Guys Explained: What Does It Mean When a Guy Calls You Just to Chat

It often happens that men and women talk on the phone for hours, but in most cases they are long time friends. However, if you have met someone just recently and he has never asked you out but calls you just to chat, this can be due to several different reasons. Read on to discover why.

It often happens that men and women talk on the phone for hours, but in most cases they are long time friends. However, what does it mean when a guy you barely knows, has never asked you out, but calls you just to chat? This can be due to several different reasons. Read on to discover why.

He Is Shy

One of the most obvious reasons why a guy calls you just to chat could be that he likes you but he is too shy to make the next step. Shyness impedes people from taking the initiative to develop a relationship, and this often causes misunderstandings.

If you really like this guy, then you should make the first move. Just don’t be too direct and choose your words carefully. You don’t want to put him in an embarrassing situation and make him feel even shyer than he already is. Instead of directly asking him out, you may perhaps say that you need some fresh air and that you would really like to go out for a walk. Why not continue chatting outside? This could good be a good approach.

He is an Introvert

Being shy means wanting to form relationships and make conversation but not being able to because of insecurities, while being introverted is something much more deeply wired. Introverts simply have an inward focus, a strong sense of self and actually energize by spending some time alone.

So, he needs time and space and he  wants to get to know you better before starting something.  He will not react well to being pushed and you ‘trying to get him out of his shell’. Here’s what you need to know about introverts!

He Is Hopelessly Indecisive

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Unfortunately, there are many guys who are always in doubt and unsure of what to do. They are unable to make decisions and they are always hesitant, indecisive and over cautious. “Do I really like her?” “Is it a good thing to ask her out?” “Perhaps I should reflect well on this.” “What if she is not the right one?” “Maybe I should just chat with her on the phone to understand better?”

He’s not Over His Ex Yet

He likes you, but he hasn’t gotten over his ex girlfriend yet. Well, there’s not much to say here. You can either give him a chance and wait, or give up. It depends upon how much you like him and upon how recently he has broken up with his ex. If it has happened a long time ago, then dump him. You can’t wait forever. If they’ve split only recently, you may decide to give him some time until he completely gets over her.

Look closely first to these tell-tale signs that will tell you is he over his ex or not.

He Likes You, But He is Passing Through Very Busy or Difficult Times

businessman talking on a cellphone

You can easily discover this. Just ask him more about his life. Perhaps, he has just lost his job and he is penniless. Perhaps he has just started a new job that requires a lot of hard work and commitment and he really doesn’t have time to relax. Maybe he has a difficult life situation such as a family misfortune that he doesn’t want to talk about. Explore and decide what to do.

He Considers You a Friend

Perhaps he needs a friend or a person to talk to. Perhaps he finds you interesting, intelligent, and nice. He likes talking to you and sharing his opinions with you, and he thinks you are a nice person. But he’s just friends with you!

Read on to find out the 10 signs that he just wants to be your friend. Because the sooner you figure this out, the sooner you can move on and start crushing on someone who totally likes you back.

There you have it. This is pretty much what it means when a guy calls you just to chat. I hope you’ve found these tips useful. If yes, share them with others.

About the author


Jessica is a translator who has lived for many years in Asia and South America. She now lives and works in Europe, while preparing her new journeys. She enjoys traveling, meeting new people, exploring different cultures and foods, and being in love.


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  • Dats a pretty good tip cuz my buddy an i were chatting an then he asked me a request then I was nervous of his request,then he said yass queen an i didn’t know wat he ment so thx a lot 4 the avised it helped a lot.

  • What should a do if a boy tells me he likes me but doesn’t want his friends to know and he talks about me behind and to my back and we argue bc he doesn’t want to tell me how he feels about me and a lot of other stuff and then acts really childish and calls me a bitch I really just want to fight him but I know that isn’t the right thong to do especially when I somewhere in between all the choas I feel in love with him even when all his friends started to fall for me but I only wanted him please tell me what I should do….;[