There is this great book for women which tells us how to make a man fall in love and all we need to know in order to start getting inside the minds of men. Now, I’ll admit, some of the things, in my opinion, are a bit outdated, but for the most part, this little book has hit it right on the mark.
Men are complex creatures.
If you want to get a man to fall madly in love with you, then you need to understand how men think. They are, by nature, commitment phobes, and they are also, by nature, the ones who want to do the chasing. Remembering this is going to really help you out.
But if you want to get your guy to fall in love with you, this book sums it up to these key steps.
1. Don’t make it all about sex
One of the most important things to remember is that you and your guy cannot build a relationship based on sex. If you do that, he’ll have a hard time committing to you, because you’re already giving him everything and more. Make sure you go out, have long walks and talks, spend quality time together, and do more than just have food and have fun. Don’t give the milk away for free, ladies.
2. Let him chase you
Guys want to chase you, it’s what they love, it’s in their DNA! Don’t be available for his every little whim and don’t smother him with your cute texts or girlish praise. Let him wonder what you’re thinking and let him chase you. Men appreciate what they have to work for.
3. Give him his guy time
One mistake many women make in a relationship is not letting a man have his breathing room. He has to be a guy, and he has to have his guy time. Just like you have to have your girl time. Let your man hang out with his friends, and most importantly, be cool about it!
Imagine what a great girlfriend you are by not throwing a tantrum about his Saturday afternoon basketball routine.
4. Be interesting and interested
Men like women who are interesting, who have their own thoughts and opinions. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist, but you’ve got to be able to hold a conversation.
Also, if you want a man to stay interested in you and fall in love with you, you have to be interested in what he has to say! Ask him intelligent questions, pay attention to what he tells you, and make sure he knows you’re listening. Men need to know they’re being heard.
5. Look your best for him
While the book says to always look your best for him, I can’t say that I’m in full agreement with that. There are times he needs to see you at your worst, so you know if he can handle your worst. However, in the beginning stages of the relationship, it is important that you look good for him.
Make sure to keep your hair clean and combed, wear some make-up (even a little gloss and mascara will do), and spray on a touch of perfume. Your outside appearance is the first thing he’s going to notice about you. Keep yourself cute until later in the relationship.
6. Don’t get “comfortable”
Do not make the mistake of assuming he’s ready to commit. Don’t get into a sex routine. Don’t introduce him to all of your friends and family at once. In other words, never assume you’re in a relationship until he’s made it clear you’re in one.
Ease into the family thing, avoid daily routine, and especially don’t fall into a sexual routine or a rut. Don’t get comfortable in your relationship and he’ll stay interested.
7. Don’t overwhelm him with girl stuff
Finally, don’t overwhelm him with girl stuff. If you live in a house that looks like it was decorated by the sugar plum fairies, then you need to redo your deco. Guys need…well…guy stuff. Give him some average looking décor, maybe even a little bit of football or baseball memorabilia. Don’t overwhelm your man with your feminine décor or he’ll try to get as far away from it as possible (meaning less time he’s in your company).
It’s important to know that a man will fall in love with you for being you. You can’t play hard to get, even though you do want to give him a little bit of a chase. You can’t be sharp and rude, instead be light and charming.
One thing to remember too is not to really nag him too much. I don’t recommend gently showing your disapproval as if he were a small child, but definitely don’t go overboard in the nagging department. You’re not his mom.
Also, when you see that he did something without you asking him to (like take out the trash or put the toilet seat down) praise him for his efforts. Praising him lets him know that you’re paying attention to him.
When you want a man to fall in love with you, you want him to fall in love with you, not some idea of who you should be. Be yourself. However, these seven tips will help you keep your man and make him really fall for you during the early stages of your relationship.
The chase is important. Looking good for him is important. Giving him his space and breathing room is important. Being nice, however, is most important. Learn these seven tricks and your man will soon be eating out of the palm of your hand. You’ll be unlike any woman he’s ever dated, and he won’t be able to let you go. What are you waiting for?
If you want to find out more, you can download the book What Men Think- 7 Steps to Getting Inside the Mind of Men for free, and become an expert when it comes to successful relationships.