How to Tell If a Guy Likes You – 53 Signs He Likes You More Than Just a Friend

What’s a sure way to tell if a guy likes you or not? You definitely like him, but figuring out whether this guy likes you or not is just driving you insane. You want to be 100% sure that this guy likes you, before you “make a move” so that you don’t make a fool out of yourself. That’s natural. Guys do that too. Learn how to tell if a guy likes you more than just a friend. These 53 signs will tell how he truly feels about you.

I’ll tell you what most guys do when they like a girl, even if they want to hide that they like you or want to appear “cool” so that they don’t blow their cover – you can still look for certain signals that will give them away.

There are many subconscious things guys do that are almost impossible to hide; it’s a natural thing they do when they feel attraction for a woman.

Apart from some obvious signs that definitely mean he likes you, in the super-long list below, you’ll also find some less obvious signs that will reveal his real desires that he’s trying to hide, not just from you, but maybe from himself as well!

Also, there is a way to spot some hidden signs that he likes you based on his zodiac sign. Just don’t forget that each zodiac sign is different so make sure that you know his exact star sign!

With no further ado, here’s how to tell if a guy likes you:

1. He Says It

Okay, it can’t be more obvious than that. A guy that tells you “I like you” probably isn’t lying. The next question is, in what way does he “like you” – he wants to hook up and be together, or just have sex, or he just likes you in a “I feel sorry for you” way, and he thinks you’re cool, but he’d never be with you.

Try to tune into the tone of his voice when he says this, you’ll know which type of “I like you” it was immediately, just look at him! Either way, it doesn’t get more obvious than this!

2. Questions, Questions, Questions

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He’s obviously trying to keep the conversation going with you. He’s trying to get somewhere. So he keeps asking, and asking, some seemingly irrelevant questions, just to keep things going.

Maybe you’re at a club, or at some house party, or you just ran into him in the street. Some questions are just asked out of politeness, but as soon as you notice that it’s not something that he’s asking just out of a necessity, it’s probably because he likes you. Now, just because he asked you “where are you from?” it doesn’t mean he likes you. Use common sense. Maybe he’s just making small talk and being nice.

It also depends where he asks you and what, but the point is – if he’s trying to have a conversation with you, and you just met, he probably likes you. Small talk by itself is not a big enough sign, still – it’s a plus. When a guy doesn’t like you, he simply won’t put in the effort unless he has something to gain out of it (like at work, or he wants you to help with his grades or an exam.)

The fact that he’s talking to you when there’s no need to do so (because of work or something), is a good sign in itself. If he asks you questions and tries to dig deeper and find out more about you, that’s a good sign.

3. He Finds Similar Interests With You

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Part of the reason he’s asking questions is to get a piece of information about you that he can use to “hook” you. If you say you like something and he goes on and on about how he likes the same music, movie, or whatever thing too – he’s (maybe subconsciously) trying to see if the two of you are a good fit and have common interests. A guy that likes you usually won’t get into an argument or disagree with you, on the contrary, he’ll be agreeable and try to be likeable.

If your conversation has a lot of “Me too’s!” – that’s a good sign that you might be compatible.

4. He Leans in

When you talk to him, he leans in. Even if he can hear you perfectly well. You might be at a bar or a club with music, so he has to lean in to hear you, but still – a guy that doesn’t like you won’t break his neck just to talk to you. Look at the amount of effort he puts into having a conversation with you. That’s an easy way to tell if a guy likes you.

Look at his body language and see how much effort he puts into the conversation, how much attention is he giving you with his body. A regular, normal guy that isn’t trying to “act cool” will usually lean in or be closer to you than usual, while a guy that’s a “player” and acting cool might lean back and act as if he’s not that interested in you. Still this guy might like you as well. Just because a guy acts as if he’s not interested in you doesn’t mean that’s how he truly feels. (more on this later).

5. He Comes Up to You

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Okay, again, an obvious one. If he’s hitting on you, he obviously likes you. Or he likes your girlfriend! He’s just using you as a strategy to get closer to her and break the ice. Who knows? Either way, a guy that comes up to you in a bar, club, cafe, bookshop etc. obviously finds you cute. If he approaches you and starts a conversation (and this is a guy you don’t know), he obviously wants to hit on you. If he comes up to you at work or college and the conversation is something random, this could also be a sign (why didn’t he go talk to someone else?), but if he comes up to you in a club and you don’t even know the guy, then that’s something else.

6. He Acts Slightly Different When You’re Around

Hang out with him when he’s with friends. Then look at him from a slight distance when he’s just with his friends. Does he behave a bit different when you are around, or is he 100% the same when you’re not?

Sure, guys and girls are different when they’re just among close friends, or just guys or just girls, but still – he might be quieter when you’re around, or more talkative, nervous, shy, or he’ll try to act cooler, or be funnier to impress you.

Either way – if he’s not 100% natural, he might like you, and that’s why he’s trying to impress you with something.

This is usually the case with younger, less experienced guys, but in general, it’s normal “mating” behavior. Observe him and you’ll figure him out.

7. He Ignores You Completely

Some guys use the “act like you don’t give a damn” strategy.

They know all the other guys around you are hitting on you, and you’re just turning them away, so “why be another chimp?” is their way of thinking.

He’ll talk to you later, when you’re alone. He probably likes you, but doesn’t have the courage to come up to you, when you’re surrounded by a bunch of bodyguards (read: girlfriends) or other guys that are trying hard to seduce you.

He needs you to give him a sign (just look!) that you’re open to talking to him. Hint it! He can’t read your mind.

Anyway, often, when a guy is kind of ignoring you, it’s because he’s either not interested, or he’s really interested, but he knows that when he acts cool and cold, you’ll be wondering how come he’s the only guy around, that didn’t notice you. It’s a trick as old as fire. Look at it this way, if this guy is giving his best to ignore you – he likes you.

Think about it like this, when a guy isn’t interested in you, he can still be normal towards you and have regular small talk (depending on the situation), but he (usually) won’t have a reason to IGNORE you. A guy that likes you will either by shy and nice, or he’ll ignore you and show confusing signals. Guys show mixed signals when they’re trying to hide that they like you. Because they’re not that good at hiding it, they’ll often do something that clearly indicates they like you, but then they’ll “sober up” and start ignoring you or be mean to you for no reason. The point is – look for any abnormality. Anything out of the ordinary is usually a good sign.

Even being cold towards you is an emotional sign

When the guy is totally neutral – not cold, but not nice either – that’s usually when a guy has no particular interest in you. Just look for anything out of the ordinary…

This one is quite tricky actually, because when a guy is ignoring you – it’s either a strategy to get you interested, or he doesn’t like you at all, or… he does like you – but he thinks he can’t do much about it. That’s where a guide like Mirabelle’s Wrap Him Around Your Finger is great at helping you identify how he really feels about you, despite him trying hard to hide his real feelings. Men can even lie to themselves about how they feel about you. Simply many men are so afraid of rejection that they’d rather not even try.

Mirabelle’s classic Wrap Him Around Your Finger is also perfect for interpreting which way a conversation is going and then directing it to open him up and getting him to like you instantly, even if he first didn’t think you’re his type.

8. His Body is Turning Towards You

He wants to have a good view of you. He doesn’t want to make it obvious that he likes you, but his body is giving him away.

You can tell if a guy likes you or not by looking at his body language when he’s around you. Does he push his chest out a bit, does he try to look more macho, are his feet pointing toward you? Some guys try to hide interest; others openly look you up and down and lick their lips. Pick up on these signs. It really depends on how confident the guy is. A guy that really likes you might just be really open about it and tell you “wow, you look amazing” – but he knows he can get away with it because he can read that you might also be into him.

The problem is that most guys don’t want to “lose face” and get rejected, so they play it safe. Especially in situations that can have social consequences – like at work, or school/college, or if he’s a family friend – if he messes up, he might still be running into you. He doesn’t want to make a risk without knowing that you also like him back. Either way, look at his body language. Does he listen with his body when you speak?

9. He Gets You a Drink

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In some cultures, it’s normal that guys get you a drink and it’s not a big deal. If you’re with a group of friends and he buys a round, no big deal – he doesn’t expect you to have sex with him because of it, obviously. But then again, if it’s just the two of you and he insists on paying, either he’s just a gentleman in general, or he likes you.

Look at it like this – does he buy his friends a drink?

If he does, then he might just consider you a friend too, it doesn’t mean he likes you or wants to be with you, he’s just a generous guy in general. But if he’s stingy around his friends and only pays for his own stuff, and then he buys You a drink, then he definitely likes you. Plus he’s stingy. Maybe not the kind of guy you want to be with.

Either way, a guy that’s insisting on paying for anything (if you share a cab and he doesn’t want to split the bill) or you go for a coffee break at the office and he insists “don’t worry about it, it’s on me” – those are all good signs. It’s not really a sign of showing off, “it’s just a coffee” after all, but still, the little things add up. Chivalry’s not dead.

Now, it might be that he’s just being nice – but those Frappucinos add up, and there’s no such thing as a free lunch. Does he treat other coworkers with coffee as well every time? It really depends on the venue, if you’re at a bar and he buys drinks and tries to get you drunk – that’s a sign he likes you and wants you to loosen up.

10. He Asks You for Your Number

Okay, one more obvious sign that a guy likes you.

A guy asks you for your number = he likes you. Period.

The only time a guy asks you for your number, and doesn’t like you, is if he needs your info for some really obvious reason like… you can get him in touch with some other important person, or you can help him out with something, you know what I mean. Use logic. Go with your guts.

If he makes up some relatively dumb reason to ask for your number, you know he just wants to have a way to keep in touch with you, ask you out on a date etc. Now this also depends on the situation… if you’re at a bar and he asks for your number, that’s an obvious sign. But if you work or study together, or if you just see this guy every now and then, and he asks for your number, that’s a good sign. The problem is, shy guys that like you might not want to be too obvious about the number – because they assume that if they ask for your number, you’ll assume they like you. So they have to come up with some good excuse. If you want to find out if he likes you, make up the excuse yourself. Throw in a bait and see if he bites.

Come up with something that is a really good excuse for him to ask for your number. Some event or something. He might have been waiting for the perfect opportunity. Say something obvious so he knows he won’t be rejected if he asks, throw in the bait and then wait if he gets the message and asks for your number.

11. He Adds You on Facebook

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Guys don’t send Friend requests to chicks they don’t like. It’s that simple. Maybe, in some cases, you got to know each other via mutual friends, and it’s cool to stay in touch in some way, it doesn’t necessarily mean he “likes-likes” you, he just thinks you’re cool and that’s it.

Now, if he sends you a message, pokes you, or likes your pictures, these are more obvious signs that a guy likes you. Look for more clues. Dig deeper.

12. He Sends you a Request to Follow You on Instagram

Twitter, G+ and Facebook are okay signs, it’s a plus if he adds you there. Again, it depends on the network you share. If you work together, he’ll probably add you on Facebook, but if you just kind of know each other and have a few mutual friends – and he sends you a request, that’s a much bigger sign.

The best is if he starts following you on Instagram. Instagram is basically the best thing for stalking. He wants to check your pictures. If he sends you a request and keeps liking your stuff every now and then, that’s just an even bigger sign he likes you.

13. He Goes for the Kiss

Okay, no point in explaining anything here. Even if he was really, really, drunk – he still tried to kiss you. No matter how much alcohol he drinks, a guy rarely goes for the kiss if he doesn’t like you when he’s sober too. I don’t know why some women question whether he likes you or not if he tried to kiss you. He obviously does! The question is – does he just want to hook up or is he interested in dating you? A good way to know is to look at his ex girlfriends, can you relate to them?

14. Hey, My Eyes Are Up Here!

He knows where your eyes are. But your boobs are like a magnet and he just has a hard time to control himself.

Just look at his eyes and where they’re going. No matter how hard he’s trying to look uninterested, his eyes will reveal everything. When you walk in front of him, he’ll look you up and down.

When you talk, he looks at your lips, and does it often. He likes what he sees! The easiest way to tell if a guy likes you is by looking into his eyes. Where does he look when you talk? Try to position yourself in a way that draws your “features” out, and see whether he looks at you more.

15. He Makes a Lot of Eye Contact

Of course, if he’s not checking out your body, he might really like your face. He’ll look at your eyes when you talk and he’ll stare a bit longer than other people, but hopefully less to appear creepy. When he’s attracted, his pupils will dilate slightly and then he might look away to try to hide it.

16. He Looks Away

His eyes will reveal everything. If you catch him looking at you and he looks away quickly and acts as if he’s busy about something – that’s a great sign. Anything that reveals he is slightly nervous around you or is trying to hide his interest is a good sign in general. This is usually the case when you still don’t really know each other that well. In case you know each other and have light conversations, he probably won’t look away… in this case, see if he keeps eye contact, smiles, or asks you something to start a conversation, just so you don’t think he’s stalking.

17. He Smiles (a lot)

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Let’s say you guys are talking about something, and you see him smiling. You’re having a drink at a bar with a group of friends, he says “Cheers!” your glasses touch and he smiles and laughs.

If a guy’s smiling this doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you, but, if you guys seem to smile whenever you look at each other, for no real-reason (nobody said anything funny), it’s highly likely this guy likes you. When you like something (or someone) – you smile. The same goes for him.

Connect eye contact with smiling, if you catch him looking at you and you give him a smile, does he smile back at you? Start a conversation with him and see if he tries to keep it going or he just replies and keeps doing whatever he was doing.

18. Do You Have a Boyfriend?

Okay, guys rarely ask this if they don’t like you. Rarely. I mean, if he doesn’t like you, he doesn’t give a damn whether you’re single or not. This is a simple way for him to find out whether you’re available or not. Just asking.

If he doesn’t ask you directly, he might hint the question in some indirect way. “Who are you with?” or “Do you live alone or you’ve got a roommate?” or some other question he asks so that you mention whether you’re seeing someone or not. This is another clear indicator he’s interested. Again, just one sign by itself is not enough – but the more small signals that add up the more certain you can be about his feelings.

19. He Agrees

… with everything you say. Maybe he doesn’t have his own opinion, which is lame, but still, when you notice that a guy agrees with everything you say and does his best to make you feel like you have “so much in common” it might be too good to be true.

Now, it’s totally possible that the guy is really cool, and you actually have a ton of things in common, but it’s normal that you don’t have identical opinions about EVERYTHING. Disagreeing and talking about something in a challenging way can be fun! If he agrees to every word you say – he’s sucking up, and he probably likes you. Look at any sign like… taking your side in a discussion or an argument etc, or when you notice he’s trying to make himself more likeable to you in any way. If he puts in some effort, that’s a sign.

20. He’s Nervous Around You

When someone else is nervous, you tend to be nervous too. These emotions jump from one person to another. Look for signs of nervousness when you’re around. When the conversation stops, does the situation get a bit awkward, is there tension between the two of you, does he seem like he’s thinking “what should I say next?” – if yes, these are all good signs.

If he wasn’t interested in you, he wouldn’t care how he comes across. Just go with your guts in figuring out whether he gets self-conscious when you’re around. Things that might show signs of nervousness is either that he talks a lot or talks too little. It’s always something either way to the left or way to the right. Does he say something stupid or silly and then makes a “shit why did I just say that” face? These are all good signs that he’s nervous around you.

21. He’s Trying to Be the Alpha Guy

Shy guys tend to get nervous around you when they like you. But the more confident, “macho” guys, that could have been the jocks or bullies back in school, they’ll always try to show off their masculinity in some way. Or show off anything (money), knowledge, whatever, to appear better and more dominant in the crowd.

If you’re among a group of people and he cracks out jokes one after the other, it might be his natural self, or he might be overdoing it, trying to impress you. Often he may make fun of other people around you, or he’ll be louder, or say something bold to make himself appear more “manly.” Just look at anything that’s a bit strange about him. He’ll either be shy and extroverted or he’ll be over expressive trying to demonstrate his best “features” – whatever he thinks you may find attractive.

22. He’s Protective of You

You just met him, through friends of friends for example, talked a bit and now you’re part of the same crew.

Then, you notice that when people are pushing you around, trying to pass by in a crowded bar, he positions himself in a way so that they don’t push you; he tries to protect you in some way.

If you’re walking through the club, he’ll give you his hand and go in front of you to push away the crowd. That’s another way you can tell if a guy likes you – he’ll be protective of you. If he offers you help, or offers you his coat, or whatever, those are all good signs. Maybe he’s just being a gentleman, but more often the case is that he simply likes you and wants to make sure you don’t get hurt.

23. He Gets Jealous

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… when you talk to other guys, and laugh. Somehow you can see the jealousy on his face. Just give him a look. He’ll try to look like he’s having fun, but with one eye he’ll be checking up on you and the other guy, trying to figure out whether that guy (jerk!) is making progress or not, whether you’re interested in that “moron” or not.

He might sigh, or make a cranky face. Try to pick up on these little clues. He’ll try to figure out whether you’re laughing at that other guy’s joke. If you go out with a group of friends and some guy approaches you, he’ll get super nervous but he’ll try to hide it. He might even be protective or take you by the hand to go somewhere else.

24. He Remembers Your Name

Let’s say you met him at some party and didn’t really talk that much the first time.

When you meet again, you figure that he remembered your name.

Now, either he’s a smart guy with a good memory; or he likes you (plus he’s smart).

Most guys are horrible with names, especially at a party, where they’re more focused on checking out your butt and drinking beer, than knowing whether you’re Michelle or Monica.

If he likes you, and wants to hook up with you, he WILL remember your name.

He might act like he has no idea who the hell you are the next time he sees you, and that’s probably just a trick. Yeah, right, he didn’t remember YOUR name? Just kidding. Seriously, if he remembered your name, that’s a pretty good sign that he likes you.

Maybe he’s not super-interested in you, but at least he thinks you’re cute – which is still a good start.

25. He Congratulates Your Birthday

People aren’t using Facebook as much as they used to anymore. But Facebook has this cool feature, they remind you of people’s birthdays. Imagine if you didn’t have Facebook, you wonder how many people would never know when’s your birthday. This is a great sign. He probably doesn’t congratulate ALL of his Facebook “friends” their birthday. But he did send you a message! He was probably just looking for a way to get the conversation started. Definitely reply him something and see how if he keeps the conversation alive. Ask him something neutral and see where that leads you.

A great way to know if a guy likes you is to throw him a bait and see if he bites. He may just be looking for an excuse to talk to you, an opportunity to get to know you better and get closer to you.

26. He is Trying to Impress You All the Time

Okay, again – I’m wondering why you like a guy like this in the first place – but anyway, a guy that is bragging about his job, car, money, clothes, possessions, status, achievements, or whatever – isn’t just full of crap (because cool guys KNOW they’re cool, they don’t need to BROADCAST it), but he also likes you and wants to impress you.

Maybe it works for him. Either way, there are many different trying-to-impress-you out there… if it’s subtle and cool – he isn’t pushing his achievements into your face, but he’s just natural and cool about things, but still, you notice he’s kind of trying to present himself in a good light, it’s possible that he likes you.

Let’s say he’s showing off by buying drinks, and more drinks, and more drinks, for the whole crew. Either he’s loaded, or he’s in debt, trying to impress you with his money. Read into these subtle signs that even he is NOT aware of.

27. He Initiates the Conversation

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Let’s say you’re at some house party, with a bunch of people. He randomly starts talking to you, asks you something, or gives you a look and a smile.

This doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you; maybe he’s just being polite – on the other hand – did he do that to other women around? Always look at how he treats other women around you, is he slightly different towards you? Yes? This guy might like you.

When you catch him trying to make small talk, or position himself closer to you hoping that you might start a conversation, those are all good signs. Proximity is very important. If you work together and he takes a seat where he can have a better view of you or be close to you, that’s good too. If you keep seeing him in all the same courses in college, he might be trying to “bump into you” more often. Drop something near him “accidentally” and see if he jumps at the opportunity to show what a gentleman he is.

The thing with shy guys is that they’re just waiting for the right opportunity to show their interest – you just have to throw a bait and wait. Give them that opportunity so you can test whether they’re interested or not.

28. Making Fun of You and Teasing

One more definite way to tell if a guy likes you is if he’s constantly making fun of you and busting your balls. If he’s making jokes with you, trying to make you laugh, joke around and he’s being a bit sarcastic, you know he probably likes you.

This is like when you where kids and he fought for your attention, or picked on you, pulled your hair etc. Guys do the same as grown ups too, they just change the method of getting your attention.

A guy almost NEVER teases a girl he’s not interested in. You can consider any type of teasing as flirting in a way. He may mimic something about you etc. These are all signs of interest.

29. Just One Second Longer

You know, when you run into him on the street, at work, school, at a party, club, in the bus, wherever – you start talking to him and then… there’s this awkward moment where he’s about to leave and then… there’s this one, tiny-little second that he stays – one second longer than he should or had to stay. Then he leaves.

Look for this moment.

It’s the moment of indecisiveness. He’s thinking. “Should I ask for her number?” “Naah, she’ll think I’m too forward” or “Should I try to kiss her, does she like me?” “Crap, who knows when I’ll run into her again” and stuff like that may cross his mind.

Either way, there’s this one extra second that was not necessary, but it was there. It’s a sign that he probably likes you, and if you like him too – don’t hesitate – don’t let him leave, give him a hint that it’s OK if he asks you for your number, or suggests you should hang out sometime. This is extremely important. Guys are afraid of rejection, especially if there are potential negative consequences to your environment. Always look for these awkward moments of silence in your conversation, if he’s nervous and tries to break the silence by saying something, anything really, that’s another sign he likes you. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t care, he’d just look at his phone.

30. He Doesn’t Use His Phone Around You

That’s another positive sign of interest. But it can go two ways. Either he’ll always use his phone around you because he’s that shy, or he’ll rarely use his phone because he’ll look for the opportunity to talk to you. This is something he’ll do out of respect and because he cherishes the time he can spend with you. This can be anything like not picking up when he has a call (especially if it’s his mom), or anything that mind embarrass him.

When he’s with a group of people and he doesn’t really care about you, he’ll probably take his phone out “just to check” every now and then, but if he likes you, he’ll be more alert to what’s happening, hoping he might have an opportunity to crack a joke or hear something about you that he can use later on in some conversation. This is a small sign, but still, something you should pick up on. Small signs add up over time.

31. He’s Stalking You (a bit)

Okay, maybe not stalking in that creepy psycho kind a way, but still, you find out that he knows stuff about you that he can only know if he is paying attention to you. For example, you might have spent the weekend somewhere and posted pictures. If you see him and he asks you “How was your weekend?” maybe it’s because he saw your pictures and knows something about the place you’ve been to, so he wants to use that info as a conversation piece. He’ll act as if he didn’t know you where at XYZ Place, but you’ll notice that it’s strange he asked you about your weekend and not something else.

Try to steer the conversation yourself at anything that you’ve posted publicly somewhere, anywhere, on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, or wherever he follows you. And see his reaction. Does it seem like he already knew what you’ve told him? If yes, you know he’s been checking you out. And that’s a great sign. There are so many things appearing in his newsfeed that the chance he saw your stuff isn’t that big, other than if he was stalking you.

32. He Gives You Compliments

Let’s face it – a compliment always feels nice. Even if you don’t like a guy, but he compliments your looks, clothes, personality, or anything else about you – he probably likes you.

Guys rarely compliment women they’re not interested in. He might give you a subtle, not so obvious, compliment and then keep making jokes on your account and keep fooling around.

Anyway, it doesn’t matter whether he compliments you directly or indirectly, getting a compliment from him definitely tells that this guy likes you. Even look for backhanded compliments, something subtle.

33. He Already Liked You (Even if it was years ago)

If you have some history with this guy and you lost touch, and then you ran into him recently and exchanged numbers, he started texting you and stuff… those are all good signs. If you know that a guy liked you before – he probably still likes you. Attraction doesn’t go away unless you’ve gained a hundred pounds or something like that.

34. He Touches You

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Even when he doesn’t really have to – he touches you. Accidentally, or just subconsciously, he makes some kind of physical contact with you.

Let’s say you guys are chatting and when he’s trying to make a point he touches you to stress a word. There you go… the more physical contact a guy makes, the more obvious it is that he likes you. Does he try to play any games, or is he teasing you in a way that involves physical contact? If yes, that’s a sign he likes you and maybe he’s not even aware of it. This is especially the case if you’re at some house party and he tries to dance or puts his hand on your shoulder just to use you as support to keep balance. If he’s goofing around and touches you, that’s another sign.

Another thing you can do is touch him and see how he reacts. Is he comfortable with it or does he get really nervous? When he says something and if it’s funny and you laugh, you can hold on to him not to fall on the ground or something, see how he reacts. The best way to find out if a guy likes you is to test him in these subtle ways where you can see how he reacts.

35. He’s a Bit Closer than He Should Be

You can tell if a guy likes you or not by the distance between the two of you and how his body is facing you. If he gets pretty close to you to hear you better; he’s facing you and kind of leaning in, you are just 1 feet away from each other, there’s obviously something going on there. It’s all about proximity.

This really depends on the environment, if you’re somewhere with loud music, you’ll have to be closer to be able to hear each other, but if you’re at some house party, chilling at a friends place, then see what’s the average distance between other people. Is he closer to you than that average? He might like you.

This may even be just sharing the same room (when he could be somewhere else). See if he makes excuses to join you casually on some short trip to the store or something. If you make a lunch break at work, does he suggest you guys continue your office conversation outside of the office by grabbing lunch together?

See if he steers the conversation away from work-related (or college-related) stuff and moves the attention to you and your personal life. See if he opens up and tells you something about himself he wouldn’t normally say to other people. These are all signs of interest.

36. He Suggest You Change Venue

If you’re in a loud place, let’s say at a club, he might suggest that you go out, if you both smoke for example. This is his chance of having some private, alone-time with you, and that’s often a sign that a guy likes you. The same goes for a house party, if he suggests you go out on the balcony or something. He’s trying to have some alone time with you. If he sits next to you, while he could have sat somewhere else.

Again, the opposite may also be a clue. For example, he’s avoiding you or ignoring you. Guys that are either too shy or players do this on purpose, because all the other guys are giving you so much attention, he doesn’t want to be one of them. He knows that he’ll have more of your attention by not giving you any of his.

37. How to Tell if a Guy Likes You at the Gym

If you like a guy at the gym, just see if he’s noticing you. When you look at him, does he look away? Does he try to use any of the machines near you? If he’s a well built guy, he may be trying to show off or lift more than he could. On the other hand, if he isn’t as happy with how he looks, he may shy away and make sure you don’t see him at the gym.

If you’re both running on a treadmill, see if he picks the one closer to you. A definite sign that he likes you is if he passes by you and tries to correct your form or give you some tips on how you could do a certain exercise better. Even if he just makes eye contact and says “Hi!” – that’s a great sign just by itself. Smile back and say Hi! back. Next time you guys could have a longer “conversion” – like – “Hey, how’s it going?” and then something gym-related.

If you notice that you somehow always end up at the gym around the same time, it might be that he remembered when you’re at the gym (if you’re a regular) and he started coming in at a similar time just to see you. This doesn’t necessarily have to be that way, but it could be possible. If you like a guy at your gym, try to start a conversation every now and then, ask him a question, act silly.

38. He Calls You on a Date

young couple drinking coffee

Okay, maybe he won’t say “let’s go on a date,” but still, if he has your number and he invites you to dinner/lunch/coffee, or even just to go out with some mutual friends, that’s another surefire way to tell if a guy likes you. Whenever you see that a guy wants to spend some time just with you, he’s obviously interested.

Look at it as a fact, if a guy calls you to “hang out” or starts a conversation about similar interests and how you could do “such and such” together, that’s a definite sign of interest. If he doesn’t invite you on anything, make it easier, more casual… try testing him. The best thing is when you are already at some event together, or you work together or study together, and then after work or class, you can change venue and go grab coffee or lunch. This way you’re not officially meeting just because of each other, but you’ve already been doing something and then you casually end up having an unplanned “date.” If he agrees, that’s a good sign, plus you can test him for other signs of interest.

Is he a shy Virgo? Or a feisty Aries? His zodiac sign can tell you if a guy likes you so make sure to ask him what his star sign is and check how his sign shows the affection.

39. He Chats You Up on Facebook (or Any other communication thing)

As soon as he sees you online, there he is, sending you messages. He likes you for sure. Look for pokes. Look for direct messages on Twitter or if he sends you a picture on Instagram. The same goes for any app, Viber, WhatsApp, whatever. You can send him a smiley and start the conversation yourself. If he’s responsive and keeps chatting, and chatting, and chatting, that’s a perfect sign of interest. Just make sure you don’t end up being the last one to reply every time. Wait a bit. See if he’s trying to keep the conversation alive or he just leaves.

40. He Gives You a Nickname

This is just another way of him trying to tease you. If he tries to give you a cute nickname, or any nickname that’s supposed to tease you, that’s another great sign.

41. How to Tell if a Guy Likes You at Work

First, use all the other signs above. Then focus on office politics. Does he tell you all the newest rumors? Do you have your own little inside jokes? Show up with high heels one day (if you don’t already) and see if he looks at you differently or he’s checking you out. A good way to know if a guy likes you is if he never does anything job-related that could hurt you or your career, maybe he offers to help you out with extra work or stuff like that. If he’s your boss or manager, he might be nicer to you than to other employees.

Again, the opposite is also possible – he might be in love with you and agree because he thinks you don’t like him or that he doesn’t have a chance with you and then he’ll treat you… well, worse than other people. Guys can be quite insecure and confusing in that sense. Keep looking for anything unusual.

42. He (Eagerly) Helps You Out

Let’s say this is a guy you work with. At work, just look at how he treats other people compared to you, and you’ll immediately be able to tell if he likes you.

If he helps you out with whatever you need, he’s on your side during meetings, he tries to make you like him, then you know he likes you. Maybe not in a “I want a relationship” kind of way, maybe he’s just attracted to you, or thinks you’re cute. The best way to know is to test him. If there’s some big task and you need help with it and ask him if he’d help – how does he react? Is he eager to make time for you or does he easily dismisses you because he has “too much stuff on his plate right now?” Keep testing.

43. He Invests In You

Another way to tell if a guy likes you is by looking at how much time, energy, money and general effort he has invested in your relationship. Did he go out of his way to help you with something that took him hours, did he do you any favors, did he do anything more than what was expected of him? If yes, he probably likes you. Did he offer you a lift home on a rainy day? Give him another point. Let those points add up so you can be more sure about whether he likes you or not.

44. He Wants to Dance

two young people dancing

If you’re at a party and you talk for a couple of minutes, or more, then he suggests you hit the dance floor – there you go, the chances are that he likes you.

45. He Remembers the Details

Let’s say you’ve met this guy once before, talked a bit, and now you run into him again. Does he remember some tiny, little detail from your previous conversation? Something that’s trivial, irrelevant, even pointless? Guys have a selective memory.

When a guy likes you, he pays more attention to what you’ve said, he delves deeper into your words and tries to figure out their hidden meaning. So, if he brings up something that you’ve talked about before, and you figure he remembers things you say – it’s possible that it’s because he likes you.

This is often a sure sign that tells that a guy likes you, because guys tend to forget everything that chicks they are NOT interested in, say. Their name, job, where they’re from, what they do, hobbies, opinions, and whatever they’ve said when they first met, just evaporate.

If we don’t like a girl, often what she says isn’t “worth remembering” so our brain just filters it. Goes in on one ear, goes out on the other one.

46. He’s Asking Around About You

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You - Friends chatting in coffee shop

Talk to mutual friends. It can happen that they give him away. Friends of friends are a pretty easy way to tell if a guy likes you.

For example, they might talk excessively about everything that is good, about this guy when you’re not there, trying to make him seem better than he is in your eyes, or they might mention he’s been asking around about you or something like that.

Keep an eye out for stuff like this, because friends can give him away easily.

47. He Hangs Out in a Group Only Because You are There Too

Let’s say you guys have mutual friends. He wants to get closer to you, but he can’t get to you directly. He knows you have mutual friends, or you hang out in the same group, so he’ll try to set things up, so you “accidentally” meet again.

Try to figure this out… next time maybe he doesn’t care about these friends as much as he cares about you, and the only reason he’s with them is so that he can run into you.

48. He Doesn’t Mention Other Women

Here’s another way to tell if a guy likes you. When you are together, he doesn’t mention other women. Maybe he even has a girlfriend, or a wife, but he doesn’t mention it simply because he wants to seem available in case you like him.

If you know that he has a girlfriend, or something going on with some another woman, but he doesn’t mention her in front of you – there you go. He probably likes you!

On another note, if he IS already involved with someone else in any way, you will need to do some further investigating to see if his current relationship is really falling apart, he’s ready to move on and he wants to do it with you, or he’s simply a player trying to have his cake AND eat it too.

49. He Tries to Get You Drunk

Okay, this is obvious. If you go out with a group of friends and he’s insisting on buying drinks and is kind of motivating you to “drink up” and orders tequila shots for everyone. He may be trying to get you to relax and hoping that if you get tipsy, he might kiss you and say “sorry I got so drunk yesterday” later.

50. He Opens the Door for You

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You - Man and woman shopping portrait

Okay, he may just be a gentleman and he’d open the door for anyone, but look at it from another perspective. If he’s being nice to you and he’s trying to please you or appear as a gentleman in your eyes – that’s definitely a sign that he likes you.

Especially if he’s more attentive towards you, than other folks around if you’re in a group. Look for any kinds of chivalry around you. Carrying your stuff, or offering to help you move. Test him by coming up with problems. Men are great at solving problems. Next time when you have a conversation with him – come up with a problem. A problem you assume he could help you with. See how he reacts. If he eagerly suggests to help, connect you with someone, or help you with anything that would mean more time for the two of you together – that’s perfect! That’s a definite sign of interest.

50. He is more groomed than usual

Most men don’t groom too much. We are lazy, and, unless our work requires us to, most of wouldn’t shave as often, or shower. Or iron our clothes. Guys mostly care about their appearance when they have a goal in mind. “Okay, I’m going to this meeting, I should look sharp, not like a bum…” he’ll want to look presentable, he might shave, fix his hair, put on perfume and dress much nicer.

This is what you should look for – when he meets with you, does he seem as if he worked on how he looks a bit more than usual? If he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t care about your opinion of his looks, he’d regard you as “one of the guys”… but if you notice he’s making sure he looks a bit better when you are with him, that’s a great sign that he might be into you and trying to “sell” himself to you.

51. He Doesn’t Look at the Clock

He’s hanging out with you and he isn’t in a hurry, he doesn’t say he has to go – so he’s obviously enjoying his time with you. He makes the time to be with you – that’s another easy way to tell if a guy likes you – if he’s checking the clock all the time, his phone etc. then you’re not a priority of any kind for him, or someone he might be interested in.

These were some more or less obvious signs that can help you tell if a guy likes you.

Now, let’s say he’s a master at camouflaging his interest in you. How do you get him out of his shell? There are some ways to trick him into being more open about his feelings. For some guys, you just have to give them this little push so that they open up.

The thing is that many guys are afraid to make the first move because they don’t want to get rejected.

This guy might also be wondering weather you like him or not – if he sees that he might have a chance – he’ll probably give it a try and show his interest more openly.

52. He’ll probably have  “I’m Mad at You” Faze

He’ll stop calling, stop answering your calls, stop seeing you. He’ll get really busy all of a sudden and probably find himself a girlfriend he won’t give a sh*t about just to forget about you.

All of these signs might seam childish, but believe it or not guys actually do all of this.

53. Go With Your Guts!

The best way to tell if a guy likes you is to simply GO WITH YOUR GUTS. I’ve read all your comments on this article, and 99.99% of the time when you’re wondering whether a guy likes your or not – HE LIKES YOU. Women are naturals at picking up on these signals of attraction. Whenever you have a feeling that he likes you, it’s almost certain that he does. You subconsciously picked up on these clues and you FEEL there’s something happening there. Just go with your gut feeling.

If you want even more proof, the best thing to do is to test him.

Here’s what you should do to get him to reveal whether he likes you or not:

Look at Him

Yep. Give him a longer look, and then a warm smile. That’s often enough for a guy to know that he’s invited to come up to you, and start talking.

Touch Him

As you’re talking to him, initiate some physical contact. Stop him in the middle of a sentence – grab his shoulder or wrist firmly, hold on to it and say something out of a sudden like “hey! Listen to this, bla bla bla” then let go of his wrist as you continue talking, this might give him the impression that you like him, so the doors are a bit more open.

Laugh

Laugh at his (even stupid) jokes. He’ll notice that you like him and that will make him a bit more open towards you.

Compliment

Give him a compliment about something, say, “that’s so cool” for something he says, does, thinks, wears.

A Short Summary

The easiest ways to tell if a guy likes you is to look at his body language and general behavior when he’s around you. Follow his eyes; if he’s looking at your breasts, legs and lips when talking to you, he definitely likes what he sees.

If you see he’s trying to get to know you better, he’s asking questions, and treating you better than other women around, it’s possible that he likes you. These are the more obvious signs that he wants more than just being friends or acquaintances.

That’s how you tell if a guy likes you or not – look for any of the 52 signs above, and if you can find at least 10, then you know that this guy likes you.

And don’t forget that his zodiac sign might be also the reason why he hides that he likes you or that he is afraid to confess it to you. Make sure you know his sign and find out how to tell if a guy likes you based on his zodiac sign.

The question is – what will you do about it?

Maybe you are STILL not sure whether this guy likes you or not, or maybe he’s too shy to make a move, or, maybe… he DOES NOT LIKE YOU after all.

Which is also quite possible. A lot of guys are just nice and don’t want to hurt your feelings, they’re like that with everyone. Or they’re only interested in sleeping with you and nothing else. They’re not interested in a relationship with you because they don’t see you as relationship material, or good enough to have him thinking about commitment. It’s even possible that he likes you, but doesn’t want to “make a move” because he sees that you’ll be “too much work” later and he’ll have to break up.

So how do you get around that? How do you get him to like you if he doesn’t, and how do you get him to finally invite you on a date if he does like you? Well, you need to understand men better if you want to wrap him around your finger, that’s exactly why I recommend you read Mirabelle’s classic guide to men: Wrap Him Around Your Finger, so you don’t make the mistakes most women make in the early stages of a relationship (that’s where most relationships fail, before they even start). And once you finally do wrap him around your finger, you’ve got to keep it that way — that’s even more challenging — and this is when James Bauer’s now famous Respect Principle works so well, enabling you to have the relationship with the man you want, for as long as you want. Both are proven-to-work systems to getting the relationship you deserve.

About the author

Jason

Jason runs a construction company, but he enjoys sharing his experiences with the opposite sex by writing about relationships in his spare time. He spends his weekends kite surfing and running on the beach.

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  • Wow! I really appreciate your work Jason for this AMAZING article! Thank YOU! I’ve read it at once. Really stunning.

  • I like this article it really help to find out if a guy wants to be more than friends, this article helped me to find my the best guy ever. Thanks for posting this article it changed my life now i’m the happiest person on earth.

  • omg i am going to pay more attention to the guy i like i am sure it help me out a lot! thanks jason! :)

  • I was sad cuz he said that he didn’t like like me to one of my friends,and I was laying on a couch,all depressed,with my sweatshirt over my face,and he came over,layed next to me,and asked me what’s wrong.I’m soooo confused!!!

    • I BELIEVE HE LIKES YOU BRIANNA . IT SOUNDS TO ME LIKE HE IS SHY OR SCARED POSSIBLY . GUYS ARE VERY CONFUSING AT TIMES . BUT CHIN UP . THERE IS SOMBEODY OUT THERE FOR YOU . JUST TALK TO HIM AND WATCH HIS REACTIONS . TRY TO GET TO KNOW HIM BETTER . AND BESIDES THAT IT IS BETTER TO BE FRIENDS FIRST . YOU CAN LEARM A LO MORE ABOUT THE PERSON THAT WAY =)

    • He cares about you, he likes you. You should get to know him a little more. He doesn’t want to ruin the friendship between you two.

      • Yep, you’re right…. guys can be very shy when around the girl of his dreams. I was in this position before, so I agree with you.

  • I was having problems trying to figure out this guy in my apartment complex. he is cold and ignoring me like u said. I asked if he had a gf like 3 times and he never even bothered to answer that question. he also asked for my #! he might like me, but he never actually sat down with me to have a real conversation. alot of my friends tell me he is a player lookin for trouble… but I like him o much to leave. ugh.., wat do I do? but thank you! this gave me hints!

  • This is owsome… But i cant undrstand dose he likes me cos he says me something in facebook and somthing els when he mets me…

  • I loove this Atricle, probably the best I’ve read. I am also one of the youngest to have read it as am only a teenager but it has helped me so much!
    Especially that it’s written by a guy…. I guess I can trust it more x

    I am going to talk to my crush for the first time…wish me luck!!!

  • I read the article and I don’t know what to do… The guy I like works with me and we talk and he keeps telling me he’s single and that so am I and he helped me fix my car. I’ve only known him for a week and I flirt back to show I like him too but when I asked him out he turned me down…. What should I do now?

    • Most guys don’t like girls to ask them out. He may just be testing the waters but still thinks its a little too soon just keep it cool and remain friends. I’m sure it will all work out. Good Luck Jenny

  • So I had a bf I took for grantued so he started dating hes ex girlfriend but than we started talking and he sometimes act he dosent care but sometimes he act like he does he gets me confueses

  • I need some advice. I need an outside perspective on this. I like this guy @ the gym ALOT he& I are both in the same weight loss / exercise program he i started noticing him after he came up and sked me if I was ok after a really scary cramp in my chest. He placed his hand on my shoulder and asked if I was ok. I turned back to him but was kinda short with him I do have to admit. But I was embarrassed that I had such a public reaction. He next time I worked out with him I had to do a double take! Something told me to look. He isn’t a guy I would normally go for.. He’s sweet & nice for one thing. I usually go for the emotionally unobtainable guys.. Jerks really… Anyway I’ve asked our trainer about him & she says he’s a totally awesome guy but extremely shy… I am to but when I get around another shy person I become the extrovert ! I ‘ve done the stupidest things to get him to open up. I’ve noticed one day when we we partnering up that i think he wanted to be my partner but the new girl asked me . it was really awkward ! i wanted. To be near him & sugessted we all work out together but he clasped patted my shoulder& said it was ok and he walked off! my hert sank! i’ve noted since then that he’ll sorta stand next to me or he’ll either pat/ clasp my shoulder. Once in the parking lot he saw me walking in. He was closer to the door so he stopped and waited on me. We walked in together which made my trainer really happy! Her goal is to have us together by the end of our program. But the most recent work out he asked one of the other girls to stay behind & work out with him. i also know his ex is trying to get back with him:( so what do you all think? Does he like me or is he just being nice?

    • I think because of the fact that he is really shy and he seeked you out to talk to that he does like you because you said that he asked another lady to work out with him he might be doing what one of my friends does and is trying to make you jealous or sees what your reaction is going to be. Talk to him, just be like… hey _____ do you want to go get a drink or something with me? or just be stait forward and say hey ______ we sould hang out sometime catch a movie or something. Good luck hope you too get together soon

    • Give him time, he may be exploring his options. I was going out with a slightly shy guy and I was sadly short with him. If he expresses any of those go for it. He wants to be your partner awesome! That’s adorable! Maybe he doesn’t ask you to stay after with him cause he’s nervous or uncomfortable with you watching him work out cause that can be awkward. Or maybe he thinks you talk to that girl and is trying to get more information on you. If he feels on you he wants you. Go for it he seems like a good guy, flirt it up, you never know what could happen. Good luck!!!!!

  • I really like this guy, and he stares at me sometimes. He’s never talked to me really because he’s only been going to my school for a month so he doesn’t talk to many people. Anyways, him and one on his friends were talking about me and I sat a few seats away from them, his friend smiled and pointed and me and said “her??” To him. What does this mean?

    • Unless you had something really awkward in your hair or something, he definitely likes you.

    • well you identified the prmloebs in your question, change those and it may work out, however my experience shows that if it didnt work the first time the second time wont work either, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results

    • Well, Maybe he’s a sh*ttalker and him and his friends are popping sh*t about you, but there is a possibility he MAAAYYY like you. In our opinion we think you should confront him and ask him why were they talking about you!! ~Liliany & Elvira (;

  • Ok so my guy friend does this and he calls me everynight and he messages me on facebook and emails me and randomly says I Love you. but no matter what I do I even said just ask me out already and he says Baby you know I love you but please just wait. So what do I do I really want to be his gf. Please help me Im in love with him.

    • You could ask him out and if he saysno nd to wait just wait maybe he will make u his gf soon but be patient

    • what you need to do is not to say “l love you back” and watch him be desperate to have you and wait for the first real sign of movement!

    • Listen dont put yourself that low and ask him out wait for him to ask you ! im pretty sure he’ll ask you out when he’s ready. ~ Liliany & Elvira :)

    • I have a huge crush and he is always hangin around me, but I don’t know if he likes me becuase with what I’ve seen he is the same when I’m with him and his friends or I’m not there and I’m watching to see what he is doing. What should I do to make sure he likes me because I think he likes me! MAYBE????????

  • Hi everyone, I recently met this guy and we have been going to the library together to study, and we hang out a bit sometimes at the mall and just eat together. He touched my leg one time and my arm. He asks me to get a phone all the time and for me to call him and text him. He also asked me to hang out with him and call him when I wanted to go out with him. I know these might seem like signs that he likes me but I am still not sure. And why dose he keep asking me to get a cell? I dont know if he likes me or not because he seems so chill about me being around him, please help. Thanks.

    • his just playing you gf!!!! don’t give in and let him come to you but dont let him give up for you to notice his looks and ways!!! give him time to be realtistic here!!!! find the time and space to really know what his really about

    • He’s probably trying to get you to bed be careful , you can’t trust people these days .Other then that it’s kind of ovibious he’s interested in you. ~ Liliany & Evira (:

  • Today, I found my sister playing pingpong with my crush and the minute I walked in, he started telling me how she was crushing him and stuff. Later, when he left, he said, “Bye (my sisters name), bye Isabelle.” Someone tell me if he likes my sister or me? He definitely was trying to flirt with one of us.

    • ok he is playing the game and he maybe like you but l think hes just a player dont trust him. Make him wait and maybe he will eventually ask you out or make you notice him but hes proberly tricking you to believe you like him but could be lieing. Dont give in just let him go and he will return to u but he likes you Just in another way to say yes he does!

    • Hi my name is Gwen ,can u help me I have a problem I am so in love with a guy he’s name is J.P he is hot.If I talk to him I am so nerves and I don’t realy now what to say what shoeld I do?

  • I’m a guy and half of the ways I just read were wrong. Some guys notice that a girl is lonely, or they just want someone to have a conversation with. Yeah some guys may be nervous around a girl but that could be because they aren’t used to that type of crowd. I disagree with half of what’s written here. Maybe even he is lonely and decided to go on fb where he found you being pretty close to him and all and started chatting. That doesn’t mean he likes you, maybe as a friend…

    • Obviously you are thinking a bit wrong here because a guy can get very confused to what they want and like! l think that a guy should always keep there feelings to a certain instenct because they do not realize they are making a girl happy. l do think that guyz do have feelings and they only show it if they really do like the girl!!!!

  • I have a huge crush – I wasn’t even attracted to him the first couple of times I talked to him, but now… OMG – I can’t stop thinking about him. I don’t think it’s just me, I don’t think I’d be this cunfuzzled if I didn’t think that he started it, but now…. I’m not sure – He came by for what was supposed to be quick signing of paperwork and ended up visiting for a couple of hours – he volunteered all kinds of personal information and was talking about future plans, invited himself to dinner – I was thrilled – had to run said he’d be back and then…….never showed…..huh???????

  • i used to have like this massive crush for this guy, but he knew it, and because he knew it he used to be cheeky to me when other people were around but by himself he used to be kindah sweet… i used to see him like at least 3 times a week at a youth group, then i stopped going and didn’t see him for a year..and when i came back to the youth group i stopped liking him as much because i realised he was a idiot and kept making me upset and we always used to argue, but then i realised that he was always watching me, then once i caught him staring at me so i raised my eyebrows and he just smiled and just kept staring (i asked him why he stared and just smiled at me, and he made up a stupid reason saying oh was just wondering what you guys were talking about)..and he was so nice to, he now constantly smiles at me, hes asked if i had a bf before, and ive noticed that when i talk about other guys he gets frustrated so i asked him , about himself and previous girlfriends and who his kissed and etc but he was a bit annoyed ..

    why is this?
    what does he want to just talk about me and him?
    why is he getting upset about me talking about other people?

    on 2 occasions hes stayed up all night to talk to me (i asked if he was tired he said no although it was obvious he was) and we weren’t even talking about much, he makes fun of me and every now and again compliments me..

    everyone thinks he likes me, i used to think so too but not i don’t know hes kindah complicated..does he like me??

    • GF you have put yourself in a mess and now your trying to find a way out maybe you just need to take it slow and steady coz he can really like you. just wait coz only fools rush in. give him time to get his mind around things and maybe he will finelly find that connection you’s may have remember slow and steady wins the race and you will find the love and friendship or reality feelings towards each other!!!!

  • this just made me more confused. I talk to him, and one day, hes giving me compliments, telling me what he likes about me and that im cute, or whatever and then maybe the next day we barely talk, and if we do, the conversation is.. dull. nothing like the day before. just a normal conversation. im so confused

  • Hi, I have a crush on someone at work. He always makes time for me, if I need something done he’ll deal with it straight away yet with others it can take weeks, I gave him an Xmas gift & he kissed me on my cheek to thank me & hugged me, at our work party 5 days later he came up, thanked me again, kissed me on the cheek & asked to buy me a drink. Whenever I go to talk to him he gives me his full attention, we have a laugh & he says things like – he was doing a survey on the colleagues & when he got to me he said he’d saved the best till last! He will speak to me whenever he sees me even if it’s just a hello. It’s driving me crazy cos I don ‘t know what to do. What can i do? Any help would be welcome! Thanks

    • Personally hes only looking for a friend but if you start opening upto him and have a friendship maybe things can go further. Good Luck!

    • well i have been in a similar situtation and in my prospective , i believe you should give him a hint , that your interset in him. If he’s really interset in you he will show it . trust me , but i feel as he is confuse too. he might be in the same situation as you. so i believe the best thing you should do is actually give him a hint that you like him

    • I still haven’t done anything about my crush & I just wanted to add to my previous comment. When I developed thus crush I was already in a relationship as was he, he used to ask me questions like have I booked a wedding date yet? I’d always reply not yet. One day we were talking & he said something about me being “young, free & single” & when I joked that I was not completely single but not to let the bf know I said that, he said he thinks if himself as single too. He has since moved to a different branch of the company we work for & become single. I recently called him to see how things were going & to ask when he was transferring back & during the conversation he asked if I was getting married yet & when I said no & that my bf & I had broke up his reaction was “is it permanent?” Which isn’t the reaction I would have expected from a guy was expecting “sorry to hear that” but I don’t get the chance to react to it as he had to go back to work. Is this a good sign or am I reading too much into things? Am thinking if calling him again soon & asking him out for a drink but terrified he’ll say no. He transferred 5 months ago & I though this crush would disappear but it hasn’t changed at all. If anyone at work mentions him I can’t think of anything else for the rest of the day. Please help me x

      • KT84 – please take the courage and go out for some coffee, beer? Clearly he is into you, and its sad, how many people do not even try to explore whats there. In the worst case, you will find out that you misunderstood him…

  • How do I get talking to a boy I like without it being awkward??

    So there is this boy in college I really like, there has been a bit or flirting going on between us. He is such a gentleman, he opens the door for me in the Cafeteria and always stands aside if I need to walk past him, (I don’t have to walk around him haha) I really want to get to know him better but I don’t know how to start a conversation without it being awkward, I am quite a shy girl :)

    • you just need to open upto him and maybe you will find out alot about him and it will come natural and unique good feelings for each other!

    • LOL. I believe you should just introduce yourself to him or just start a random conversation and then introduce yourself. :) you can bump into him or something and start your conversation from there… <3 good luck ~ liliany & Elvira

  • Hello! Here is my situation. There’s this guy I like that I never thought I’d do. We’re workmates and at the very first day we sat with each other, we already had a great conversation. I like music and so he does. He likes to dance and so as I. We do have common friends too (unexpectedly). Music is what we have in common. There was this time that I was assigned to another account that I have to leave the office (that we are supposed to be office mates) he hugged me on my last day of being there. But it was nothing to me since my girlfriends hugged me too. And there was this time that we were practicing (as a group) for our caroling contest (accidentally we’re group mates) he invited me to go to church after the practice since that was Sunday. During the mass he does something that gets my attention (he hits me with his elbow gently and consistently as if he has something to say and he smiles and look at me). Whenever we are together, we’re always having a nice conversation. He always makes fun of me (sometimes I get irritated) but it’s cute though. He invited me to go to church for the second time together with my other girlfriend (that we both call “mommy” as if she was our mom because we have this so-called “family circle” with some of our workmates) and after that we text each other like whole day. Sometimes he texts me like “Good morning corny! (since we call each other corny. lol) I’m now going to church with the choral groups. How about you? Have a nice day!” that kind of you know. When he went to a place very far from our city for three or two days, he did not text me when he arrived and NEVER texted me during his stay there. But when he arrived, he told me he bought something for me. Now, I’m confused because we don’t text or see each other a lot like the “old days” and I don’t want to make the first move. We accidentally saw each other in a mall with our “mommy” and we had lunch together. Our “mommy” was very busy that both of us are the ones having a conversation. He jokes and still makes fun of me a lot. He opens his problem with his family a lot. But, I think he is starting to ignore me or something. I don’t know. He also mentioned that he really wants to focus with his work and studies and because of that he never had a girlfriend. And guess what? I never had a boyfriend too. LOL. (please don’t laugh at me) I’m 19 (too young, I know :D) and he’s 23. . What you think? Boys are very confusing! Hahaha >.<

    • Ok its like what Jason has said that a man do change their feelings alot but maybe you need to ask him some questions and maybe you will get the straight answers but if you see hes lying well he is and that will not be a good sign to see and especially for him being 23 he can take advantage of you but if you change your moods maybe he can see properly but if u start to see signs differently he will be different and hard to see but he could still like you and find a bit of wisdom in you and wants to be with you he just dont know how to express it and how to tell you. dont stress gf you still have a chance!!!!!

  • I know I have the naive approach but why not just ask him? I do not get all this stuff. I just have to be honest that way I know or not and its either on or off. That way I can move on.

    • your trying to tell your self that your over him but something is really bugging you or him or something in the relationship aint right. Maybe you really do need to tell how you feel and express your feelings if he doesnt listen well his just not into you!

  • I meant to add you can still be friends and ask in a nice way even jokingly. Just get your point across. If he takes the bait fine if not then you have your answer. There is no sense in analyzing it to death, that only stresses you out. Take things at face value and use open communication. If you like him and want him to know use eye contact, find a way to touch his wrist or shoulder when talking and only hold it for a few seconds. He will take that as you like him. Look up articles on subtle ways of letting guys know you like them. Compliment him but only use real compliments do not make them up and do not just spill them out all over. If he is good at something tell him. If all else fails ask him but do it in a gentle way not on the spot way.

  • I have known this guy for a while, he is a friend of my cousins, in the time I have grown to like him a lot. He will cuddle with me and try to give me a kiss, pulls my hair(thoe it is way too hard of a pull), and he nips at my neck, but then he will go and get another girl. Because of the always being with a diffrent girl, I don’t know what he is signaling or what it all means. Im really confused :S

  • Alright, so theres a guy I go to school with & we’ve got mutual friends, so I include him in my ‘bake stuff for these people’ list on holidays or special occasions whenever I make stuff. Just recently, he chatted to me on Facebook & gave me his number. We’ve been texting ever since & we’ll text til we’re tired, then he’ll send me the “Good morning.” text, so i’m thinking he’s into me. Recently, I was scrolling through Facebook (we’re friends) and his status came up. (Don’t call me a creep, because he’s been liking all my statuses recently.) He was at an outside party & he froze, because he let a girl borrow his jacket. Today (the 21st, we didn’t die!), no texts at all. So I text him saying, “Did you die yet? :P” to which he responds “Yep!” and a few minutes later, “I though this was someone else.. who is this?” He also asked who it was yesterday when I texted. Am I overthinking this, or does he come off as a player? And does this mean he’s not saving my number?

  • i like a guy and he begged for my number from my friend and askes me if i am ok, how was my day and if i walked past him he would call me aside and have a brilliant conversation with me…
    but the delema i have is he dated my best friend and im scerd that if i dated him i would rouin the friendship we have between us what should i do!

    • Well my dear, I have been through 2 relationships that were based on the greatest friendships, and It never worked. I screwed him over and visa versa. The last one, I told myself I did not want to fall for him, because his my friend! But hell, I fell harder that I had ever imagined!!!!! I fell for every little piece of him, his lips and his touch and most of all his personality. But then, things went sour, and I regret but every thing that led to this. Even the first kiss…..they’re all asses! But try it, and go in it with the mindset “it is for fun and experience, nothing more, don’t fall inlove with him!”

  • @KT84

    First of all as a guy I do the same thing to my crush so your crush likes you

    Second of all ask him if he wants to go get a drink or go to the bar, movies restaurant and see what happens.

    But I know 100% that he likes you

    Good luck :)

  • My problem is that I went out with this guy when I was younger (6 years ago) and now we are chatting and flirting again, He approached me a couple of weeks ago by asking me about a cutesy nickname he had for me when we dated the first time and spoke about different things we had done together. He remembered my birthday, calls me babe and he arranges to meet (general, not specific) but I saw him when I went out with friends, he chatted to one of my friends and they both teased me (good natured), although he did seem distracted. We went separate ways . . . He didn’t say hello to me that night when all of us met up again, he was actually a lot more quiet than normal when both sets of friends were there, but he checked on me a few times during the night and asked me how I was etc. . When we talk he is sweet, looks at me and appears to be listening and all of his texts have kisses, but I don’t know if they mean anything. Also he is on holiday right now but we had a brief chat a couple of days ago and he seemed aloof, still polite but not as interested, if that makes sense?

    I guess I’m asking, does he like me or should I give up? Because I am confused as to why he approached me how he did if all he wanted was a friendship, why bring up happy past memories of when we were together, for no reason?
    I’m so confused!

  • I worried im with a guy and another guy I broke up with now he is following me around and I was on a school trip he put his round my waist please tell me if he likes me I’m so scared

  • I’ve known this guy this for a while and he works with me and he’s such a gentlemen.. like he’s always complementing me or opening doors for me. Well to be honest i kinda like him, but he’s not making a move should i let it be or do something?

  • Sometimes its still confusing. Even though, he shows most of the signs, I’m still confused. He ignores me many times. Whenever we chat on facebook, he’s always the first one would say, “I have to rest now, goodnight!” And then when I replied, he would able to read the message the next day,and won’t reply anymore.
    He always help me, he always sat beside me whenever we’re in a group, he remembers detail, he even memorize my expressions and my favorite things. He makes me laugh, we always laugh. Everyday, after our work, he would go to my work place and tell stories and jokes. But whenever we’re in a group, he doesn’t talk. Everybody known him as a very quiet person and a serious one, but when we’re alone, he’s very talkative. He didn’t asked for my number, but he gave his number. He gave his number and told me to inform him if we have a work the next day.
    We never talked about anything romantic. He never asked about if I ever had a boyfriend or whatever relationship I had before. And he makes fun of me, he thinks that I probably be born “genetically male”, that’s why I’m confused. Because I was kind of boyish, he maybe sees me as “dude”, and not a kind of a “girl next door”.
    And also, he’s 2 years older than me, and more mature than I am. Maybe he just saw a “younger sister” in me.
    I can’t tell if he really likes me, so please, your comments and maybe your observations would be a big help. I don’t want to ruin our friendship because of my confusions.
    Thank you in advance! :)

  • 1st of all, on #21 it says busting your balls. Girls don’t have balls. XD 2nd of all, AMAZING work! :)

    • You do know, that “busting your balls” is an expression, right? It’s just another way of saying that he’s bullsh*tting you, or teasing, messing with you, ect.

  • He ignores me as much as possible and he doesn’t respond back to my Letters. But he always stairs at me? When ever and wherever he walks or drives by me. Does he like me. He smiles very lightly and always tries to keep a straight face but his eyes are giving him away.

  • I have a guy i like at my karate class his name is kennodie and at the sleepover I found out that my cousin who is also my best friend likes him to and he slept in the middle of us well the lights went out and we were holding hands and stuff like that well the next thing that I know I turn around to see what’s wrong with my cousin because she is crying and she says kennodie won’t hang out with her he only was hanging out with me well he said he doesn’t like her and she was right he had been hanging out with me all day and I turn around to tell him what’s wrong with her and he kisses me!!!! I didn’t know what to do so I pulled away and then went in for another kiss!! Except I felt so bad about doing that to my cousin and he was being so romantic that I just couldn’t resist!!!! And earlier one of his friends had talked bad about my cousin so I told him to stop and kennodie didn’t say anything and then the same friend of kennodies called me a bi*** and kennodie punched him in the nose and gave him a black eye I think he feels the same way about me as I feel about him if y’all have any advice please comment

  • PLEASE HELP ME! So, im crushing on this guy really hard but i dont even know if he cares about me. He will constantly ignore me & act all cool. I see him staring at me out of the corner of my eye, but when i turn around he looks away. He goes to a different school than me but lives near me. A bunch of his friends remember every detail about me but he just stands with them staring at me while his friends ask me all kinds of questions. He doesn’t like my friends & thinks theyre annoying. DOES HE LIKE ME??

  • Hey so I have a crush on this one guy and he is shy and he never talks to me stares at me a lot but when my friend told him that I liked him and asked him if he liked me and I said no I am so confused and also there’s this other guy we are in the same classes and when I said hi to him we were instantly besties but he always ask me to sit with him and everything and ask me to help him on his math does he like me or r we just besties

  • Hey! I have a little complicated situation as all of you… 6 months ago I met a guy who is 3 years older than me. At first I thought we will be just good friends, but than I fall in love with him. He sometimes ignores me and makes fun of me. He acts completlly diffrent in front of his friends than to me. I want to tell him how i fell about him, but I’m scared if he would reject me…Sometimes I have a felling that he fells the same way about me like i fell about him. I see him almost every week and I had a few chances to tell him I love him, but don’t know how to tell him…

    I just want to know if he likes me…
    Every prposal would come in handy.

    I’m from Slovenia, so sorry for every mistakes in the text.

    • Well, ha may just feel comfortable being around you, like he can trust you more than his friends. He could have a crush on you, try getting him into a conversation about what you and him like in a relationship. If what he says matches you, then you guys should totally get together!

      friendly bunny,

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    • We honestly think you should share your feelings with him. In the other hand , the guy i mess with always makes fun of me too , but it’s just playing i go alone with the game. he’s just probably joking with you. I REALLY BELIEVE you should express your feelings and thoughts to him. I mean who knows if he feels the same way you feel , and don’t think negative! How about if he actually likes you and you waste your chance it’s better to get rejected then to lose a chance with someone you could of actually had a chance with . In life you have to take risks and chances . life is too short ! from~ liliany & Elvira

  • WoW thanks! I thought my friend liked me. This just confirmed it. He stands so close to me and is shy around everyone else but he talks to me!

  • i like how you wrote how to tell if a guy likes you and the pictures because it really help me alot

  • Hi,
    here’s my situation
    i go to middle school and me and this boy have been talking.Then he asks me out which i wasnt sure if i liked him anyway so i just said idk after i say that he says oh i was just playing and stuff like that. So we have still been friends and know i have develped feelings for him and idk what to do!! I told my friend to tell him that i like him and he was like”ok” “i dont know if i like her back”.So know he’s been really mean to me lately so i have been giving him the silent treatment.So now im texting him now he said “hey” because i told my friend to tell him to text me cuz we needed to talk. I was going to do it but we sit on opposite sides now so..yeah. I just texted “who is this”
    even though i already know who it is just to see what he said…..
    OH
    now he just said his name sooooo….what should i do guys does he like me or is this all a game
    HELPPP!!!

  • So…. there is this guy I like. We have been friends for about 7 or 8 years. At first I thought he was just weird, I mean I was only like 11 so guys were aliens to me LOL. Over the years I have grown to like him a lot. After 3 years of completely being driven nuts over not knowing how he felt, I began making the moves. I eventually asked him to Prom and then to a rock festival/concert. He said he enjoyed going with me to Prom (but he looked so bored when we were there that I finally asked if he wanted to get out of there). The Rock concert was a big hit, but he didn’t say much (I bought him a freekin’ cd and he never said anything; though he does play it in his car a lot). Anyways, this past fall I finally had enough of trying to understand him and I told him that I was developing feelings for him (i know it was gutsy, but I had to do it or I’d go crazy). When I told him he just said that he’d never had a relationship like that before (what does that mean?). We have hung out since, and more often but I’m confused. We went to the movies and have gone bowling twice (bowling with his guy friends). We went bowling on New Years also and he came near me when the ball dropped but didn’t say anything or make another move. (I originally asked him to come down for New Years then he asked me up later; also I sent him a message about hanging out that was meant to go to a female friend before he asked me to come up and go to a movie, the bowling was a complete surprise)

    He is a kinda shy guy, has ADD (makes it super hard for him to remember anything), he can’t text (can’t afford it), doesn’t like to talk on the phone with anyone), and lives 2 hours away from me. I am planning on moving closer to him next fall, but its a while away.

    He was/is raised by very religious parents (both of us are preachers’ kids). He has told me that his “day was ok, but better now that (I) here.” He also tried to teach me how to bowl, but my mouth decided to speak rather than let him be so I think o blew that. A few times he even told me that I have a “devilish smile” and that I “should move up here (his place) and go to college at the local community college. I take these as signs but I’m not sure if they mean anything. I’ve done quite a bit to let him know how I feel about him but he doesn’t say anything that I can take for a definite. This isn’t my first crush, but this is my first serious.

    PLEASE give advice!!!
    Thanks ☺

    • @M&M

      If a guy really likes you he would not care spend a few cents texting with you. Apparently you guys have been together for a while, if he is not your BF by now he is probably considering you as a “friend.”

      “When I told him he just said that he’d never had a relationship like that before (what does that mean?)”

      By that he meant he never been with any girl for that long.

  • Hey! I had a Crush on this Guy at my school, for awhile, but i never really thought he was interested in me..(I just had a gut feeling) but then one of the other guys at my schools came up, and told me ” i like you” i didn’t believe him at first, but we started to chat, and now… well were dating now! but the “Other Guy”, every now and again, he stares at me when i walk in, or when i’m with a friend he says my name weird. What Does it Mean? OH! P.s… Btw this Has really helped me see that the guy i’m with now really likes me. :}

  • I have a tremendous crush on this guy, and he KNOWS it. So one time he was having a headache and he kept telling me about it. Then I asked if his parents or any of his guy friends knew, and he said that nobody else knew. I thought this peculiar, and I asked one of my girls what that meant, she said ‘He likes you! He’s trying to make you worried!’ and I said I didn’t believe that. So, does he like me, or is he just looking for someone to confess to?

  • So there’s this guy in my school.. We’re always together and we play tricks on eachother all the time. We walk to almost all of our classes together cuz there close by. But when I text him out of school it’s like I’m totally invisible. He will text me for like an hour or two but then he will just randomly say i gtg.. And during lunch he will set beside me, however he will take my iPad and try to lock me out.. (Dweeb) but what I want to know is if he likes me or if he thinks we r just best friends.. Sad thing is that hes always around me at school but ignores me out of school. I’m so confused. I just wish guys would come outand say what they think…

  • i am currently in a 6yr relationship with my fiance. a few months ago i ran into an ex supervisor that i used to work with/flirted with before i connected with my fiance. the ex supervisor comes up to me…i point out my fiance….then he leans in and says “does your fiance know how lucky he is?”…the interesting thing is that after that me & fiance been having issues….now i find myself thinking what if that lucky fiance wasn’t so lucky & i was single….does it sound like he likes me & wishes he was the lucky one? he was standing awefully close & he had a long lasting stare at me……any suggestions?

  • Whats up Im a guy but i checked this out to find out how to let a girl know I like her (great job btw) but there’s this girl who I tutor with an she talked about her bf and how terrible it has been so I figured she wasn’t interested but later she poked me and asked if I was ticklish and the rest of the time we kept touching each other slight footsie she touched my hands twice and we had a “tickle fight?” idk but am I mistaking this for flirting?

  • Ok. Have a problem. I have had a major crush on this guy Luke since we were three. So I took your advice to see if he likes me,and I even asked one of his bestfriends if luke ever Talked about me and he said Luke did all the time.last week he took me to one of his football games because I love football.he even drove me home.when he walked me to my door he leaned in like he was going to try to kiss me but then hesitated and then made up some fake phone call excuse from his mom.But here is my problem in about third grade this guy named Joseph showed up at my school and we have become best friends and I never thought of us as anything else until last July in the tenth grade.we started hanging out more just the two of us.and I remember the night I reAlized I liked him. It was a swimming party/sleep over.after we were done swimming we all watched the notebook.(love that movie)Everybody had found somebody to sit with excePt for me and Joseph so I ended up falling asleep on his chest with him holding me. It felt so right.then last week before Christmas break he asked me out he told me to think about it over the break.I still haven’t given him an answer.I like them both,what do I do!!!!

    • Personally girl I would have to go with Joseph because you know you won’t get rejected and you sound like you r more comfortable with him

  • Okay, so I have a crush, and I think he knows that I existed. I can only meet him once a week, and it’s cool and all but the problem is that we don’t know each other.(but I know we both could recognize each other’s faces) And, also, I don’t know his name, (so I can’t stalk him on facebook). I got a weird vibe saying that he likes me like when he does something cool, he glances at me to see my reaction(maybe), well when the second time, third time.. times that I couldn’t already count came, I was suspicious. Another one is when he tries crack a joke, he laughed so hard that he rolled on the floor, and glanced on my direction, maybe to see if I laughed(sadly I didn’t because his joke wasn’t funny and I am not the type who fakes a laugh :(( ). Also, eye contact. When I first met him, I wasn’t really attracted to him, but as time flew, I grew more conscious around him, and tried my best to avoid him(though I don’t want to, it’s just that I’m too scared to lock eyes with him.) Before I realized I had a crush on him, he would try to capture my attention, though I am not sure if that is what he really planned, so when he did something that is really eye-catching, he would look at me, fix his hair, and go back to what he’s doing. And there was a time when he had a girl which is his close friend showed up, and he even put his arms around her back, in my presence(ouch). I started to suspect that maybe she’s his girlfriend or they are dating because of that act. I was not really hurt, but rather disappointed because I thought he likes me. Then next week came and I was expecting that he would not show up because we had this sort of event that happens once a year only, and this event causes some of the major roads to be closed due to parades, processions, etc. He lives somewhere far, and I know that he might have anticipated the traffic and all. So I felt a bit happy and relieved that he won’t be showing up and that I won’t have to feel the pressure when he is there. Surprisingly, he showed up and one thing weird about it, he came alone. Usually, on a normal day, he would come with his friends, but not that day. I was deeply perplexed and was almost panicking, because I was clearly unprepared. Well, as you all know I am the shy type. And also, my younger brother knows. When he arrived, my brother voiced the sound of an electric guitar like the one in the movies when a cool guy shows up. Confused, I turned my back to see what he was looking at, and there you have it. So, technically, I ran away, and my mother asked me why I did that, so I ended up saying a dumb reason which she believed, and I was successfully able to attain freedom. I hid somewhere near our car, gasping for fresh air, as I watch my brother exit on the building and stare at the starving dogs. I turned my back, and realized how immature I am to do that kind of thing. The next thing I knew was that my brother was out of my sight. At first, I was scared because maybe he got kidnapped or he got lost or ran away, but those thoughts disappeared when he came running to me from the building. He told me that my crush wanted to play with him, but he denied saying that he have to go buy something across the street making this as his excuse because he was also scared of him since he is a pro. Too make the story short, I realized that I have clearly missed my chance in asking his name. And one thing, actually the real reason I ran away was because my mom whispered to me that we should go play with him, unaware that I like him, but instead I panicked and ran away. I’m sorry if I could not mention what sport we play. Now my question is that if ever he invites my brother to play again, how should my brother react and how could he possibly bring the topic about his name, age, school? I asked my brother but he honestly had no idea, and so do I. I regret that I missed my chance to play with him, it’s just that, my low self-confidence is killing me and I have no courage to do so. PLEASE HELP ME.

  • There is a guy that I talk casually with, he flirts with me on occasion and his friends say he likes me. Every time his friends mention him liking me in a group conversation, he denies it. He says if he had liked me he would have said yes when one of my best friends asked him out for me (which I did not tell her to do). He is my ex’s wing man and any other guy who asks me out, he supports them. But he tries to scare me, he leans in when I talk to him, he remembers every detail I say, and he even defends me. and another thing, he punches back harder

  • OMG!!!! U think he likes me!!! Last year my crush looked at me a lot and helped me out and agreed with me wand smiled and laughed and looked at me!!!! Yay!!!!

  • thee guy I like acts like he just wants to be mates some of this stuff he does but some he doesn’t people ask me to ask him out but what if he doesn’t like me . if he doesn’t I might cry but I don’t want to keep my feelings inside. he also says he like this other girl but he spends more time with me and tells me his secrets.

  • Well, i like this guy, and he knows it. He is always staring at me and making me laugh from across the classroom. He also does most of the stuff in the article. But, i have asked him and he always shys away and doesnt answer. But, if my friends get nosey and just go up and ask him he says no just as friends! Which we are, but does he really like me?

  • Okay so about a month ago this guy at my school started talking to me. He’s really nice and stuff and sometimes in the hallway he would walk next to me really close and small talk.. Everday after lunch I would walk down the hallway and right when I’m about to enter the room, he would kind of grab the sides of my stomach and kind of squeeze it to tickle me. One day in class he was sitting across from me and he told me that I was skinny and I didnt know to take it a a compliment or not so I said “I know,thanks!” And he didnt say anything else. After that, about 2 days later he tried to give me a high five but I ignored it and kept walking and he asked me whats wrong..I said “I dont wanna give you a high five..” then he said “you havent been talking to me..whats up with that?” I ignored him after that because I told him that I liked him so he knew it already but a few weeks ago I found out that he asked this new girl out and they are still dating today (01-27-13) but she found out that he likes another girl because she caught him saying that he did..
    Is he a player? I still really like this guy but he’s making it really hard for me to..we have’nt talked for the past few days..
    What do I do?

  • There’s this guy in my club, two years my senior, ever since I’Ve joined he’s been telling me things like, “with you, this year we definitely win State” And recently the half the team went on an overnight competition that day he saught me out during lunch (there’s different categories in the team and half compete one day and the rest the next day, we happen to be in three same categories)and later that day after we all went to the hotel he came knocking at my room door asking me if one of our team mates was there even though he knew she wasn’t and said he’d study with me for the next day’s event if we weren’t guy and girl, unfortunately I happened to already be in my pjs at the time. Since then he whenever we talk he looks at me funny like he’s laughing inside. Does he like me or is he just being a weirdo?
    P.s. one of my room mates brought up that he’s become shy this year and some mutual friends keep asking me if I think he’s cute

  • Hello,

    I know this is a blog about how to tell if a guy likes you, but, I am a guy and I have some questions that I hope you all can help me with.

    There is a woman that I go to school with and I really like her as she is intelligent, creative and attractive. I think she likes me but the problem is the fact that we are both fairly shy.

    Recently I began developing photos using a very interesting alternative process. At out end of semester critique she told me she liked my work and that she would be interested in learning about it if I “was going to be around next semester to show her”. Also I freinded her on Facebook and she has worked some of my postings into conversations. We also realized that we both like a certain band and I mentioned that I had lost my digital copies of their music when my laptop died and she out of the blue a couple of months later presented me with some burned CDs she made for me. Also I had a piece of jewelry that I was making and I needed the use of someones hand for ring sizing and modeling purposes and I asked her and she immediatly said yes and seemed really psyched about it. She usually smiles when we make eye contact. I have a rather taciturn demeanor especially with attractive women, and I realize, and have been told, that I can be a bit blind when it comes to picking up on signals that a woman might send to indicate her interest. So I was wondering if someone could give me a woman’s interpretation. Is she sending me signals that she likes me? Should I ask her out? Or is she just be friendly?

    • I’d say that she definitely likes you! Especially because she went to the effort of remembering that you’d lost the digital copies of the music that you made. Also asking you to show her the way that you do your photography is an excuse to spend more time with you. The Facebook conversations and offering her hand as a ring model are just things that girls would do with friends. Go and take the plunge though-ask her out for a coffee!

  • Hi there is a guy in my college & he keeps looking at me that sometimes I think there is something wrong with me , I thought that it was my imagination until my friend saw him looking at me & tying to hide his smile , I going crazy just to know if he likes me or not . Please help :(

  • Ok so theres this guy we dated like a year ago and we were just friends after that, then the year after that (now) I have NO classes with him. I only see him in the halls like twice every two months xD And hes kindof an on-off person and when we DO see eachother in the halls, he either runs up to me and hes like Hi..:3 with shy-ness. The valentines day dance is coming up, the only chance to see him and get his number and idk if i should flirt or just act like a friend D:

  • Hey, I think this guy likes me. I am legit freaking out because I don’t really know.
    He always looks at me, for a long time.
    I recently had a birthday, and he wished me a happy bday!
    His friends always tease him when he’s around me.
    He is a real show off when he see’s me.
    I actually heard friend teasing him and saying that he likes me.
    But the problem is, I am really shy. And I don’t know what to do.
    Help me, please.

  • Okay, so, I’m pretty sure I’m a bit late to this post, but I can’t tell if my friend likes me. I have a major crush on a friend of mine, and I’m really really PAINFULLY shy, so I have absolutely no confidence, let alone enough to flirt, so I have no idea if he likes me. I’ll often catch him staring at my chest, but I am rather busty, so this is not uncommon for me. Sometimes he makes eye contact with me for an extended period of time too, but I always get nervous and look away. Also, he made a comment to one of my other friends about me, but when it was brought up again he just blew it off and acted like he was disgusted by the idea of me, then just left awkwardly. I honestly think he’s not interested, but my friend keeps insisting, and I really like him, so… someone help?

    • He likes you but you need to show him that he is not really important and try to flirt with one of his friend that’s the only way to make him feel jealous & then he will try to show you that he is better than anyone :P

  • I met this introverted guy for few years ago. Since that we have been writting to each others through skype, facebook or whatsapp.
    Last summer he admitted he was into me and he used to joke that Im gonna be his european bridedoctor or something. That all has now gone away, he told me he has been busy studying for lawschool entrence exam and working. Usually when I tease him about girls taking his attention he says there are no such things. Frankly I can tell he is very introverted (not shy) but it is hard to say whether he is still into me or not? Id love to visit him but don´t wanna travel to US for nothing. Any good ideas?

  • Heres my story: So I have a friend and I like I have since I first met him the only thing is we live in a dorm right across the hall and will be for the next year or so and I just don’t want to do anything to upset our friendship or make it awkward because all of our friends are just that all of ours. but he does half of those thing you have mentioned. like the other day I was sitting in a recliner and he came up and sat in between my legs and we are always talking and whenever I go over to his room and ask for something and he has his head phones on he just looks and goes back but then just stares at me while I am still in there. What do I do? I really like him but I don’t want to ruin this friendship or anything.

  • So there’s this guy I really like, I met him online actually.
    We talked everyday – not video calls or anything, just sending messages.
    At first he told me he was confused because there’s this girl he likes but she stays far from him (still in his same country though). But there’s another girl that he likes a lot too.
    So he ended up telling me that I’m this ‘another girl’. I told him I like him a lot too.
    We had been talking almost everyday online. He knows that I like him more than a lot.
    But he just posted “You play for the indirect one, here comes another and takes the hint and turns it into a story of life. wtf”
    What is that supposed to be????
    I don’t know what I should do now.
    The fact that the wtf is there really saddens me. So I’m the f-up one? urgh

  • So there’s this guy I like. And we’ve done date like things and he’ll only hang out with our other friend if I’m there and I invite him. But then I asked him to go on a date and it might of scared him. He said he wanted to be friend and that he needed friends right now. Yet if he needs friend why doesn’t he hangout with our other friend (who’s female) and he still asked me to go to a midnight movie with him 3days later. I didn’t reply until a few hours later. He had also text our friend if she OR I wanted to go. I don’t get it. Am I just a friend or does he like me but isn’t ready yet. I’m not sure if I should wait for him or just give up now.

  • There’s the guy and we both liked each other last year and I turned him down (idk why!!) and now I know he liked me earlier In year but my friend asked if he liked me he said no but she really does like me? And now me and him are partners in a science experiment. Help he acts nice but my friends tell me I’m so obvious I like him! And the worst part he has a girlfriend! I’m too nervous to tell him to text me or anything. He hardly gets on Facebook! Please help :(

  • I like this guy, sooo much but he has a girlfriend and I never talk to him because I’m too shy and he thinks I’m invisible even though we sit at the same table at math. I didn’t like him before but I had a dream about him and in my dream he told me he liked me so I started falling for him in real life HELP!

  • Hey! So I find out recently that a guy who is like a player of players has a crush on me? But he is too nervous to come up and talk to me? He told our mutual friend that he has a crush on me and when she told him that she told me he totally flipped out and was really nervous. Our mutual friend also told me that he said I can talk to any girls but I can’t talk to her, she makes me nervous. What does that even mean?? And like everyone knows and they are trying to get us together! And I have barely talked to him! And he tries to talk to me but chickens out! And my BFF tells me that he always stares at me and when he messes up during a soccer game ( we both play soccer) he always looks at me to make sure I didn’t see it. I think he is really cute, but I don’t know about the player thing. What are your thoughts on this? Btw he is 17 and I’m 16. If that makes a difference.

  • Hi…I need advice asap. I recently moved into a new place, and I am 29 in April my upstairs neighbour is 41 but does not look it. He always invites me up for beers and we hang out at his place. The first time he invited me up he wanted to show me all his art things he collects and clothes. We have alot in common with mental health issues. I showed him my place and collection of autographs. He saw my Johnny Depp autograph and said ‘oh my girlfriend will love you!’….ok so whenever he is home he always comes to my door and invites me up. He asked what kind of guy I am into I said artsy and likes poetry…he pulled a book out and read me two poems. We were on the balcony a few days back drinking smoking and he starts rubbing my leg. I showed him old photos of me which turned him on. He said I’m a babe and he wants me to look like that again ie: get very fit (I’m slightly overweight but go to the gym which he knows) He then starts touching my face and said i was very attractive and mature for my age. We kissed passionately a few times and he wanted to go to his bedroom. I didn’t shave my legs he said he didn’t care. I said ‘but don’t you have a gf?’ he said no (I do remember him saying he wasn’t sure about her) he took my hand and things happened but he couldn’t ‘stay up’ as condoms turn him off we attempted sex but failed. He said it wasn’t me that ‘at his age it happens’ I asked if he would try again with me he said yes. The next day he acted like nothing happened. I still go upstairs and chill out and sometimes he playfully smacks my bottom. I was crying yesterday as i was depressed and was in hospital but walked out as they weren’t helping. He came by to see me. I started crying he took me upstairs gave me stuff to calm down and a beer. He cheered me up. He keeps showing me things he bought like hats or clothes he is going to wear out and asks my opinion. …..I’m pretty much head over heels over him and want him to make another move. He still rubs my leg sometimes. …..Does he like me or…I just don’t know! Any advice??? Sorry for the long post.

  • For the past few years I have not dated. Nevertheless, there is a guy who has my attention. We used to talk for hours, now the conversations are limited. I suppose because the semester has begun along with the startup of a new company plus some documents he is going over for me is taking up a lot of time (he is a professor). He told me I was very attractive, yet I just think he was being a nice guy. In addition, he invited me out to lunch/dinner due to his negligence helping me with a matter. I chose lunch, he is always so busy and I believe work first and play later. Anyway, there was a meeting where he greeted one girl with a handshake, I received a hug. When the meeting came to an end he kissed the girl and myself on the creek… When we spoke again he stated he could not remember the girls name, or did he? Anyhow, I was invited to sit in on one of his lectures thus, due to him not responding to any of my messages, I found out what class he thought, and showed up; LAUGH OUT LOUD! During the lecture he taught from a book he did not use for the class this semester about love… I did sit to the side of the class; however, certain points that were mentioned about love or relationships and he glanced my way. Now, with all I have stated, the guy is an overall happy person and nice to a lot of individuals. However, I do not know if he truly likes me,when I send a message, he either does not respond or takes too long to respond. His current actions lead me to believe he is not interested and I should NOT make a fool of myself…. Or perhaps he is just really busy, I’m currently going to school full time and trying to make a living… I was thinking perhaps he does not want to distract me…. I have no idea, I have been out of the dating game too long. Situations such as this one reminds me why I do not like to date laugh out loud!

  • So this might be long but i really need help. I met this guy last weekend at my friends party hes friends of a friend. We were all having a good time but he wasnt talking and he didnt introduce himself. I got pretty annoyed for him coming to a party and not introducing himself to anyone at the party. His friend called him over and he introduced himself to me, we made small talk and then went back inside to play flipcup. While playing flip cup we were against eachother and he kept saying jokes like were going to win and stuff and at one point he knocked my cup off of the table. Anyways, this passed weekend there was a huge storm and it was to the point where there was no way of getting out of the house that me and my friends were in, he also was in the house. We lost power and had no electricity so it was pretty miserable. The entire time he offered me his jacket because the house we were at was only 20 degrees. My phone died early in the power outage. Finally, we were able to leave the house after they took the ban off the road. He came over with our two other friends to my place and they stayed for another two days. While being at the other house of the power outage there were a few things i noticed. 1. when i was laying down on the only couch there was my friend who is also a guy layed down on me and had his head on my chest…I saw the guy I like walk in and look at the couch with me on it and his friend laying on me and for a split second I saw a disappointed face and he walked back out. 2. When I was sleeping on the couch I was facing the tv and saw his reflection in the tv and he was looking at me and as soon as he saw that I saw him looking at me he looked away. 3. When I finally charged my phone and turned it on I had two texts from him one saying to sit closer to him and another saying that I should lay down with him. 4. When we were on the same couch together (me and the guy I like) I kept him up until 3 in the morning because I was scared of the wind (yeah I’m in college and the wind still scares me)…hes really shy so I am not sure if he actually likes me or if he just wants to hook up with me. After the first time I met him he actually asked my friend on Facebook for my phone number. I really need someones advice because I dont want to be overbearing and overthink things..and my friends are just telling me what I want to hear and I dont want that. Thanks everyone

  • Ok well i am in 9th grade and i wanted to know if this guy likes me(he is in my grade too) and all of my friends think that he likes me but yesterday was Valentine’s Day and i didnt get anything from him. He bareley even talked to me that day. But other days he talks to me and always looks in my direction and we both smile at eachother and talk all the time during class. He does turn his body towards me in his desk and he agreed to be in my group(with just me and my best friend) but she has a boyfriend so he shouldnt like her but he always messages me on facebook and i dont have wifi on my ipod(and i dont have a phone) so only when i get free wifi do i get to talk to him and all the time on facebook he is like “gosh Amber i wish you had a phone or something” that is actually exactly what he said and he also put “since your never on facebook text me at this number…” and so im kinda confused on if he likes me or not cause im ready to hang out and be with him. :)

  • Ok, so I started my first year of this school this year. There was a boy that I didn’t like at first, but now I do. We have a lot in common, and all my friends say he stares at me a lot. Most of the time when I look over at him, he’s looking at me and then quickly looks away. We play sports together (but on different teams) but he doesn’t talk to me very much. He told my friend that he likes me, but I don’t know. We have.. A complicated relationship. I would like him, but there’s a problem. My best friend likes him, too. And since she went to the school before me, I feel like she has more of a right because she liked him before me. So we did probably the worst thing we could do, and wrote him a note asking who he liked. He said “neither of you, you guys are my friends.” I just don’t know if he was saying that in honesty, or if he was lying because he didn’t want us to know if he did like one of us. I just don’t know…

  • OK, so I’ve been reading most of the comments and stuff, and it seems as if some of their stuff is related to mine, but I’m not quite sure if he likes me.
    Anyway, we go to the same church, and I’ve known him over 6 years (I was 11 when when we first met I think). Anyway, he disappeared for about 5 years and reappeared last year. That day, last year, he kept smiling and and grinning my way all the way across the other pew (this was before I thought he liked me).
    Now he’s back and just last week, he did a couple of things that was on the list, buut I’m not sure if he actually likes me…
    He came into the service a bit late, but sat directly behind me, and his friend next to him. The first thing he did was to pull on my hair, gently, but I didn’t want him to pull harder. I turned and he grinned and then let go after I said hi.
    A bit later, he poked me really really softly in my back (as if he didn’t think I’d feel it). I didn’t turn but i shifted a bit and he and his friend laughed really softly.
    The last thing he did was at the very end of the service. He parted my hair and blew a lot of cold air onto my neck. I turned and he grinned and pulled me into a really quick hug, let go then walked away with his friend. His friend kind of looked at him and just rolled his eyes and was like “this is so weird, you’ve never been this way man” and then walked with him.

    What does this mean? does he actually like me or is he just trying to get a reaction out of me (because every time he did something like that, I’d do something and he would be laughing or smiling).
    Respond please coz I’m probably gonna end up seeing him next week and I’d like to know what my response should be; if he likes me what should I do, if he doesn’t what should i do etc.

    Thanks in advance! -Lici

  • Hi, I sat with a guy, he is naturally talkative .At first we were really quiet,we were shy (LOL), then after sometimes we then started to talk , until some of friends said that we were TOO close… ! Lol ! Then ,sometimes,we accidentally touch eachother hand ,leg but mostly we didnt react anything. Then some weeks later teacher change my seat :( after that we werent really tat close…everytime when he see me either he tried to walk very slowly or tried to walk as fast as possible.. So what do you guys thing?
    Ps: forgot to say that he also ask me to join his group catching at recess
    Thx

  • Okay im a teenager and there is this one super shy guy who ive had a crush on for two years. He is the kind of guy who probably doesnt like anyone, cus hes sorta like a robot and he barely ever talks to girls.But he talked to me a lot. In class, he sat really close to me and shared in a lot of my interests. He volunteered to help me with a project once, but thats because no one else did. Icaught him staring three times. I think its becasue wer’e in the same clubs and stuff so he talskds to me like a friend. He talks to other girls sometimes but i dont think as much as he talks to me. Then there was a rumour about me liking him (it was a reallystupid rumour that obviosly was not true, something about me and him starring in a cliche hollywood movie…) He sorta started ignoring me like crazy. Hebarelytalked to me too. Then just yesterday we passe each other in the hall, and one of y friends tapped me on the shoulder and i turned around really fast, and i caught him staring at me. When i caught him he turned around pretty fast. Does this mean he likes me???

  • I think I like one of my guy friends as more than a friend because of his personality, not looks (tbh I think he’s alright looking, not the best though). Anyway, when we’re talking, I noticed that he tends to look around quite alot, well, i noticed that once anyway, don’t know if he does it all the time. Sometimes when we talk it seems kind of awkward. He doesn’t usually come up to me, most of the time I call him over or go up to him. We talk on facebook alot, like everyday. Once he talked to me about a bad relationship that he had not long ago. I feel that I can talk to him about pretty much anything. Yesterday I asked him if he wanted to have a hugging competition (long story) and he asked me why I asked that but hasn’t answered yet, what does this mean?

  • ok so i have this crush on this guy that i have knownsince i wasfur and completely forgot bout him tillsomeone mentioned that we should get together and thats when i started to pay attention to him well he has heard from tons of people that i like him and now hs whole family knows well on valentines day i sent him a valo gram and i put anonnymous and he was shocked that he got one he never thought he would get one and some people ar thinin that he sent it to himself well one day his best friend tells him that i like him and i sent him that gram thing and he flipped out and now ever since he heard that he starts to look at me more but we never talk cuz we are both to shy what am i suppose to do and does he like me?

  • I have this huge crush on this one guy for about 7 yrs now and im not sure if he likes me. whats weird is that my grandma knows him and she keeps telling me that he would be a good husband. she told me that when im around he always dresses nicer and he seems happier like always smiling. one day he told me that he liked talking to my parents and grandparents, and it always seems like he tries to show off.like he would get my attention and than be doing these cool tricks and hannah his sis said stop showing off…anyways one day i caught him leaning into me when i was talking we were so close that if i leaned in we would have been kissing each other. he smells so good to when im around him and im just so lostand confused. when one day me him my sis and his friend were walking he whispered something into his friends ear and my sis told me that he said that not to tell me that he liked me but i dont know

  • oh our relationship is long distance too (he lives next door to my grandma and lives an hour away) so when i see him its special. one day i remember when he lost his favorite necklace and he couldnt find it, i found it for him and he called me his lifesavor. he is a sweet boy too and always helps my grandma with stuff. my grandma says she thinks he likes me and to be patient and keep doing what i am doing now but i dont know…ive liked him so long and i dont want to get hurt

  • I like this guy but he mite be moving and I want to tell him I like him hoe do I do that???

  • But my long distance is honestly countries away :(
    I’ve never seen him before but I’m falling really hard for him. We are having issues with our lives. So it’s quite a hard time. I don’t ever want to give up for him so I’m trying to stay strong for him. But I’m afraid he’s doesn’t love me back. So far he said he likes me and he will always care for me, that’s all. I love him so much, I’m afraid of getting hurt but I’m already plunged in too deep.

  • Okay, so I have a friend that I used to have a crush on in high school.. Eventually we became close friends and now when I see him he always seems genuinely happy to see me (big hugs and smile).. But I can’t tell if its just in a friendly way or romantic way..

    Anyway I saw him a month ago at a group gathering and he sat right down next to me, but he sat so close and pushed his leg up against mine and watched me, completely on purpose, almost to see my reaction..

    What the hell does this mean?

  • Help pls… A guy I work with has been staring at me for about 2 weeks and sometimes smiles at me from afar. He randomly walked up behind me and gave me a neck massage whilst I was working late but when I asked what that was about he shrugged it off and acted all casual. He said I work really hard and he thought I needed it… What the heck does this mean pls?

  • Help! I need boy advice asap! So I’m in 9th grade and I work at a pizza place not far from my house. And this guy I really like works there but he’s a senior. He does some of this stuff. Like talking to me a lot, touching my hands or back, angling his body towards me and helping me sometimes at work. We haven’t exchanged numbers but we have talked about some more personal stuff when it was just the two of us there. He also was asking my boss about girl advice loud enough so I could hear but I wasn’t in the same room. I think theres a possibility of him liking me back but I don’t know. What do you think? And do you think I should tell him?

  • hello there!
    I just wanna know if this guy in school likes me even if she has a girlfriend and that girl is my “friend”. Every time I see