9 Tips On How To Fake Confidence Until You Really Feel It

Confidence is an attractive quality, but not one that comes naturally to everyone. If you were wondering how to fake confidence until it becomes more natural, here's the answer.

Being self-confident can help you achieve your goals and get the life you’ve always wanted. After all, confidence is half the battle.

But, when you’re shy and have a hard time feeling over the moon about yourself, it can be hard to accomplish certain things.

There are secret tips on how to fake confidence, though, and these tips will help you not only to appear more confident, they will also help you to gain it along the way.

1. Take care of yourself

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First things first, you have to take care of your body and your mind. Exercise and proper eating aren’t just for a good figure after all.

Nutritious food is a must because your body requires certain nutrients to be at its peak while exercise is necessary for overall physical and mental well-being.

When you take care of yourself through a healthy diet and regular exercise, it will make you feel better about yourself because you are respecting your body.

2. Dress for the job you want

This saying is spot on because when you dress for success, you feel much more inclined to shoot for the stars. If you sit around in track pants every day, although more comfortable than anything else, it will make you feel sluggish and lazy.

And, when you feel sluggish and lazy, you don’t feel confident.

3. Eyes ahead

When you are on the move, your eyes should always be looking ahead. It may seem hard to do because looking down has become a habit, but when you have your eyes up, you appear sure of yourself and stand taller than if you’re slouched and staring at the ground.

This will exude a sense of confidence that you may not feel at that moment.

4. Always make eye contact

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No matter to whom you’re talking, it’s important to maintain eye contact during conversation. Looking down or away while speaking to someone can give off the vibe that you are unsure of your words or, worse, lying!

When you lock eyes in a conversation, this will make you appear certain of your words and more confident than you actually are. If you find it hard to make eye contact because of your shy persona, the best thing to do is force yourself to do it.

The more you do it the easier it will be.

5. Adopt a firm handshake

A firm handshake is one of the best tools to exude confidence in a first meeting with someone. You don’t have to squeeze their hand profusely, but a nice light grip will give the other person the idea that you are a strong and self-assured person.

6. Speak with confidence

A person with confidence always asserts a sense of self-assurance through their words. When you speak with a sense of self-assurance, you give the illusion that what you have to say matters.

Do this until you too believe that it does.

7. Become more assertive

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People with high self-esteem are not afraid to stand up for themselves or to speak their minds. If you don’t like how something is going, speak up. If you think something can be done a better way, share your ideas.

Don’t be afraid to assert yourself when necessary.

8. Accept criticism with a grain of salt

Not every piece of negative feedback is going to be constructive, and that’s okay. The important thing is to remember that if someone is trying to tear you down without warrant, there is something wrong with them, not you.

And, when that does happen, you have to shrug it off and not let it chip away at the confidence you have gained. Learn the difference between the two and act accordingly.

When the criticism is constructive, take the advice and actively apply it. This, too, will up your confidence because it will allow you to become a better version of the already amazing you.

9. Learn to love yourself one day at a time

After using all these tips and tricks, maybe not all at once, you will learn that you are important and, when you realize that, you will become more confident naturally. In order to be sure of yourself, you first have to love and respect yourself.

If you have a hard time doing so, practice positive self-talk every day by talking yourself up the way you would a best friend.

If you can utilize even a few of these tips in your day-to-day life your confidence will rise until eventually you will be a more self-assured person altogether. What do you do to fake confidence when you’re not feeling it?

About the author

Angie B.

Angie B. is an avid book reader and dabbler in all things creative. Words are her paramours and she lives to love. Her friends call her their personal therapist and she loves giving advice on relationships, style choices and everything in between.

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