How to Unleash Your Inner Sexiness

Do you envy women who can initiate a man’s desire simply by walking in the room? You know the ones. They waltz in without saying a word and yet the whole room stops as if they just screamed at the top of their lungs.

The good news is that you already have what it takes to become one of them. You just need to learn how to use it.

Sexiness isn’t about wearing body revealing clothes and having a swanky walk.  It’s a feeling that others get when they see you. That happens not just by what they see with your outer self, but more so by what they feel from your inner self.

So, here are some simple ways to get your inner sexiness to speak louder than ever:

Be confident

This is probably the simple most important thing you can do when it comes to having a sensual persona. After all, what is a bigger turn on than someone who is self-assured? The more confidence that you have (and show), the more enticing you are to those around you.

Think about the woman who walks into the room and every head turns. Is she shy and humble? No, she is poised and unafraid to be exactly who she is. She doesn’t highlight her insecurities and she doesn’t shrink under the spotlight. She bathes in it because she knows she deserves it. That is where she is meant to be.

Now, you’ll want to keep in mind that there is a difference between confidence and arrogance. Confidence is being comfortable with who you are; arrogant is thinking you’re better than everyone else. Let yourself shine all you want, but realize that other people shine in their own way too.

Let go of your imperfections

This sort of coincides with being confident, but it still needs consideration of its own.

Having confidence involves knowing your strengths, but it’s also very important that you don’t let your weaknesses rule your life. Doing so will kill the chance of any sexiness that you have inside you being released and free.

There is not a single person on this earth who is perfect. If you ask anyone what they dislike about themselves, they’ll likely have a list a mile long. The question is, do they wear their imperfections on their chest like the Scarlett Letter, or do they shove them aside and enjoy life anyway?

To harness your inner sexiness, you’re going to have to come to peace with the things about yourself that aren’t exactly as you would like. They are what they are.

You can take steps to work on changing them, but you need to love yourself in the meantime because the more you have that inner love, the more you’ll radiate outer love to those around you – and the sexier you will become.

Just “be” sexy

girl and her reflection in a mirror

You’ve probably heard the phrase “fake it until you make it.” Well, that also applies here. If you don’t feel sexy right now, act as if you do. Imagine that you already feel sensual as ever and live accordingly. Walk the walk and talk the talk.

It may feel uncomfortable at first, but the more you practice, the easier it will become. Before you know it, you’ll be that sexy goddess that you have always envied without even trying.

Think sexy thoughts

If you want to send out erotic and suggestive vibes, you have to feel them from deep within. If you don’t, it’s like trying to be intimate when you don’t feel like it. It just doesn’t work.

But, just as there are things you can do to entice you to be in the mood, there are also things you can do to encourage sexy thoughts. Imagine yourself being seduced by a man who appreciates your sexiness. Visualize the chemistry between you.

When you can feel that heat and passion in every ounce of your body, it will come seeping out of your pores and into the air that surrounds you. Like an odorless gas, others will succumb to it without even realizing it’s there.

Do things that make you feel sexy

girl exercising pole dancing

If you want to feel sexy, then you need to engage in sexy behaviors. What are some you should consider? One of the first ones that comes to mind is taking a pole dancing class. Not only is it a great way to work your body, but it also helps you get in touch with your inner vixen. After all, how can you dance around a pole as if you’re flirting incessantly with it and not feel sexy?

If that feels to risqué, then another option is regular dancing. Move your body to the music as if you’re trying to tempt someone sitting across the room to come join you.

If you don’t know how to move in a way that seduces, look around your area to see where you can take some lessons. After all, when a man sees a woman who can glides across the dance floor, he can think of nothing other than wishing he was her partner.

Smile… always

If you think about all of the women that you consider to be sex icons, the one commonality that you’ll likely find among them is that they’re all smiling. It’s not a huge, goofy kind of grin, but more of one that is sultry and a little mischievous. It is a slight upturn to the corner of her mouth and it’s just enough to make you wonder what she’s thinking.

And, the smile is always on her face…even when she has every reason to frown. It’s her way of telling the world that it can kick her all it wants and she isn’t going to stay down. She is a fighter, especially when it comes to something that she believes it. That kind of passion is super sexy.

Make sure you practice your best sexy smile so that it doesn’t come across as fake. The last thing you want to do is try too hard and have the opposite effect by coming off as someone that isn’t real.

Now it’s time to unleash your inner sexiness on the world. Release it on those around you and own it, for it is all yours.

About the author

Christina DeBusk

Changing careers mid-life from law enforcement to writing, Christina spends her days helping others enrich their businesses and personal lives one word at a time.

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