There’s no uniform approach to this topic. Many women will wonder why men fall asleep right after sex, while some will get upset if the cuddling part doesn’t happen. The answer to the question whether they like to cuddle after sex or not is based on some scientific facts, but also on the interpretation of their feelings for the woman with whom they are sharing intimacy. Bottom line, the right answer would probably be: Much like us women, men do like to cuddle sometimes, and when they don’t feel like it, you shouldn’t take it personally.
Why Is He Out for the Count Right After?
You, full of passion and ready for some pillow talk and tenderness, him, already sound asleep. Does this sound familiar? This is, in fact, such a common scenario, that two American authors even wrote a book about it. Why does he fall asleep after sex?
The scientific explanation is that during sex a chemical called oxytocin is released from the brain that gives a sense of relaxation and is linked to sleep. Moreover, some scientists claim that after an orgasm, a man’s brain releases a cocktail of different chemicals that together lead to such a strong sense of exhaustion, and even muscle depletion, that he definitely needs time to recover. He often dehydrates in the process so this is why you’ll catch him drinking large amounts of water right after.
Unfortunately, there’s a scientific explanation for this kind of behavior, so there’s no cure. No one can pinpoint the exact cause, but many women are able to observe the strong correlation between sex and snoring regardless of the nature of their relationship with their partner. Men are usually more active during the intercourse, and they take the lead most of the time, and put a lot more effort into the whole thing, so it’s understandable that they need time to get back on track. As long as he doesn’t fall asleep during sex, you should consider yourself lucky. However, the question remains: are they into cuddling after sex or not?
Oxytocin Is Also a So-called “Cuddle Hormone”
Apart from being considered a stress reliever, oxytocin is also linked to pair bonding. Apparently, this chemical boosts a man’s desire for intimacy, which ultimately leads to some after-sex cuddling. This hormone is also responsible for the bonding that is created between a mother and a child.
So, the same thing that turns them into sound asleep, snoring, and uninterested individuals can also turn them into passionate and considerate lovers. Apparently, they do like to cuddle, but they just seem not to have the energy for it.
In spite of all the exhaustion caused by having sex and orgasms, some guys still manage to cuddle afterwards. And the answer to the question why this is the case, probably lies in our final remark.
Guys often say that they like cuddling after sex with women they really like, because they want to spend as much time as possible with them. Still, even recently married women, and women in committed relationships notice that post- coitus affection is something they don’t experience often.
More experienced lovers know that sharing intimacy after sex is what they are supposed to do. Cuddling after sex does not mean that she will fall in love with him, it’s simply bedroom etiquette. Sex should be a pleasurable activity, and a true lover knows that a woman will remember him not only for his ability in bed, but also for his manners.
Do you cuddle with your guy after sex? Share your own tips and experiences. How do you get him to cuddle more often and be more romantic?