You’ve been together for a while, getting along just fine, no major issues; “steady as she goes”… but things are turning a bit dull in the bedroom. You’re having sex less and less, the sparks are gone, and it’s just business – when you get the time! Instead of panicking – let’s see what YOU can do to make things better between the sheets. How to Turn on Your Boyfriend and save your sex life – now!
The idea is to seduce your man and spice up your sex life. To do so, you won’t need PhD in stunts or a Porn Oscar. There are a few simple tricks that are sure to turn on every man and show him that you’re serious fire hazard in bed.
Every guy, no matter how dominant between the sheets, sometimes likes to take his Napoleon’s hat off and let you take the initiative. The best way to approach him is predator-like, when he least expects – while watching TV, or when he is shaving or while he’s making an endless phone conversation. You’ll be delighted to see how much he likes your free spirit.
Be dominant. It is not enough to show that you’re in the mood for sex, you must take control and show him what you imagined when you initiated the act. Act with confidence and use imagination; act out your hidden fantasy and enjoy his reaction, as I’m sure he’ll be more than pleased to see you in a different light.
Take it as a definition and never question it. This does not mean you should perform striptease every day, dress up like his favorite Disney princess and engage in a role-play to prevent predictability, but to not implement certain innovations once in a while is erotic suicide. Many couples do not bother to try more than three or four positions which misleads women into thinking that there is no need to change something that works. Error! If you’re not big on ideas – the Internet is full of information! Find new and interesting positions that will appeal to both of you. Use the tricks wisely; you don’t want him to grow accustomed to bondage, do you?
Talk to your partner about sex, learn about his needs and feelings. Play with words, be ambiguous. See where he stands on romance, passion, fantasies, if you were on a honeymoon – remind him of it. Turn off the damn TV and his computer, whisper dirty things on the pillow instead. Avoid the daily routine.
While he’s at work, send him a dirty text message. “Threaten” him with something exciting or remind him of something you did the last time you had sex that blew his mind. Make it something playful, exciting, something that provides both physical and mental connection. He’ll get positively confused and super-horny. I guarantee results.
Your bed is not the only place to make love. Get out of the house, go somewhere exciting and strip. Forget about your daily responsibilities and concentrate on your and your partner’s pleasure. Comfortable bed is good for making love but it’s also associated with sleeping. Brake out of the routine; attack the kitchen isle (or a balcony if the night is warm). Beds are overrated.
Sometimes, gentle, ambient music will put you in a mood, accompanied with candle light and a romantic dinner. Other times, something completely different, like techno or RnB, will do the trick. If you have nasty neighbors, buy two pairs of head phones and listen to selected music together. The feeling that you are sharing something beautiful that no one else can hear can be exciting. Sit back comfortably in bed, cuddle and let emotions overwhelm you.
Remembering hot and sweaty nights when you used to share more than physical pleasure doesn’t have to be only a fantasy. Break the habit, change the routine and remember what brought you together in the first place. It’s all magic, let it flow.
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