What’s a sure way to tell if a guy likes you or not? You definitely like him, but figuring out whether this guy likes you or not is just driving you insane. You want to be 100% sure that this guy likes you, before you “make a move” so that you don’t make a fool out of yourself. That’s natural. Guys do that too.
I’ll tell you what most guys do when they like a girl, even if they want to hide that they like you or want to appear “cool” so that they don’t blow their cover – you can still look for certain signals that will give them away.
There are many subconscious things guys do that are almost impossible to hide; it’s a natural thing they do when they feel attraction for a woman.
Apart from some obvious signs that definitely mean he likes you, in the super-long list below, you’ll also find some less obvious signs that will reveal his real desires that he’s trying to hide, not just from you, but maybe from himself as well!
With no further ado, here’s how to tell if a guy likes you:
Okay, it can’t be more obvious than that. A guy that tells you “I like you” probably isn’t lying. The next question is, in what way does he “like you” – he wants to hook up and be together, or just have sex, or he just likes you in a “I feel sorry for you” way, and he thinks you’re cool, but he’d never be with you.
Try to tune into the tone of his voice when he says this, you’ll know which type of “I like you” it was immediately, just look at him! Either way, it doesn’t get more obvious than this!
He’s obviously trying to keep the conversation going with you. He’s trying to get somewhere. So he keeps asking, and asking, some seemingly irrelevant questions, just to keep things going.
Maybe you’re at a club, or at some house party, or you just ran into him in the street. Some questions are just asked out of politeness, but as soon as you notice that it’s not something that he’s asking just out of a necessity, it’s probably because he likes you. Now, just because he asked you “where are you from?” it doesn’t mean he likes you. Use common sense. Maybe he’s just making small talk and being nice.
It also depends where he asks you and what, but the point is – if he’s trying to have a conversation with you, and you just met, he probably likes you. Small talk by itself is not a big enough sign, still – it’s a plus. When a guy doesn’t like you, he simply won’t put in the effort unless he has something to gain out of it (like at work, or he wants you to help with his grades or an exam.)
The fact that he’s talking to you when there’s no need to do so (because of work or something), is a good sign in itself. If he asks you questions and tries to dig deeper and find out more about you, that’s a good sign.
Part of the reason he’s asking questions is to get a piece of information about you that he can use to “hook” you. If you say you like something and he goes on and on about how he likes the same music, movie, or whatever thing too – he’s (maybe subconsciously) trying to see if the two of you are a good fit and have common interests. A guy that likes you usually won’t get into an argument or disagree with you, on the contrary, he’ll be agreeable and try to be likeable.
If your conversation has a lot of “Me too’s!” – that’s a good sign that you might be compatible.
When you talk to him, he leans in. Even if he can hear you perfectly well. You might be at a bar or a club with music, so he has to lean in to hear you, but still – a guy that doesn’t like you won’t break his neck just to talk to you. Look at the amount of effort he puts into having a conversation with you. That’s an easy way to tell if a guy likes you.
Look at his body language and see how much effort he puts into the conversation, how much attention is he giving you with his body. A regular, normal guy that isn’t trying to “act cool” will usually lean in or be closer to you than usual, while a guy that’s a “player” and acting cool might lean back and act as if he’s not that interested in you. Still this guy might like you as well. Just because a guy acts as if he’s not interested in you doesn’t mean that’s how he truly feels. (more on this later).
Okay, again, an obvious one. If he’s hitting on you, he obviously likes you. Or he likes your girlfriend! He’s just using you as a strategy to get closer to her and break the ice. Who knows? Either way, a guy that comes up to you in a bar, club, cafe, bookshop etc. obviously finds you cute. If he approaches you and starts a conversation (and this is a guy you don’t know), he obviously wants to hit on you. If he comes up to you at work or college and the conversation is something random, this could also be a sign (why didn’t he go talk to someone else?), but if he comes up to you in a club and you don’t even know the guy, then that’s something else.
Hang out with him when he’s with friends. Then look at him from a slight distance when he’s just with his friends. Does he behave a bit different when you are around, or is he 100% the same when you’re not?
Sure, guys and girls are different when they’re just among close friends, or just guys or just girls, but still – he might be quieter when you’re around, or more talkative, nervous, shy, or he’ll try to act cooler, or be funnier to impress you.
Either way – if he’s not 100% natural, he might like you, and that’s why he’s trying to impress you with something.
This is usually the case with younger, less experienced guys, but in general, it’s normal “mating” behavior. Observe him and you’ll figure him out.
Some guys use the “act like you don’t give a damn” strategy.
They know all the other guys around you are hitting on you, and you’re just turning them away, so “why be another chimp?” is their way of thinking.
He’ll talk to you later, when you’re alone. He probably likes you, but doesn’t have the courage to come up to you, when you’re surrounded by a bunch of bodyguards (read: girlfriends) or other guys that are trying hard to seduce you.
He needs you to give him a sign (just look!) that you’re open to talking to him. Hint it! He can’t read your mind.
Anyway, often, when a guy is kind of ignoring you, it’s because he’s either not interested, or he’s really interested, but he knows that when he acts cool and cold, you’ll be wondering how come he’s the only guy around, that didn’t notice you. It’s a trick as old as fire. Look at it this way, if this guy is giving his best to ignore you – he likes you.
Think about it like this, when a guy isn’t interested in you, he can still be normal towards you and have regular small talk (depending on the situation), but he (usually) won’t have a reason to IGNORE you. A guy that likes you will either by shy and nice, or he’ll ignore you and show confusing signals. Guys show mixed signals when they’re trying to hide that they like you. Because they’re not that good at hiding it, they’ll often do something that clearly indicates they like you, but then they’ll “sober up” and start ignoring you or be mean to you for no reason. The point is – look for any abnormality. Anything out of the ordinary is usually a good sign.
Even being cold towards you is an emotional sign. When the guy is totally neutral – not cold, but not nice either – that’s usually when a guy has no particular interest in you. Just look for anything out of the ordinary…
This one is quite tricky actually, because when a guy is ignoring you – it’s either a strategy to get you interested, or he doesn’t like you at all, or… he does like you – but he thinks he can’t do much about it. That’s where a guide like Mirabelle’s Wrap Him Around Your Finger is great at helping you identify how he really feels about you, despite him trying hard to hide his real feelings. Men can even lie to themselves about how they feel about you. Simply many men are so afraid of rejection that they’d rather not even try.
Mirabelle’s classic Wrap Him Around Your Finger is also perfect for interpreting which way a conversation is going and then directing it to open him up and getting him to like you instantly, even if he first didn’t think you’re his type.
He wants to have a good view of you. He doesn’t want to make it obvious that he likes you, but his body is giving him away.
You can tell if a guy likes you or not by looking at his body language when he’s around you. Does he push his chest out a bit, does he try to look more macho, are his feet pointing toward you? Some guys try to hide interest; others openly look you up and down and lick their lips. Pick up on these signs. It really depends on how confident the guy is. A guy that really likes you might just be really open about it and tell you “wow, you look amazing” – but he knows he can get away with it because he can read that you might also be into him.
The problem is that most guys don’t want to “lose face” and get rejected, so they play it safe. Especially in situations that can have social consequences – like at work, or school/college, or if he’s a family friend – if he messes up, he might still be running into you. He doesn’t want to make a risk without knowing that you also like him back. Either way, look at his body language. Does he listen with his body when you speak?
In some cultures, it’s normal that guys get you a drink and it’s not a big deal. If you’re with a group of friends and he buys a round, no big deal – he doesn’t expect you to have sex with him because of it, obviously. But then again, if it’s just the two of you and he insists on paying, either he’s just a gentleman in general, or he likes you.
Look at it like this – does he buy his friends a drink?
If he does, then he might just consider you a friend too, it doesn’t mean he likes you or wants to be with you, he’s just a generous guy in general. But if he’s stingy around his friends and only pays for his own stuff, and then he buys You a drink, then he definitely likes you. Plus he’s stingy. Maybe not the kind of guy you want to be with.
Either way, a guy that’s insisting on paying for anything (if you share a cab and he doesn’t want to split the bill) or you go for a coffee break at the office and he insists “don’t worry about it, it’s on me” – those are all good signs. It’s not really a sign of showing off, “it’s just a coffee” after all, but still, the little things add up. Chivalry’s not dead.
Now, it might be that he’s just being nice – but those Frappucinos add up, and there’s no such thing as a free lunch. Does he treat other coworkers with coffee as well every time? It really depends on the venue, if you’re at a bar and he buys drinks and tries to get you drunk – that’s a sign he likes you and wants you to loosen up.
Okay, one more obvious sign that a guy likes you.
A guy asks you for your number = he likes you. Period.
The only time a guy asks you for your number, and doesn’t like you, is if he needs your info for some really obvious reason like… you can get him in touch with some other important person, or you can help him out with something, you know what I mean. Use logic. Go with your guts.
If he makes up some relatively dumb reason to ask for your number, you know he just wants to have a way to keep in touch with you, ask you out on a date etc. Now this also depends on the situation… if you’re at a bar and he asks for your number, that’s an obvious sign. But if you work or study together, or if you just see this guy every now and then, and he asks for your number, that’s a good sign. The problem is, shy guys that like you might not want to be too obvious about the number – because they assume that if they ask for your number, you’ll assume they like you. So they have to come up with some good excuse. If you want to find out if he likes you, make up the excuse yourself. Throw in a bait and see if he bites.
Come up with something that is a really good excuse for him to ask for your number. Some event or something. He might have been waiting for the perfect opportunity. Say something obvious so he knows he won’t be rejected if he asks, throw in the bait and then wait if he gets the message and asks for your number.
Guys don’t send Friend requests to chicks they don’t like. It’s that simple. Maybe, in some cases, you got to know each other via mutual friends, and it’s cool to stay in touch in some way, it doesn’t necessarily mean he “likes-likes” you, he just thinks you’re cool and that’s it.
Now, if he sends you a message, pokes you, or likes your pictures, these are more obvious signs that a guy likes you. Look for more clues. Dig deeper.
Twitter, G+ and Facebook are okay signs, it’s a plus if he adds you there. Again, it depends on the network you share. If you work together, he’ll probably add you on Facebook, but if you just kind of know each other and have a few mutual friends – and he sends you a request, that’s a much bigger sign.
The best is if he starts following you on Instagram. Instagram is basically the best thing for stalking. He wants to check your pictures. If he sends you a request and keeps liking your stuff every now and then, that’s just an even bigger sign he likes you.
Okay, no point in explaining anything here. Even if he was really, really, drunk – he still tried to kiss you. No matter how much alcohol he drinks, a guy rarely goes for the kiss if he doesn’t like you when he’s sober too. I don’t know why some women question whether he likes you or not if he tried to kiss you. He obviously does! The question is – does he just want to hook up or is he interested in dating you? A good way to know is to look at his ex girlfriends, can you relate to them?
He knows where your eyes are. But your boobs are like a magnet and he just has a hard time to control himself.
Just look at his eyes and where they’re going. No matter how hard he’s trying to look uninterested, his eyes will reveal everything. When you walk in front of him, he’ll look you up and down.
When you talk, he looks at your lips, and does it often. He likes what he sees! The easiest way to tell if a guy likes you is by looking into his eyes. Where does he look when you talk? Try to position yourself in a way that draws your “features” out, and see whether he looks at you more.
Of course, if he’s not checking out your body, he might really like your face. He’ll look at your eyes when you talk and he’ll stare a bit longer than other people, but hopefully less to appear creepy. When he’s attracted, his pupils will dilate slightly and then he might look away to try to hide it.
His eyes will reveal everything. If you catch him looking at you and he looks away quickly and acts as if he’s busy about something – that’s a great sign. Anything that reveals he is slightly nervous around you or is trying to hide his interest is a good sign in general. This is usually the case when you still don’t really know each other that well. In case you know each other and have light conversations, he probably won’t look away… in this case, see if he keeps eye contact, smiles, or asks you something to start a conversation, just so you don’t think he’s stalking.
Let’s say you guys are talking about something, and you see him smiling. You’re having a drink at a bar with a group of friends, he says “Cheers!” your glasses touch and he smiles and laughs.
If a guy’s smiling this doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you, but, if you guys seem to smile whenever you look at each other, for no real-reason (nobody said anything funny), it’s highly likely this guy likes you. When you like something (or someone) – you smile. The same goes for him.
Connect eye contact with smiling, if you catch him looking at you and you give him a smile, does he smile back at you? Start a conversation with him and see if he tries to keep it going or he just replies and keeps doing whatever he was doing.
Okay, guys rarely ask this if they don’t like you. Rarely. I mean, if he doesn’t like you, he doesn’t give a damn whether you’re single or not. This is a simple way for him to find out whether you’re available or not. Just asking.
If he doesn’t ask you directly, he might hint the question in some indirect way. “Who are you with?” or “Do you live alone or you’ve got a roommate?” or some other question he asks so that you mention whether you’re seeing someone or not. This is another clear indicator he’s interested. Again, just one sign by itself is not enough – but the more small signals that add up the more certain you can be about his feelings.
… with everything you say. Maybe he doesn’t have his own opinion, which is lame, but still, when you notice that a guy agrees with everything you say and does his best to make you feel like you have “so much in common” it might be too good to be true.
Now, it’s totally possible that the guy is really cool, and you actually have a ton of things in common, but it’s normal that you don’t have identical opinions about EVERYTHING. Disagreeing and talking about something in a challenging way can be fun! If he agrees to every word you say – he’s sucking up, and he probably likes you. Look at any sign like… taking your side in a discussion or an argument etc, or when you notice he’s trying to make himself more likeable to you in any way. If he puts in some effort, that’s a sign.
When someone else is nervous, you tend to be nervous too. These emotions jump from one person to another. Look for signs of nervousness when you’re around. When the conversation stops, does the situation get a bit awkward, is there tension between the two of you, does he seem like he’s thinking “what should I say next?” – if yes, these are all good signs.
If he wasn’t interested in you, he wouldn’t care how he comes across. Just go with your guts in figuring out whether he gets self-conscious when you’re around. Things that might show signs of nervousness is either that he talks a lot or talks too little. It’s always something either way to the left or way to the right. Does he say something stupid or silly and then makes a “shit why did I just say that” face? These are all good signs that he’s nervous around you.
Shy guys tend to get nervous around you when they like you. But the more confident, “macho” guys, that could have been the jocks or bullies back in school, they’ll always try to show off their masculinity in some way. Or show off anything (money), knowledge, whatever, to appear better and more dominant in the crowd.
If you’re among a group of people and he cracks out jokes one after the other, it might be his natural self, or he might be overdoing it, trying to impress you. Often he may make fun of other people around you, or he’ll be louder, or say something bold to make himself appear more “manly.” Just look at anything that’s a bit strange about him. He’ll either be shy and extroverted or he’ll be over expressive trying to demonstrate his best “features” – whatever he thinks you may find attractive.
You just met him, through friends of friends for example, talked a bit and now you’re part of the same crew.
Then, you notice that when people are pushing you around, trying to pass by in a crowded bar, he positions himself in a way so that they don’t push you; he tries to protect you in some way.
If you’re walking through the club, he’ll give you his hand and go in front of you to push away the crowd. That’s another way you can tell if a guy likes you – he’ll be protective of you. If he offers you help, or offers you his coat, or whatever, those are all good signs. Maybe he’s just being a gentleman, but more often the case is that he simply likes you and wants to make sure you don’t get hurt.
… when you talk to other guys, and laugh. Somehow you can see the jealousy on his face. Just give him a look. He’ll try to look like he’s having fun, but with one eye he’ll be checking up on you and the other guy, trying to figure out whether that guy (jerk!) is making progress or not, whether you’re interested in that “moron” or not.
He might sigh, or make a cranky face. Try to pick up on these little clues. He’ll try to figure out whether you’re laughing at that other guy’s joke. If you go out with a group of friends and some guy approaches you, he’ll get super nervous but he’ll try to hide it. He might even be protective or take you by the hand to go somewhere else.
Let’s say you met him at some party and didn’t really talk that much the first time.
When you meet again, you figure that he remembered your name.
Now, either he’s a smart guy with a good memory; or he likes you (plus he’s smart).
Most guys are horrible with names, especially at a party, where they’re more focused on checking out your butt and drinking beer, than knowing whether you’re Michelle or Monica.
If he likes you, and wants to hook up with you, he WILL remember your name.
He might act like he has no idea who the hell you are the next time he sees you, and that’s probably just a trick. Yeah, right, he didn’t remember YOUR name? Just kidding. Seriously, if he remembered your name, that’s a pretty good sign that he likes you.
Maybe he’s not super-interested in you, but at least he thinks you’re cute – which is still a good start.
People aren’t using Facebook as much as they used to anymore. But Facebook has this cool feature, they remind you of people’s birthdays. Imagine if you didn’t have Facebook, you wonder how many people would never know when’s your birthday. This is a great sign. He probably doesn’t congratulate ALL of his Facebook “friends” their birthday. But he did send you a message! He was probably just looking for a way to get the conversation started. Definitely reply him something and see how if he keeps the conversation alive. Ask him something neutral and see where that leads you.
A great way to know if a guy likes you is to throw him a bait and see if he bites. He may just be looking for an excuse to talk to you, an opportunity to get to know you better and get closer to you.
Okay, again – I’m wondering why you like a guy like this in the first place – but anyway, a guy that is bragging about his job, car, money, clothes, possessions, status, achievements, or whatever – isn’t just full of crap (because cool guys KNOW they’re cool, they don’t need to BROADCAST it), but he also likes you and wants to impress you.
Maybe it works for him. Either way, there are many different trying-to-impress-you out there… if it’s subtle and cool – he isn’t pushing his achievements into your face, but he’s just natural and cool about things, but still, you notice he’s kind of trying to present himself in a good light, it’s possible that he likes you.
Let’s say he’s showing off by buying drinks, and more drinks, and more drinks, for the whole crew. Either he’s loaded, or he’s in debt, trying to impress you with his money. Read into these subtle signs that even he is NOT aware of.
Let’s say you’re at some house party, with a bunch of people. He randomly starts talking to you, asks you something, or gives you a look and a smile.
This doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you; maybe he’s just being polite – on the other hand – did he do that to other women around? Always look at how he treats other women around you, is he slightly different towards you? Yes? This guy might like you.
When you catch him trying to make small talk, or position himself closer to you hoping that you might start a conversation, those are all good signs. Proximity is very important. If you work together and he takes a seat where he can have a better view of you or be close to you, that’s good too. If you keep seeing him in all the same courses in college, he might be trying to “bump into you” more often. Drop something near him “accidentally” and see if he jumps at the opportunity to show what a gentleman he is.
The thing with shy guys is that they’re just waiting for the right opportunity to show their interest – you just have to throw a bait and wait. Give them that opportunity so you can test whether they’re interested or not.
One more definite way to tell if a guy likes you is if he’s constantly making fun of you and busting your balls. If he’s making jokes with you, trying to make you laugh, joke around and he’s being a bit sarcastic, you know he probably likes you.
This is like when you where kids and he fought for your attention, or picked on you, pulled your hair etc. Guys do the same as grown ups too, they just change the method of getting your attention.
A guy almost NEVER teases a girl he’s not interested in. You can consider any type of teasing as flirting in a way. He may mimic something about you etc. These are all signs of interest.
You know, when you run into him on the street, at work, school, at a party, club, in the bus, wherever – you start talking to him and then… there’s this awkward moment where he’s about to leave and then… there’s this one, tiny-little second that he stays – one second longer than he should or had to stay. Then he leaves.
Look for this moment.
It’s the moment of indecisiveness. He’s thinking. “Should I ask for her number?” “Naah, she’ll think I’m too forward” or “Should I try to kiss her, does she like me?” “Crap, who knows when I’ll run into her again” and stuff like that may cross his mind.
Either way, there’s this one extra second that was not necessary, but it was there. It’s a sign that he probably likes you, and if you like him too – don’t hesitate – don’t let him leave, give him a hint that it’s OK if he asks you for your number, or suggests you should hang out sometime. This is extremely important. Guys are afraid of rejection, especially if there are potential negative consequences to your environment. Always look for these awkward moments of silence in your conversation, if he’s nervous and tries to break the silence by saying something, anything really, that’s another sign he likes you. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t care, he’d just look at his phone.
That’s another positive sign of interest. But it can go two ways. Either he’ll always use his phone around you because he’s that shy, or he’ll rarely use his phone because he’ll look for the opportunity to talk to you. This is something he’ll do out of respect and because he cherishes the time he can spend with you. This can be anything like not picking up when he has a call (especially if it’s his mom), or anything that mind embarrass him.
When he’s with a group of people and he doesn’t really care about you, he’ll probably take his phone out “just to check” every now and then, but if he likes you, he’ll be more alert to what’s happening, hoping he might have an opportunity to crack a joke or hear something about you that he can use later on in some conversation. This is a small sign, but still, something you should pick up on. Small signs add up over time.
Okay, maybe not stalking in that creepy psycho kind a way, but still, you find out that he knows stuff about you that he can only know if he is paying attention to you. For example, you might have spent the weekend somewhere and posted pictures. If you see him and he asks you “How was your weekend?” maybe it’s because he saw your pictures and knows something about the place you’ve been to, so he wants to use that info as a conversation piece. He’ll act as if he didn’t know you where at XYZ Place, but you’ll notice that it’s strange he asked you about your weekend and not something else.
Try to steer the conversation yourself at anything that you’ve posted publicly somewhere, anywhere, on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, or wherever he follows you. And see his reaction. Does it seem like he already knew what you’ve told him? If yes, you know he’s been checking you out. And that’s a great sign. There are so many things appearing in his newsfeed that the chance he saw your stuff isn’t that big, other than if he was stalking you.
Let’s face it – a compliment always feels nice. Even if you don’t like a guy, but he compliments your looks, clothes, personality, or anything else about you – he probably likes you.
Guys rarely compliment women they’re not interested in. He might give you a subtle, not so obvious, compliment and then keep making jokes on your account and keep fooling around.
Anyway, it doesn’t matter whether he compliments you directly or indirectly, getting a compliment from him definitely tells that this guy likes you. Even look for backhanded compliments, something subtle.
If you have some history with this guy and you lost touch, and then you ran into him recently and exchanged numbers, he started texting you and stuff… those are all good signs. If you know that a guy liked you before – he probably still likes you. Attraction doesn’t go away unless you’ve gained a hundred pounds or something like that.
Even when he doesn’t really have to – he touches you. Accidentally, or just subconsciously, he makes some kind of physical contact with you.
Let’s say you guys are chatting and when he’s trying to make a point he touches you to stress a word. There you go… the more physical contact a guy makes, the more obvious it is that he likes you. Does he try to play any games, or is he teasing you in a way that involves physical contact? If yes, that’s a sign he likes you and maybe he’s not even aware of it. This is especially the case if you’re at some house party and he tries to dance or puts his hand on your shoulder just to use you as support to keep balance. If he’s goofing around and touches you, that’s another sign.
Another thing you can do is touch him and see how he reacts. Is he comfortable with it or does he get really nervous? When he says something and if it’s funny and you laugh, you can hold on to him not to fall on the ground or something, see how he reacts. The best way to find out if a guy likes you is to test him in these subtle ways where you can see how he reacts.
You can tell if a guy likes you or not by the distance between the two of you and how his body is facing you. If he gets pretty close to you to hear you better; he’s facing you and kind of leaning in, you are just 1 feet away from each other, there’s obviously something going on there. It’s all about proximity.
This really depends on the environment, if you’re somewhere with loud music, you’ll have to be closer to be able to hear each other, but if you’re at some house party, chilling at a friends place, then see what’s the average distance between other people. Is he closer to you than that average? He might like you.
This may even be just sharing the same room (when he could be somewhere else). See if he makes excuses to join you casually on some short trip to the store or something. If you make a lunch break at work, does he suggest you guys continue your office conversation outside of the office by grabbing lunch together?
See if he steers the conversation away from work-related (or college-related) stuff and moves the attention to you and your personal life. See if he opens up and tells you something about himself he wouldn’t normally say to other people. These are all signs of interest.
If you’re in a loud place, let’s say at a club, he might suggest that you go out, if you both smoke for example. This is his chance of having some private, alone-time with you, and that’s often a sign that a guy likes you. The same goes for a house party, if he suggests you go out on the balcony or something. He’s trying to have some alone time with you. If he sits next to you, while he could have sat somewhere else.
Again, the opposite may also be a clue. For example, he’s avoiding you or ignoring you. Guys that are either too shy or players do this on purpose, because all the other guys are giving you so much attention, he doesn’t want to be one of them. He knows that he’ll have more of your attention by not giving you any of his.
If you like a guy at the gym, just see if he’s noticing you. When you look at him, does he look away? Does he try to use any of the machines near you? If he’s a well built guy, he may be trying to show off or lift more than he could. On the other hand, if he isn’t as happy with how he looks, he may shy away and make sure you don’t see him at the gym.
If you’re both running on a treadmill, see if he picks the one closer to you. A definite sign that he likes you is if he passes by you and tries to correct your form or give you some tips on how you could do a certain exercise better. Even if he just makes eye contact and says “Hi!” – that’s a great sign just by itself. Smile back and say Hi! back. Next time you guys could have a longer “conversion” – like – “Hey, how’s it going?” and then something gym-related.
If you notice that you somehow always end up at the gym around the same time, it might be that he remembered when you’re at the gym (if you’re a regular) and he started coming in at a similar time just to see you. This doesn’t necessarily have to be that way, but it could be possible. If you like a guy at your gym, try to start a conversation every now and then, ask him a question, act silly.
Okay, maybe he won’t say “let’s go on a date,” but still, if he has your number and he invites you to dinner/lunch/coffee, or even just to go out with some mutual friends, that’s another surefire way to tell if a guy likes you. Whenever you see that a guy wants to spend some time just with you, he’s obviously interested.
Look at it as a fact, if a guy calls you to “hang out” or starts a conversation about similar interests and how you could do “such and such” together, that’s a definite sign of interest. If he doesn’t invite you on anything, make it easier, more casual… try testing him. The best thing is when you are already at some event together, or you work together or study together, and then after work or class, you can change venue and go grab coffee or lunch. This way you’re not officially meeting just because of each other, but you’ve already been doing something and then you casually end up having an unplanned “date.” If he agrees, that’s a good sign, plus you can test him for other signs of interest.
As soon as he sees you online, there he is, sending you messages. He likes you for sure. Look for pokes. Look for direct messages on Twitter or if he sends you a picture on Instagram. The same goes for any app, Viber, WhatsApp, whatever. You can send him a smiley and start the conversation yourself. If he’s responsive and keeps chatting, and chatting, and chatting, that’s a perfect sign of interest. Just make sure you don’t end up being the last one to reply every time. Wait a bit. See if he’s trying to keep the conversation alive or he just leaves.
This is just another way of him trying to tease you. If he tries to give you a cute nickname, or any nickname that’s supposed to tease you, that’s another great sign.
First, use all the other signs above. Then focus on office politics. Does he tell you all the newest rumors? Do you have your own little inside jokes? Show up with high heels one day (if you don’t already) and see if he looks at you differently or he’s checking you out. A good way to know if a guy likes you is if he never does anything job-related that could hurt you or your career, maybe he offers to help you out with extra work or stuff like that. If he’s your boss or manager, he might be nicer to you than to other employees.
Again, the opposite is also possible – he might be in love with you and agree because he thinks you don’t like him or that he doesn’t have a chance with you and then he’ll treat you… well, worse than other people. Guys can be quite insecure and confusing in that sense. Keep looking for anything unusual.
Let’s say this is a guy you work with. At work, just look at how he treats other people compared to you, and you’ll immediately be able to tell if he likes you.
If he helps you out with whatever you need, he’s on your side during meetings, he tries to make you like him, then you know he likes you. Maybe not in a “I want a relationship” kind of way, maybe he’s just attracted to you, or thinks you’re cute. The best way to know is to test him. If there’s some big task and you need help with it and ask him if he’d help – how does he react? Is he eager to make time for you or does he easily dismisses you because he has “too much stuff on his plate right now?” Keep testing.
Another way to tell if a guy likes you is by looking at how much time, energy, money and general effort he has invested in your relationship. Did he go out of his way to help you with something that took him hours, did he do you any favors, did he do anything more than what was expected of him? If yes, he probably likes you. Did he offer you a lift home on a rainy day? Give him another point. Let those points add up so you can be more sure about whether he likes you or not.
If you’re at a party and you talk for a couple of minutes, or more, then he suggests you hit the dance floor – there you go, the chances are that he likes you.
Let’s say you’ve met this guy once before, talked a bit, and now you run into him again. Does he remember some tiny, little detail from your previous conversation? Something that’s trivial, irrelevant, even pointless? Guys have a selective memory.
When a guy likes you, he pays more attention to what you’ve said, he delves deeper into your words and tries to figure out their hidden meaning. So, if he brings up something that you’ve talked about before, and you figure he remembers things you say – it’s possible that it’s because he likes you.
This is often a sure sign that tells that a guy likes you, because guys tend to forget everything that chicks they are NOT interested in, say. Their name, job, where they’re from, what they do, hobbies, opinions, and whatever they’ve said when they first met, just evaporate.
If we don’t like a girl, often what she says isn’t “worth remembering” so our brain just filters it. Goes in on one ear, goes out on the other one.
Talk to mutual friends. It can happen that they give him away. Friends of friends are a pretty easy way to tell if a guy likes you.
For example, they might talk excessively about everything that is good, about this guy when you’re not there, trying to make him seem better than he is in your eyes, or they might mention he’s been asking around about you or something like that.
Keep an eye out for stuff like this, because friends can give him away easily.
Let’s say you guys have mutual friends. He wants to get closer to you, but he can’t get to you directly. He knows you have mutual friends, or you hang out in the same group, so he’ll try to set things up, so you “accidentally” meet again.
Try to figure this out… next time maybe he doesn’t care about these friends as much as he cares about you, and the only reason he’s with them is so that he can run into you.
Here’s another way to tell if a guy likes you. When you are together, he doesn’t mention other women. Maybe he even has a girlfriend, or a wife, but he doesn’t mention it simply because he wants to seem available in case you like him.
If you know that he has a girlfriend, or something going on with some another woman, but he doesn’t mention her in front of you – there you go. He probably likes you!
On another note, if he IS already involved with someone else in any way, you will need to do some further investigating to see if his current relationship is really falling apart, he’s ready to move on and he wants to do it with you, or he’s simply a player trying to have his cake AND eat it too.
Okay, this is obvious. If you go out with a group of friends and he’s insisting on buying drinks and is kind of motivating you to “drink up” and orders tequila shots for everyone. He may be trying to get you to relax and hoping that if you get tipsy, he might kiss you and say “sorry I got so drunk yesterday” later.
Okay, he may just be a gentleman and he’d open the door for anyone, but look at it from another perspective. If he’s being nice to you and he’s trying to please you or appear as a gentleman in your eyes – that’s definitely a sign that he likes you.
Especially if he’s more attentive towards you, than other folks around if you’re in a group. Look for any kinds of chivalry around you. Carrying your stuff, or offering to help you move. Test him by coming up with problems. Men are great at solving problems. Next time when you have a conversation with him – come up with a problem. A problem you assume he could help you with. See how he reacts. If he eagerly suggests to help, connect you with someone, or help you with anything that would mean more time for the two of you together – that’s perfect! That’s a definite sign of interest.
Most men don’t groom too much. We are lazy, and, unless our work requires us to, most of wouldn’t shave as often, or shower. Or iron our clothes. Guys mostly care about their appearance when they have a goal in mind. “Okay, I’m going to this meeting, I should look sharp, not like a bum…” he’ll want to look presentable, he might shave, fix his hair, put on perfume and dress much nicer.
This is what you should look for – when he meets with you, does he seem as if he worked on how he looks a bit more than usual? If he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t care about your opinion of his looks, he’d regard you as “one of the guys”… but if you notice he’s making sure he looks a bit better when you are with him, that’s a great sign that he might be into you and trying to “sell” himself to you.
He’s hanging out with you and he isn’t in a hurry, he doesn’t say he has to go – so he’s obviously enjoying his time with you. He makes the time to be with you – that’s another easy way to tell if a guy likes you – if he’s checking the clock all the time, his phone etc. then you’re not a priority of any kind for him, or someone he might be interested in.
These were some more or less obvious signs that can help you tell if a guy likes you.
Now, let’s say he’s a master at camouflaging his interest in you. How do you get him out of his shell? There are some ways to trick him into being more open about his feelings. For some guys, you just have to give them this little push so that they open up.
The thing is that many guys are afraid to make the first move because they don’t want to get rejected.
This guy might also be wondering weather you like him or not – if he sees that he might have a chance – he’ll probably give it a try and show his interest more openly.
The best way to tell if a guy likes you is to simply GO WITH YOUR GUTS. I’ve read all your comments on this article, and 99.99% of the time when you’re wondering whether a guy likes your or not – HE LIKES YOU. Women are naturals at picking up on these signals of attraction. Whenever you have a feeling that he likes you, it’s almost certain that he does. You subconsciously picked up on these clues and you FEEL there’s something happening there. Just go with your gut feeling.
If you want even more proof, the best thing to do is to test him.
Here’s what you should do to get him to reveal whether he likes you or not:
Yep. Give him a longer look, and then a warm smile. That’s often enough for a guy to know that he’s invited to come up to you, and start talking.
As you’re talking to him, initiate some physical contact. Stop him in the middle of a sentence – grab his shoulder or wrist firmly, hold on to it and say something out of a sudden like “hey! Listen to this, bla bla bla” then let go of his wrist as you continue talking, this might give him the impression that you like him, so the doors are a bit more open.
Laugh at his (even stupid) jokes. He’ll notice that you like him and that will make him a bit more open towards you.
Give him a compliment about something, say, “that’s so cool” for something he says, does, thinks, wears.
The easiest ways to tell if a guy likes you is to look at his body language and general behavior when he’s around you. Follow his eyes; if he’s looking at your breasts, legs and lips when talking to you, he definitely likes what he sees.
If you see he’s trying to get to know you better, he’s asking questions, and treating you better than other women around, it’s possible that he likes you. These are the more obvious signs that he wants more than just being friends or acquaintances.
That’s how you tell if a guy likes you or not – look for any of the 52 signs above, and if you can find at least 10, then you know that this guy likes you.
Maybe you are STILL not sure whether this guy likes you or not, or maybe he’s too shy to make a move, or, maybe… he DOES NOT LIKE YOU after all.
Which is also quite possible. A lot of guys are just nice and don’t want to hurt your feelings, they’re like that with everyone. Or they’re only interested in sleeping with you and nothing else. They’re not interested in a relationship with you because they don’t see you as relationship material, or good enough to have him thinking about commitment. It’s even possible that he likes you, but doesn’t want to “make a move” because he sees that you’ll be “too much work” later and he’ll have to break up.
So how do you get around that? How do you get him to like you if he doesn’t, and how do you get him to finally invite you on a date if he does like you? Well, you need to understand men better if you want to wrap him around your finger, that’s exactly why I recommend you read Mirabelle’s classic guide to men: Wrap Him Around Your Finger, so you don’t make the mistakes most women make in the early stages of a relationship (that’s where most relationships fail, before they even start). And once you finally do wrap him around your finger, you’ve got to keep it that way — that’s even more challenging — and this is when James Bauer’s now famous Respect Principle works so well, enabling you to have the relationship with the man you want, for as long as you want. Both are proven-to-work systems to getting the relationship you deserve.
Jason runs a construction company, but he enjoys sharing his experiences with the opposite sex by writing about relationships in his spare time. He spends his weekends kite surfing and running on the beach.