There are so many different ways to let the guy you like know it. How you should tell him depends on a lot of different things.
In this article, I’ll try to give you the best male advice that I can to make sure that you don’t come across as desperate and that the message isn’t too direct, but is just obvious enough for him to understand.
How well do you already know each other?
Essential to letting him know you’re really interested is understanding how comfortable he already feels with you. If you barely know him at all, there are plenty of relatively easy ways to subtly let him know.
If subtly doesn’t quite do it, you could also be direct and if he isn’t interested, there’s nothing lost. If you’ve known him for many years, a very subtle approach is recommended.
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This is a very risky thing to do if you truly value his friendship. Things happen and people can’t help the way they feel, but it’s also possible that your romantic feelings will wither over time if you choose to hold back for the sake of saving the friendship.
Speaking from my own personal experience, I have yet to have a friendship with a girl that didn’t result in one person liking the other at some point in the relationship, or things sparking up mutually, even if only briefly.
These sexual or romantic flare ups have the potential to make the friendship awkward and ruin it altogether. Over time, I’ve been able to salvage certain friendships, but the vast majority have followed the same pattern of just becoming awkward and eventually ending after things turned sexual or romantic.
If you’re certain that you want this with him, then try to figure out if he already notices the change in the way you look at him or the way you behave around him. In other words, if you guys are really close already or happen to spend a lot of time in each other’s presence, he might already know what you want.
The question is, will he make a move or not, and if so, when? If he is planning on it, it might take a rather long time for him to decide and accept that he really wants that kind of relationship with you too. Even if he is really into you too, he might feel pretty weird about it still, so just be patient.
If you want to make a move yourself, start flirting with him when you hang out, even if other people are there. However you might like to do that is fine as long as you do it enough for him to get the picture.
Since you’ve known him for a while already, don’t be shy. Jumping on his back or anything involving a lot of physical touching is fine.
If he reacts by looking a bit weirded out by the flirting, don’t worry. He might need some time to think about it. If you make a direct move, it’s almost like giving him an ultimatum.
If he has any sort of experience in this situation, then he’ll know that the casual friendship between you two is no longer casual whether he wants to act on that or not. The knowledge of that might give him some incentive and speed up his decision making.
How to tell your crush you like him when you don’t know him well
If you are familiar with each other but maybe have never hung out or even texted before, contacting him through social media is a great way to show strong interest. In person, strong eye contact should be enough to let him know that you like him, if you can gain his attention.
A good way to get him to notice you and make the message clear is to comment on and like his pics. If you’ve done this already and he hasn’t contacted you, you can message him directly.
It’s probably best to come up with a question for him related to school, work, travel, or something that would otherwise warrant a PM. After he answers your question or if he’s really slow to respond, you can send him another message to start a normal conversation.
You messaging him first is already a pretty strong signal, but you could always bring the conversation around to whether he’s still dating so and so and what happened or something like that. That’s guaranteed to let him know you’re interested in being with him unless he’s totally oblivious.
If he doesn’t react to this, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he isn’t interested. You might need to wait until the next time you see him in person to really win his attention.
The fact that you’re that interested in him already has him curious about you. The next time you meet will be a great opportunity for you to get closer to him. If he acts shy or looks busy, don’t be afraid to call out his name to get him to come talk to you.
If you have no idea when or where you’ll see him again, you can start asking him about his plans for the weekend and stuff like that. Asking him if he wants to hang out is obviously very direct, so it’s up to you whether or not you feel comfortable with that.
Ideally, he’ll have caught on by then and will ask you at a time when he doesn’t have plans. If he keeps texting you back throughout all of this, that’s a great sign.
How to tell your crush you like him when he has no idea who you are
You’ll can do pretty much the same process described above once he becomes familiar with you, but until then, you need to find a way to let him know who you are. Once again, social media is an excellent way to establish contact with him.
Follow him on Instagram, add him on Facebook or Snapchat, or all three. He’ll look through your profile and gain some kind of familiarity with you. Once that happens, you can message him and initiate a conversation.
How to tell your crush you like him, flat out
If your goal is to actually have a sit-down talk with him and verbally tell him how you feel, I don’t recommend it. Putting him on the spot forces him to give you some form of an answer right away.
If he’s not sure yet, it could be no. On the upside, it could be yes, but if he really isn’t ready and isn’t sure, he almost surely won’t go full force with it and you could end up feeling disappointed by him being so unsure. Manage your expectations and most of all be patient.
If you absolutely must say it to him directly and won’t be swayed not to but aren’t sure how to word it, just say it straight up, “I like you.” That is all you will need to say.
Wait for the right moment, or at least a comfortable moment in between conversation and then just let it out. Saying more than that is unnecessary unless he starts talking about it too.
However you decide to tell your crush the way you feel, whether directly or indirectly, just remember to be yourself. I’m sure you’ve heard that before, but there’s a good reason you’ve heard it so many times.
If he doesn’t reciprocate your romantic interest, don’t despair. You’ll have plenty of time and opportunities to change his mind. If it’s meant to be then eventually he’ll give you a chance.