For some reason wearing stilettos during sex is guaranteed to turn most men on. I'm not just saying this, I have asked many men, and researched through many online forums, and the verdict is that every single man has expressed an enthusiastic (drooling) response to the mention of high heels in bed.
Personally I quite like it if my man wears his trilby to bed, so maybe it's an attraction to formal-wear juxtaposed with a raunchy intent.
I have come up with a list of 10 reasons as to why men love high heels in the bedroom to explain this phenomena, along with lots of handy tips for you sexy girls who want to give it a go!
1. The Fantasy
Whether you are half naked in the bedroom or suited up in the office, women in the highest heels get the most attention from guys. It may not always be the kind of attention we want, but it's a fact. Men are turned on by a woman in heels.
Why? Because it reminds him of his secret fantasies – Shagging his boss, being whipped into submission by a hot dominatrix, a close-encounter with a high-class h*oker. High heels connote erotic sex. It makes sense to wear them in the bedroom every once in a while!
For men, it's all about creating an image in their mind… once you show up in sexy high heels, they feel some of their fantasies coming back from their subconscious. Add a sexy mask to give an extra boost to your night and watch how he gets hard like a rock. He'll want to rip your clothes off. Add some flirty dirty talk to that whole image and suddenly you'll take him to another world. As if it's all happening in another dimension and not in this life.
2. Body Enhancing
When you wear your heels suddenly you are taller, you stand up straight with an air of confidence, your legs look longer, your chest is perkier and your bum sticks out and swings when you walk.
Heels naturally mold your body into the right shape to sexually attract a man, and the higher the better!
High heels also make you appear slimmer because of the way you have to hold your body, and they draw your man's attention to the entire length of your body when it is looking it's best.
Try doing it up against the wall. Or get down squatting and pleasuring him with your hot, wet tongue (here's how to do it right). Simply put, high heels totally sex up your look, and men are visual creatures.
3. High Heels and Stockings
They go together! Why?
Because your man's eyes will be directed from the sexy heels, up your curvy shins to your sexy thighs… and what's hidden between your thighs? The “X” spot you want him to pay attention to! Think of it like a trail… leading your man to the treasure/pleasure zone…
4. The Fine Line Between Pleasure and Pain
When a guy is turned on, it doesn't hurt when you graze his back or thighs with your stiletto, it drives him wild! Why?
Because it contains connotations of S&M, so your guy's brain is instantly programmed to be turned on by your stilettos as instruments of sexy pleasure/punishment when you tease and dig that heel into his muscles.
5. Feeling Sexy Equals Confidence
If you know you look good, then you will naturally exude confidence which essentially is what's really turning him on!
High heels make you feel dressed up and feminine, they compliment your day-wear and evening outfits, so why wouldn't they compliment your bedroom outfits? If you feel sexy, you are confident, which means he will see you as a sexy confident women.
Who wouldn't want to take that sexy woman to bed?
6. The Visual Turn On Vs. Practicality
There is just something so sexy for both you and your partner to see a flash of your high heels during sex – whether your legs are waving about in the air above his head, or wrapped around his waist while he's thrusting you up against the wall!
It's that little bit of raunch you need to spice up the sex and make it seem a little bit more risque than usual.
Of course, wearing heels during the actual act of sex isn't always practical. For example, if you are quite active during sex, changing positions regularly and moving about in bed, then your heels are just going to hinder you and possibly even poke someone's eye out!
But if you wear heels you can easily kick off when you need to, then there's no issue; just remember to kick them off to the side before you get acrobatic… Otherwise, choose positions where you can still comfortably stay in your heels (like doggy style).
7. High Heels Can Make You Look a Bit Slutty
Yes, wearing high heels in bed may make you feel like a tarty little whore, but if you're into it and so is he then who cares? Some older women may have their hang ups about wearing heels and feeling like they look a bit slutty, but if it turns you both on, then I say go for it. Actually, truth be told, men want you to be theirs. It's just hot when you can be completely confident about your feminine energy and stop worrying about being looked down upon for unleashing your inner sex Goddess. That's exactly what men secretly want, but are afraid to tell you.
Sex is all about having fun and connecting with your partner, and besides it's just between you and a man you trust so there's no need to feel insecure. It's time to experiment!
8. Red Heels and Long Red Nails
Guys love this sort of thing because it's sensual and erotic, especially watching and feeling your red nails and heels rake his chest or legs. Or having your wet, hot lips (with red lipstick), your red nails and red heels match while you take him deeper than Atlantis.
It provokes all sorts of erotic fantasies that adds spark to your sexual session. Red is exciting, and bringing it into the bedroom at some point is a must.
9. Half-Dressed Sex Is a Turn On
Having sex with your partner and not necessarily removing all of your clothes is hot because it gives an exciting feeling of unplanned and spontaneous sex!
Opening your blouse to reveal your bra and allowing one nipple out but not actually taking any clothing off is sexy because it feels rough and raunchy. Hitching your skirt up and pulling your knickers to one side is sexy because your guy will want to look down, and he will see that you still have your high heels on too, which will turn him on.
10. High Heels and Mirrors
Wearing high heels in the bedroom is all about appealing to your man's visual appreciation, so why not step it up a notch and introduce a full length mirror?
Then not only will your guy get the pleasure of having sex with you in heels, but he will also get the voyeuristic pleasure of watching you have sex in your heels in the mirror, which will give both of you a whole new level of enjoyment.
Probably one of the hottest scenes for men is looking at your sexy booty and heels and the back of your head while you're giving him a killer blowjob. Believe it or not, it's a supreme turn on for most guys as, for a moment, they feel like they're being pleasured by someone they don't know. This is crazy hot for most men as sex can seem totally fresh and new when you change things up like this. A mirror combined with high heels could prove to be your best friend. Try and see for yourself how he reacts.