If you have never dated a younger man, then you probably don’t understand why women would bother with the young and inexperienced.
After all, shouldn’t we be trying to date guys who already have a good job and are ready to settle down? The answer is a little more complicated than you might think.
I’ve dated both younger and older men, and I will be the first to tell you 10 reasons why younger guys are much better to be with.
#1 He is sexy
Unless you’re lucky enough to have George Clooney as your booty call (and I am not that lucky), the number one reason women date younger men is because they are sexy.
That’s right, I’d rather see a hot barely legal in a tight shirt (or no shirt) than some middle aged guy whose beers have caught up with him and the proof is in his belly.
Generally speaking, younger men are much more active than older men and the proof is in their pecs.
I have a friend who just graduated high school that came up to me and said “Hey, check it out, I’m getting bigger… have a feel!” as he flexed his chest at me. I’ll admit it. I copped a feel for as long as I could.
Ladies, if you’re into buff and bronze – younger guys have it going on.
#2 He doesn’t care where you work
I’ve had my share of bad dates, but for the most part, the worst of them were older men. Older men expect a lot from women.
When I say I’m a writer, younger guys usually just nod and say “cool” and leave it at that as visions of Keruac dance through their head (and I don’t have the heart to correct them). When I say I’m a writer to older men they ask me “Why, couldn’t you cut it in the real world?”
In other words, ladies, younger guys don’t care where you work. In fact, that is the last thing on his mind as you’re getting to know each other.
#3 He doesn’t expect you to bear his children
I am one of those women who are certain that a minivan and two point five kids are not for her. I want to travel, to eat pizza in Italy, to ride a camel to the pyramids, you get the picture.
Younger guys are completely okay to join you in your dreams of escape. Older guys are usually in a hurry to get married and have kids, or they at least have the rest of their lives planned out in a nice little timeline (your life included).
#4 He knows all the cool spots
If you’re a girl who has to be a part of the action, date a younger guy. This guy will take you to all the parties, he knows all the hippest hangouts and he will be the first to introduce you to the “in” crowd.
Younger guys are much cooler than we are, ladies, let’s face it. Dating a younger guy, therefore, automatically makes us cool by association. Their music is usually better, too.
#5 He will treat you like gold
I cannot stress this enough. If you happen to get the right younger guy (and I will talk about the wrong ones soon) he will treat you like gold. Younger men are still very emotionally attached to their moms.
While you might think this would cause a red flag, I can tell you that it actually means they have a lot of respect for older women and will treat you to little things like holding the door open and carrying your bags for you.
I dated this older guy who still lived at home with his mom (what can I say, ladies, bad judgment on my part) but he had no respect for women because he never had to do anything by himself.
I was horrified whenever we went out. I had to pay, he always walked in front of me, he didn’t care about my opinion…the list goes on.
Younger guys have just recently moved out of their family home and are in that “Now what?” stage of taking care of themselves. Because of this (doing their own laundry, cooking for themselves, etc.) these guys are going to really appreciate their mom and therefore will appreciate you as an older, distinguished woman.
#6 You are his arm candy
If you are a MILF or a cougar, then you already know what I’m talking about when I say this guy loves to show you off! An older guy just thinks of you as part of his plan.
Older guys have usually been married before or had their hearts broken before and don’t hold any woman in enough esteem to put them on a pedestal.
Younger guys, however, are still naïve to the world of women and you are the icing on his cake. Not only will he brag to his friends that he got a woman, but he got an OLDER woman (which means you know a lot more about sex than his friend's girlfriends).
My ex-boyfriend was twelve years younger than me and whenever we met any of his friends I will tell you that the girls were jealous and the guys always asked if he was with me (in case the answer was “no” so they could ask me out).
It’s a privilege for you to be on his arm and the younger man knows how lucky he is.
#7 The sex
Alright, let’s get to the important part, ladies. You and I both know that the reason we date younger men is for the sex.
Now, I will admit, older guys are smoother with the moves and they are often better at what they’re doing. An older man knows how to pleasure a woman because he’s experienced. It can be difficult to top that really.
But, younger men are better. Younger guys have three things going for them that older men just don’t: They’re curious, they have the stamina and they are grateful!
Curiosity is a huge part of good sex. I don’t care how good the guy is in bed, if we’re doing the same routine every night then I get bored. Older guys are set in their ways and that same old routine is almost a guarantee.
Younger guys also have a lot more stamina. Whenever my ex boy-toy (yes, he was just a plaything) got drunk, he could last for hours! It was pretty amazing.
Most importantly, younger men are grateful! These guys are so happy to be getting laid by a real woman that they will gladly be at your doorstep any time of the day or night to make sure you’re pleased enough to keep them around. Not only is this great sex, but it’s also a huge ego boost.
#8 He is open minded
The one thing I love most about younger men is that they are open minded. These guys remember what it’s like to live and they will remind you how to live.
They philosophize, they react to the world and they look at things from different angles, which is really a relief if you’re tired of dating the older guy who just wants to sit at home and watch the game (then talk about it after).
Younger men will give you a zest for life and learning.
#9 He won't boss you around
The biggest difference I see between older and younger men is that younger men will not boss you around. They will either consider you their equal or will think you are on a higher level than they are (which is usually the case).
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard older guys say stupid things to me like “wash your hands before you get in the car” or “Don’t wear that dress to dinner, try the other one instead”. I’ve even heard “really, don’t you think you should study something more useful in college?”
You see where this is going, right? Ladies, all I can say is that younger men do not say stupid things like this (they say other stupid things but that’s not the point).
Younger men know better than to tell you who to be (mostly because they haven’t figured out who they are yet).
#10 He's easier to deal with
Okay, I have this thing against whiny men in general. If I have more balls than you, we shouldn’t be dating. However, men of all ages say (and do) really stupid things sometimes.
It’s easier to deal with it from a twenty-something (it’s kind of expected at their age) than it ever is from a forty-something (really, he did that?!).
Trust me. Date that younger guy. You’ll thank me later.