’re in love but when push comes to shove, you’ll choose something else over them.
In order to think realistically about your relationship, you’ll have to think about every aspect of your life and if you’d be willing to drop it all for them or not. Because if you think about it, you may have to if you remain together.
6. Are you ready for the legalities if you get married?
Since you’re dating and falling in love with a foreigner, you can only assume the intent is to be married one day. If you can’t see that future, then you may want to rethink if being with them is even the right idea.
However, if you see yourself married to them eventually, you’ll need to really think about the legalities of it. Firstly, you’ll have to do some extra paperwork for the marriage and it could potentially be seen as a ruse for someone to gain citizenship.
Are you ready for those responsibilities and dealing with all that comes with marrying a foreigner? If you are, that’s great! Just remember that it’ll be a lot but if you’re truly falling in love with a foreigner, it won’t matter.
Falling in love with a foreigner can be an amazing thing if it’s true love. However, you do have to think about the real challenges you’ll face if your relationship progresses.
These ways to remain realistic while you’re with a foreigner can help put a few things into perspective.