When you start dating a new guy, there’s really nothing that is more thrilling. You can’t stop thinking about him, you feel like you’re on cloud nine, and honestly, nothing can get you down. You don’t care if it’s pouring rain all week or you just spilled coffee on yourself for the second time today – you’re dating the guy of your dreams and life is really, really good.
After a certain point (maybe a few weeks, maybe a few months – it definitely depends on you and your comfort level), your new guy is going to invite you over for a sleepover. Of course, you’re excited and can’t wait, but you’re also pretty nervous, right? That’s super common and makes a lot of sense.
Here are 5 tips to ace your first sleepover date. With these things in mind, you won’t have to worry about anything and can relax and enjoy the evening.
1.) Pack PJ’s that make you feel comfortable and confident
You might be wondering what kind of pajamas you should be packing because anytime a character sleeps over at a guy’s house in the movies, she’s either wearing nothing at all, an oversized shirt that belongs to him, or some lingerie. That might not be what you’re comfortable with and you might want to actually wear something that you feel good in.
The most important thing to remember when you want to ace your first sleepover date? That you should be both confident and also feel secure.
Maybe you feel the best in a cute pair of leggings and a t-shirt or tank top. Or maybe you go all out and wear a pretty pajama set on a regular basis. Whatever you want to wear is what you should pack in your overnight bag. After all, this guy likes you for you, and he’ll love your pajamas, too. (And it’ll be fun to see what he wears to sleep in, too.)
2.) Calm your nerves by remembering why you’re sleeping over (aka you really, really like this guy)
It’s possible that by the time that your guy asks you for your first sleepover date, you two have already had “the relationship talk” and have decided that you’ll be boyfriend and girlfriend. If that’s the case, then congrats. That’s definitely exciting (and it’s even more so if you had a rough time dating before meeting him). It’s also possible that you haven’t had that discussion yet and that your first sleepover date is kind of a test run for whether you two are truly compatible.
No matter what your relationship status, you might be feeling pretty nervous about your first sleepover date. That’s normal (and it might be strange if you weren’t feeling that way). You don’t have to worry, though. You can calm your nerves by remembering why you’re sleeping over: you really like this guy and want to pursue things with him.
You wouldn’t have gotten to this point if he wasn’t interested. That’s a good thing to remember as well when your nerves are getting you down.
3.) Don’t feel pressured to do anything
Your first sleepover date with the guy that you’ve been seeing for a little while doesn’t always involve a lot of sleep. Of course, you know what a sleepover can mean, and it’s a lot different from the ones when were you a kid and a teenager (those were full of junk food and horror movies that you were probably too young to be watching).
That being said, you don’t need to feel pressured to do anything on your first sleepover date. If you’re ready to take things to the next level with this guy, then go ahead. If you’re not, that’s okay, too, and if he really cares about you, then he won’t mind. He just wants to spend time with you and get to know you better. If he’s a quality person, that’s all that he was thinking about when he invited you to stay over.
You also don’t need to feel any pressure from your friends when you tell them that you’re sleeping over at his place. They might say what you can expect or what happened when they slept over at their boyfriend’s apartment for the first time. But they’re them and you’re you. Listen to your gut and only do what you feel comfortable with.
4.) Just be yourself
Sure, your first sleepover date is nerve-racking and brings up a lot of different emotions. You’re happy, you’re excited, you’re wondering how it’s going to go, and you’re concerned that you’re going to mess things up.
But how would you mess things up? This guy likes you and you’re embarking on a relationship together (or are at least getting close to that stage if you haven’t made things official yet) so there’s really nothing that you could do to scare him away.
Just be yourself and everything will be good. Chances are, your guy is nervous, too, and he’s also wondering how the night is going to go. You are both most likely worried about the same things, from whether you’re going to ramble on about a topic that doesn’t matter and embarrass yourself, or how you should act when you see each other the next morning when you wake up.
Since you both like each other, you both want the evening to be a success. And it will be… as long as you’re committed to just smiling, letting go of your nerves and worries, and having a good time. Your peaceful nature will ease his nerves, too, and allow him to be himself as well.
5.) Suggest going out for breakfast the next day
When it comes to your first sleepover date, there’s one main worry on your mind: what happens the next morning when you two wake up.
How do you handle this? Do you sneak out of bed and take a shower so your hair and makeup looks good and so he doesn’t see you in all your messy haired glory? No, wait, that would be weird, right? Why would you take a shower before he’s even awake? Hmmm…
Instead of worrying about all the “what if’s” that could pop into your head as soon as you wake up the next day, why not suggest to your guy that you two go out for breakfast?
This solves a few issues. It gives you something to do instead of wondering how long you should stick around and if he’s expecting you to leave shortly after you wake up. It takes the pressure off him because maybe he thought that you expected him to make you breakfast. And it proves that you two want to keep spending time together, which is the course point of this whole thing.
Your first sleepover date might make you a pile of nerves as soon as you get the invitation, but it doesn’t have to be a disaster. In fact, it’s easy to make sure that it’s a success and that you two can continue your awesome new relationship.
If you follow these 5 easy tips, you’ll both have a great time. And there’s no reason why there won’t be more sleepover dates in the future… and who knows? You two might even have such an amazing time that it’s not that long before you move in together and have sleepovers 24/7.