Get experimental in the bedroom with these 10 sexy role play ideas and scenarios that every guy fantasizes about, and spice up your sex-life tonight!
If you’re thinking about how to turn your man on, roleplay is one of the best ideas!
Why be you every night of the week, when you could be a seductive secret agent, a superhero with a kick-ass outfit, or a chambermaid with a very alluring French accent? Role-playing enhances your sex-life by encouraging you to use your imagination, and men just love it!
Men are dying to discover the hidden facets of your personality, which will make you seem all the more mysterious to them in everyday life too. Men have their secret fantasies, so you may as well be a part of them! Who knows what levels of ecstasy you can reach once you unleash that wild uninhibited imagination of yours into the bedroom… the office… or wherever…
Everyone has an imagination. The more you exercise it, the more vivid it becomes, and the more unexpected and intense the pleasure you can experience. In fact the pleasure of role-play is enjoyed from a very young age. Young children ‘play’ at being ‘mummies and daddies’, ‘superheroes’, and often mimic their favourite celebrities in role-playing games with their peers.
The pleasure may be derived from a desire for escapism. Abandon your own identity in favour of another, and you can in effect leave behind all of your personal hang-ups, and adopt brand new positive attributes! Often a positive effect of indulging in sexual role-play is that these new positive attributes can actually rub off on the real you, making you feel more confident in everyday situations too. Can’t be bad.
The idea of striking up a conversation on the topic of sexual role-play with your partner might initially strike terror in your heart. Will he think I’m a freak? Will I live up to his expectations? The truth is, he probably will think you’re a freak. Fantastically freakish in fact!
Couples who have established a fairly standard bedroom routine will feel insecure about introducing something new; this is inevitable. Perhaps you’re not even sure you’ll like it yourself? Well there’s no need to dive straight in. Have you considered that you can ease yourself into the concept of sexual role-playing before you even mention the idea to your boyfriend?
A little secret us girls like to keep is that we are just as capable as men are of having secret fantasies that involve foreign situations and people. Admit it girls! Men aren’t the only ones who can have fun in their heads. And it can be hot, right? We’re all just vixens under-cover – and if you’re not, you don’t know what you’re missing! Just the other day I allowed my mind to wander into uncharted territory while I was er… waiting in a queue at the supermarket! It was the sight of an attractive young cashier reaching for my giant phallic cucumber on the conveyor belt, and the twinkle in his eye as he smiled at me that had me wondering…
We’re all just vixens undercover – and if you’re not, you don’t know what you’re missing! Just the other day I allowed my mind to wander into uncharted territory while I was er… waiting in a queue at the supermarket! It was the sight of an attractive young cashier reaching for my giant phallic cucumber on the conveyor belt, and the twinkle in his eye as he smiled at me that had me wondering…
Private fantasies give you the freedom to be with whoever you want to be with, however you want it, whenever you want it; and the best part is that you don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed because it’s all just going on inside of your head!
So why not transfer that secret fun to the bedroom, and bring your fantasies to life? Your partner doesn’t even have to know that secretly you are imagining him to be a sexy stranger you’ve never met before, and that you’re pretending to have a one-night stand behind your boyfriend’s back… at least not to begin with. Or that you’re imagining you have been kidnapped and that your kidnapper is having his wicked way with you when your boyfriend takes you from behind… Yes, I’ve had that one playing in my mind many a time!
When you feel comfortable you can then begin to include your boyfriend in your sex fantasies by asking if he’d like to know what you are thinking about while you are having sex with him. Hearing you talk dirty about your secret role-playing ideas will excite him, because he will realize that his own fantasies aren’t taboo either… and that’s when the fun can really begin!
I know, you’re having another ‘terror-in-your-heart‘ moment. Most women are intimidated by the idea of their boyfriend drooling over another woman in bed, and quite rightly so. I know that I’m not keen on the idea! The thing about ‘threesomes’ is that they rarely happen, though. In fact half the fantasy and pleasure is in the imagining of it.
Men are visual creatures, which means that they get turned on by what they see, whether it is in front of them or just in their heads. You can indulge your man’s fantasy without ever taking part in a ‘threesome’ simply by playing the role and painting the right picture – in his head!
For example, take your man out to dinner, and on the topic of ‘threesomes’ discretely point out the women in the restaurant you find attractive. Don’t forget to tell him exactly what you’re attracted to and what you’d like to do with these women in the bedroom. Guaranteed, when you go home and have sex with your boyfriend he will be having a ‘threesome’ in his head with you and your new imaginary lesbian lovers from the restaurant, and you haven’t even had to touch so much as another woman’s boob!
The first thing that probably comes to your mind at the thought of your man wanting to sleep with a prostitute is ‘yuck’! The risk of sexually transmitted disease is thankfully enough to put anyone off, even most men. But when the risk is eliminated, the idea of hiring an anonymous professional to satisfy one’s carnal sexual needs is many a man’s secret fantasy.
In fact your boyfriend may have privately attributed the role of dirty slapper to you in the past without you even knowing about it! What? The cheek of him! Alas, it is probably true, so you may as well get involved – why should he have all the fun!
Let him ‘book an appointment’ with you, turn up at the hotel room he has booked (or the bedroom door) as if you are a complete stranger, with the right attire on underneath your raincoat of course – and provide all the services he has requested. You’ll be surprised at how sexy it can feel to immerse yourself in the role and environment of someone you would never have associated yourself with before. I’ve done it before and believe me, it is a liberating experience!
3. Women who are off limits
There’s just something about taboo topics. Both men and women find something very enticing about the things they can’t have. For men, that might be having sex with certain women; his boss, for example, a waitress, a policewoman… even, dare I say it, your own mother or sister!
It isn’t a reflection on you darling; don’t have a panic attack. It is simply imagination-overdrive. There’s nothing wrong in indulging him by doing a bit of dressing up and role-play, is there? Think about playing the role of dominant women in positions of power, or playing with ideas of vulnerability and submission with schoolgirl outfits. Find out what turns your man on and have some fun with it. You might discover quirks about your own sexual personality that you didn’t even know about!
Lets face it; the female body is sexy and powerful, especially when it is strategically being stripped of all its modesty. It doesn’t matter what size or shape you are, with a bit of confidence and the right lighting, your partner will be in for a real treat – if you can bring yourself to give in to the popular and fun, sexy striptease role-play scenario!
Once you know how to strut your stuff, he will just love seeing you in a completely different way. It really doesn’t matter what you look like, the mere fact that he has a woman willing to seduce him with a sexy lap dance will be turn-on enough!
Why not experiment and learn how to have sex on a chair? Make him sit on his hands so he isn’t tempted to touch, and tease him first with your sultry dancing. Remove each item of clothing slowly and deliberately, looking him directly in the eye, and watch the excitement build and build until he can resist no more. Then just when he thinks you’re about to remove something crucial, surprise him and remove something else. It’s all about the long, sexy tease. Again, one of the sexiest ways to tease him is with your tongue… never going all the way until his orgasm, but just turning him on with long, sexy licks, that are super-pleasurable, but always keeping him on the edge of eruption.
Every guy loves the idea of a woman raking his back with her long nails – full of passion, desire, and wanton lust! So why not literally ‘play’ at being wild animals in the jungle? It might sound a bit weird but imagine the lusty freedom of pawing at each other, growling with desire, and leaping about on the bed! Not to mention playing out all those animal kingdom themes of hunt, chase and devour.
Don’t be afraid to get a bit rough and playful, he will love feeling you nip him with your teeth. Cower beneath him when he retaliates and then pounce on him again when he’s least expecting it. You will love feeling the vibrations of his deep growl as he bites into your neck or nuzzles other, ahem, intimate areas!
6. Sexual Rendezvous with a Stranger
This one is a bit different from having sex with a call girl, which is more of a planned sexual scenario, and a fairly predictable one, because it is the job of the call girl to satisfy her customers sexual desire. A fantasy involving a sexual rendezvous with a stranger on the other hand focuses on the appeal of a spontaneous and unexpected one-night stand. The idea is sexy because of the anticipation that occurs from meeting someone mysterious in a public place, experiencing hot chemistry, and not knowing what is going to happen next!
So how do you replicate this fantasy with your partner, and create the same sense of anticipation and mystery? Easy – pretend you are someone else! Describe the kind of game you want to play to your lover, making sure to tell him whether or not he is to treat you like a complete stranger. Then turn up as your alter ego – wear a wig, hat or sunglasses if you need to find a way to increase your sense of mystery – and then use your imagination. Have a few ideas already in place in case you get stuck and lose your character, then just go with the flow. The trick is to really play out your role and be the woman whose role you have adopted. The more you believe in your character the hotter an experience your role-playing games will be for both of you!
7. The Sexy Female Police Officer
There is just something so sexy about being reprimanded by a sexy person in an official capacity – whether it is a teacher, your boss at work, or a hot copper! Some men, well actually many men, get off on the idea of being manhandled by an attractive female police officer. It links into dominant and submissive role-play scenarios, which I will cover next!
To get into the sexy female police officer role-play scenario, you will need some special role-playing attire and props. Props can be a great addition to your sexual play.
The kit you will need for the sexy female police officer sex scenario is very simple though – a police officer hat, a close-fitted shirt that unbuttons to show off your cleavage, some dark colored hot pants and a belt with the most important sex props of all hanging off it – your hand cuffs and baton!
Remember: The role of a sexy female police officer’s to uphold the law, and give discipline where needed! Don’t forget to bend over your prisoner lots to reveal your sexy cleavage and the rim of your butt cheeks – and always put your criminal back in his place when he oversteps the line!
8. Sex with a Superhero
All men are young boys at heart, and I am pretty sure that there is no man who would say to no to having sex with his favourite female superhero. The best thing about this is that you and I get to dress up in very cool, sexy outfits to play out his secret fantasy!
Some popular female superhero role-play fantasies include:
Tip: Watch the movie to really get into the character role!
9. Dominant & Submissive
People seem to be more willing to express an interest in exploring the realms of dominant and submissive behaviour in their sex lives since the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey in mainstream culture.
Many of you may still be afraid to step foot into this unchartered sexual territory, though. S&M is very misunderstood, and women can be afraid that they are going to be bullied or hurt if they take part in this kind of sexual play. On the other hand, women might be shy to tell their boyfriends they need a more dominant role from him in the bedroom in order to get turned on, or vice versa. If you are worried what impression you might give your partner if you express an interest in exploring dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom, and wonder – will he think I’m a freak if I reveal my kinky side? – Stop worrying right now! Most men will be willing to explore anything that gets you hot. Believe it or not, men are mostly turned on when they are able to turn their women on!
It is a pity that more people don’t take the time to fully understand the pleasure potential that discovering the dominant or submissive side to one’s personality can unveil.
Tip: If you want to develop a better understanding of how dominant and submissive behaviour works, and what people might get out of this kind of role play, a fun introduction would be to watch The Secretary.
10. The Eager Applicant
I know from experience that this is one sex scenario that men enjoy. A good way of discovering what kind of role-play scenario your guy might be into is finding out what categories he is interested on the porn sites he visits. (You can ask him outright, tell him you want to watch some porn together, or be rather sneaky and see if you can go through his browser history – if anyone asks, you didn’t get that idea from me!)
I discovered that an ex-boyfriend of mine rather enjoyed watching porn clips of“eager applicants”applying for“modelling”or other jobs, who inevitably get taken advantage of by the interviewer.
It’s a really easy role to play out because all you have to do is act innocent and attend your partner’s“interview”. What he decides to do with you during the interview will be up to him, and all you have to do is play along. You can play the shy girl, if he likes a challenge, or a feisty one if he wants you to do more of the visual work and for hi to be less hands on. The emphasis is all on power play. And that’s where worshipping can also come handy. Try “seducing” him into giving you the job with a killer blowjob.
What are your sexy role play ideas?
Often the idea of role-play is dismissed as unsexy because it is clichéd and predictable. People don’t often want to be associated with something that is considered trashy or ridiculous, but as far as I am concerned, there is absolutely nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality and having fun.
Role-play can only be what you make it, which means you can influence how sexy your own experiences of role play will be simply by taking it seriously yourself, and submitting yourself to the idea of having some sexy fun with your loved one.
If you don’t like the common well-known role-play scenarios, then use your imagination and be true to who you are. You may discover brand new original ways of enjoying yourself in the bedroom! If you have any unique role play ideas, don’t forget to share them with us eager YouQueens in the comments below!
I am inspired by the ways people interact. Human behaviour and emotions are wonderfully complex, and I want to dig deeper and understand more. This is why I explore intimate relationships in my writing. (I’m also ever so slightly kinky.)
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