Many people suffer from low self-esteem. I like to call this a disease of modern time. Nowadays everything is changing so fast that you have to spend hours every day just to stay informed. If you want to look good (in accordance with today’s standards), you have to banish cellulite, grow longer legs, healthier hair and nails and always wear a perfectly white smile!
Forget about other people’s expectations, the only thing that really matters is what YOU think is good enough.
If you want to improve your self-esteem follow these steps:
Like any other change or adjustment to your personality, this will be a process. Do not give up if there are no instant results. If you love yourself you will give yourself time to improve. No one will do this for you, so take charge of your life.
1. Other People are Not You
Stop comparing yourself to others. No one is perfect and no one can have it all. Everybody has a different combination of qualities so there is no point in comparing. You can never be objective about other people’s lives because you can only see what they want you to see. The most important thing here is to you set your own standards and to follow them.
2. Your Qualities
Write down your qualities; I am sure that you have many and that you are either ashamed to show them or unaware of their value. Kindness, honesty, empathy, devotion…those qualities are not as common as you may think. Be proud of what you’ve got!
Surround yourself with people who bring the best in you; with positive, supportive people.
Do good to feel good. Start helping people and your efforts will come back to reward you.
4. Challenge Yourself
Accept the fact that you will not get anywhere if you are backing away from challenges. Changes are good for you. They will train your endurance, your inner strength and your ability to adapt without losing your identity. If you dread parties because you think everybody is prettier and more socially adept than you, make yourself go to a party. Put on something sexy and conquer your fears. However, do not go alone; bring along a supportive friend.
If you fear public speaking, ask your boss to let you present the project at the next meeting. Practice your presentation in front of the mirror until YOU think it’s perfect.
5. Positive Thoughts
People with low self-esteem tend to interpret everything in a bad way. If someone says that what you did was ok you instantly think: “Not perfect, not good but just ok, they were just being polite and didn’t want to say that I was bad”. This is not true. Ok means satisfactory. Learn to forgive yourself for not being perfect 24/7 and stop interpreting everything people say in a negative way.
Learn to love yourself so that you can love others. If you don’t appreciate your own qualities how can you appreciate them in others? Don’t let others tell you who you are and how much you are worth; discover who you really are and be proud of yourself!