Despite how fun being single looks in the movies, it’s not always the best time ever. Even though you enjoy time to yourself and watching the TV shows that you’re obsessed with and running your own schedule, you wish that you had someone to love.
It’s totally normal to feel this way and you don’t have to love being single. It doesn’t matter if your BFF is thrilled to be on her own or if your mom says that she’s so impressed with how independent you are. If you want to meet someone, you want to meet someone.
Instead of feeling bad about being single, it’s time to take action and do things that you will help you meet the guy that you are going to be crazy about.
When you’re single for too long, these five solutions will help you find love. And you’ll be so happy with your new guy, you won’t even remember the single life (or you will… but you’ll be too in love to want to dwell on it).
1.) Give yourself a year to find true love
What do you do when you have a goal or a dream? You write down a game plan and a series of steps to take to make that happen, right?
It might seem strange to do that when you want to meet someone, but it’s a good idea because you’ll feel clear and calm and organized in your quest to find true love. It’s better than being sad that you’re single and wondering why you’ve been single for too long (because you definitely think that too often).
When you’re single for too long, here’s one thing that you can do: give yourself a year to find true love. It’s enough time to not stress out about a bad date here and there. It’s also a realistic timeframe. Chances are, within a few months or even a few weeks, you could go on an amazing first date or meet a guy through friends or work who is absolutely perfect for you. It’s all about being open.
2.) Believe the cliché: you’ll meet him when you don’t think that you will
Sorry about this… but the cliché really is true. When you’re single, you have friends and family tell you that “you’ll meet the right guy when you don’t think that you will” or “when you’re not expecting it.” It’s tempting to roll your eyes when they give you this advice. It’s tempting to think that they’re wrong and just trying to be nice but, well, they’re just not helping.
Why not believe them? You definitely know couples who met when they thought that they would never find anyone who was perfect for them. They were expecting to be single much longer than they ended up being. It worked for them and it can work for you.
Cliches can be really comforting, particularly when you’re going through a hard time. A cliché is a reminder that things do work out and that everything is going to be okay, and that’s important for you to remember right now.
3.) Listen to your friends and family because they just might know what’s good for you
Being a single girl means getting advice from friends, family, and even strangers. Everywhere you turn, from websites to magazines to even love songs and movies and novels, you’re getting some kind of advice about meeting the one and finding love.
It can be exhausting and even frustrating. You can wish that everyone would just stop talking to you about the fact that you’re single. But then you might not get the advice that you really need to hear.
When you’ve been single for too long, it’s possible that your friends and family have some advice that will help you find the guy that you’ve been trying to meet. Maybe your best friend was single for ten years before getting married, or maybe your entire friend group is still single but feels optimistic about meeting someone soon.
Ask the people that you love for advice and what you should do with your dating life. You might not want to and you might want to focus on other things, but if you’re serious about finding love, there’s no reason why you can’t focus on it.
4.) Try every option that you have available to you (yes, even things you don’t want to do)
Online dating, dating apps, speed dating, getting set up by friends, asking out guys in bars and coffee shops and gyms, asking relatives if they know any single men… There is an exhausting list of ways to meet people these days, and yet many women are still single for too long.
The truth is that when you’ve been single for too long and want to find love, you really do have to try every option that you have available to you. No, this isn’t fun. Sure, you want to stay home and do anything except go on more dates. You’ve been on so many dates if you’re single and trying to meet a guy, and why do you need to go on even more?
Well, because it’s the way to find love. You really do have to keep trying because it’s true what they say: the next date you go on could lead to true love. Do you want to miss out because you stayed home? Definitely not.
5.) Only date guys who are definitely your type
Some people believe that you need to say yes to every guy who asks you out and go on every second date. They believe that even if you don’t think that you like the person or feel something for them, you should still give it a try. Along the same lines of this advice is the belief that you should date guys who aren’t your type because “you never know.”
It’s a good idea to only date guys who are definitely your type. This might be contrary to popular belief but it’s still the truth. This way, you are upping your chances of actually falling for the guy that you’re dating. If you already know that you’re not attracted to someone or that you don’t really agree with their career (or maybe their lack of one), you’re not going to change your mind later on.
And it’s okay to admit that. It’s okay to have an idea of the kind of person that you want to be with. That way, when you do meet him, you will know with 100 percent confidence that, yup, this is your guy.
When you’re single for too long, it’s easy to throw in the towel and declare love just not something that is in the cards for you. That would be a shame, though, since you’re absolutely girlfriend (and wife) material.
Instead of wondering why you’re still without a boyfriend, do these five things and do everything that you can to find love. Before long, you’ll be coupled up and happy. While you won’t know how you got through the tough times of being single, you’ll be so glad that they’re in the past, and you’ll look forward to the future with your one true love.