12 Reasons Why Men Love High Heels in the Bedroom and Why You Should Wear Them

For some reason you are still wandering why men love high heels, right?  Well, wearing stilettos during sex is guaranteed to turn most men on. I’m not just saying this, I have asked many men, and researched through many online forums, and the verdict is that every single man has expressed an enthusiastic (drooling) response to the mention of high heels in bed.

Personally I quite like it if my man wears his trilby to bed, so maybe it’s an attraction to formal-wear juxtaposed with a raunchy intent.

I have come up with a list of 10 reasons as to why men love high heels in the bedroom to explain this phenomena, along with lots of handy tips for you sexy girls who want to give it a go!

1. The Fantasy

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Whether you are half naked in the bedroom or suited up in the office, women in the highest heels get the most attention from guys. It may not always be the kind of attention we want, but it’s a fact. Why men love women in high heels? Because they turn them on.

Why? Because it reminds him of his secret fantasies. Shagging his boss, being whipped into submission by a hot dominatrix, a close-encounter with a high-class h*oker. High heels connote erotic sex. It makes sense to wear them in the bedroom every once in a while!

For men, it’s all about creating an image in their mind… Once you show up in sexy high heels, they feel some of their fantasies coming back from their subconscious. Add a sexy mask to give an extra boost to your night. Watch how he gets hard like a rock. He’ll want to rip your clothes off. Add some flirty dirty talk to that whole image and suddenly you’ll take him to another world. As if it’s all happening in another dimension and not in this life.

2. Body Enhancing

When you wear your heels suddenly you are taller, you stand up straight with an air of confidence. Why men love high heels? It’s obvious. Your legs look longer, your chest is perkier and your bum sticks out and swings when you walk.

Heels naturally mold your body into the right shape to sexually attract a man, and the higher the better!

High heels also make you appear slimmer because of the way you have to hold your body. They draw your man’s attention to the entire length of your body when it is looking it’s best.

Try doing it up against the wall. Or get down squatting and pleasuring him with your hot, wet tongue (here’s how to do it right). Simply put, high heels totally sex up your look, and men are visual creatures.

3. High Heels and Stockings

Why guys adore combination of high heels and stockings?  Because they just go together! Why?

Because your man’s eyes will be directed from the sexy heels, up your curvy shins to your sexy thighs… and what’s hidden between your thighs? The “X” spot you want him to pay attention to! Think of it like a trail… leading your man to the treasure/pleasure zone…

4. Corset and Heels, Baby dolls and Heels…

Why limit yourself with classic combination- high heels and stockings. Why men love high heels? Also because there are unlimited combinations of your outlook with heels that can turn him on. There are so many options for bras and underwear to fit your individual style. Which one do you prefer? Sweet, romantic, or , why not, fetish? Have you tried corset with high heels? Or maybe sweet babydoll or sexy teddy with a pair of killer pumps…explore your own style and find out what arouse him.

5. The Fine Line Between Pleasure and Pain

When a guy is in the mood it doesn’t hurt when you graze his back or thighs with your stiletto, it drives him wild! Why?

Because it contains connotations of S&M, so your guy’s brain is instantly programmed to be turned on by your stilettos as instruments of sexy pleasure/punishment when you tease and dig that heel into his muscles.

6. Feeling Sexy Equals Confidence

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If you know you look good, then you will naturally exude confidence which essentially is what’s really turning him on!

High heels make you feel dressed up and feminine, they compliment your day-wear and evening outfits, so why wouldn’t they compliment your bedroom outfits? If you feel sexy, you are confident, which means he will see you as a sexy confident women.

Who wouldn’t want to take that sexy woman to bed?

7. The Visual Turn On Vs. Practicality

There is just something so sexy for both you and your partner to see a flash of your high heels during sex. Whether your legs are waving about in the air above his head, or wrapped around his waist while he’s thrusting you up against the wall!

It’s that little bit of raunchy you need to spice up the sex and make it seem a little bit more risque than usual.

Of course, wearing heels during the actual act of sex isn’t always practical. For example, if you are quite active during sex, changing positions regularly and moving about in bed, then your heels are just going to hinder you and possibly even poke someone’s eye out!

But if you wear heels you can easily kick off when you need to, then there’s no issue. Just remember to kick them off to the side before you get acrobatic… Otherwise, choose positions where you can still comfortably stay in your heels (like doggy style).

8. High Heels Can Make You Look a Bit Slutty

Yes, wearing high heels in bed may make you feel like a tarty little whore, but if you’re into it and so is he then who cares? Some older women may have their hang ups about wearing heels and feeling like they look a bit slutty, but if it turns you both on, then I say go for it. Men want you to be theirs. It’s just hot when you can be completely confident about your feminine energy and stop worrying about being looked down upon for unleashing your inner sex Goddess. That’s exactly what men secretly want, but are afraid to tell you.

Sex is all about having fun and connecting with your partner. Besides it’s just between you and a man you trust so there’s no need to feel insecure. It’s time to experiment!

9. Red Heels and Long Red Nails

Guys love this sort of thing because it’s sensual and erotic, especially watching and feeling your red nails and heels rake his chest or legs. Or having your wet, hot lips (with red lipstick), your red nails and red heels match while you take him deeper than Atlantis.

It provokes all sorts of erotic fantasies that adds spark to your sexual session. Red is exciting, and bringing it into the bedroom at some point is a must.

10. Half-Dressed Sex Is a Turn On

Having sex with your partner and not necessarily removing all of your clothes is hot because it gives an exciting feeling of unplanned and spontaneous sex!

Opening your blouse to reveal your bra and allowing one nipple out but not actually taking any clothing off is sexy because it feels rough and raunchy. Hitching your skirt up and pulling your knickers to one side is sexy because your guy will want to look down, and he will see that you still have your high heels on too, which will turn him on.

11. High Heels and Mirrors

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Wearing high heels in the bedroom is all about appealing to your man’s visual appreciation. Why not step it up a notch and introduce a full length mirror?

Then not only will your guy get the pleasure of having sex with you in heels, but he will also get the voyeuristic pleasure of watching you have sex in your heels in the mirror. This will give both of you a whole new level of enjoyment.

Probably one of the hottest scenes for men is looking at your sexy booty and heels and the back of your head while you’re giving him a killer blowjob. Believe it or not, it’s a supreme turn on for most guys as, for a moment, they feel like they’re being pleasured by someone they don’t know. This is crazy hot for most men as sex can seem totally fresh and new when you change things up like this. A mirror combined with high heels could prove to be your best friend. Try and see for yourself how he reacts.

12. High Heels and Toy Heels

High heels on your feet may arouse his imagination. If you and your partner are open to experiment, and heels are his fetish ,  go for toy heels. It’ can be a brave roleplay idea,  so if you are both  in a mood for it , try with some hot new ideas. There are various products you can use for a hot play, so heels don’t have to be exclusively on your feet.

Have you already spiced up your sex life with a pair of killer high heels? Share your experiences with us.

About the author

Scarlett Robinson

I am inspired by the ways people interact. Human behaviour and emotions are wonderfully complex, and I want to dig deeper and understand more. This is why I explore intimate relationships in my writing. (I’m also ever so slightly kinky.)


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  • You have got it all right , babes in heels and stockings is what most guy’s think about , im aguitar player in a rock band, I have wrighten a lot songs with stocking’s and heels in my song’s , that’s a big part of beeing a women and a big part of rock and roll, hell the two go together like ice and tea, you have got my vote hands down.

  • My husband love it when I wear heels all day on the weekend than hop into bed with nothing but my heels on.Makes for great sex

  • As a dude….. this article is way to complicated. It’s just damn sexy to see a woman in heels. Not resemblances of S&M, just sexy.

  • This article is 100% spot on! I got a taste for this about 10 years ago and everytime I am with a woman, she leaves her stilettos on….#10 on this list is the best and a must! She even has 3-4 pairs she uses when we shower together!

  • My wife and I are wild for each other when she wears a sexy pair of stilettos with nothing else on but a black negligee. One of our favorites is when I pin her against the wall (standing, facing me) while I drop to my knees to give her cunnilingus. During this I love to fondle her sexy footwear and enjoy it immensely when she unintentionally squashes my fingers during her orgasm.

  • I cannot understand why anyone would want a woman to wear shoes for sex – for me it is the biggest turnoff ever! It looks ridiculous! Don’t say ‘men’ love this – some might, but not all of us by any means. I cannot get my head round the psychology of why this should be thought of as sexy or erotic in any way! It doesn’t enhance the body, quite the opposite! And why do you believe that men want women who look slutty? You are degrading yourself if you think that’s good. Half-dressed sex is a big turn-off compared with completely naked sex. The reasons you give are silly, to be honest, and divorced from the reality of what is really sexually attractive and erotic. Get into the real world! You’re missing a lot.

    • I totally agree with this. High heels are quite the turn off when ever I see them, but the only p*rn guarnteed not to have that sorta crap is feet fetish p*rn. Being a Dom myself, having the man in a sub role is also a turnoff. Honestly this state of affairs is quite saddening for anyone like the poster above or me, and there are more ppl like us.

  • “The higher the better” – true, but pls. keep in mind, that height here only refers to the difference between toes and heels; the overall height of the shoe as being achieved with platform-soles wasn’t meant !
    Just keep things simple: a sleek stiletto heel and a proper, classic single-sole are the magic key.
    I promise !

  • I expect a woman to wear heels at special places….weddings, funerals, church, racetrack, office, dinner dates and bedroom….is that boorish?

  • High heels is the western equivalent of the Japanese foot thing. It is sexual. Walking like that tightens the inner upper thighs. The vag increases in resilience. It is not a fantasy that sex is better. It is real.

  • Sandal heels are the best for sex cute painted toes it’s like cake with icing a perfect match

  • I have always been into long beautiful legs trim well turned ankles with pretty feet in hi heels.

  • I have always been turned on by tall women with long thin legs with trim ankles and pretty feet in hi heel pumps.

  • As a male of reasonable height I would prefer my much taller gf only wear her hi heels in the bedroom as I come up under chin and when the heels go on I am maybe at boob level and she really doesn’t and I deal with it, and shower sex is about impossible unless she goes down on me.

  • To each their own. Obviously, I have some interest in the wearing of high heels. As to the activities or intensities of a married couple in a secluded location of their choosing, a successful enjoyment has to be mutual, otherwise, one of you will be left unsatisfied. Creative foreplay is important, so make sure you’re in tune with what your spouse expects. You can beware of the point your spouse reaches their ecstasy. So make the effort to share the experience simultaneously.

  • women in high heels does nothing for me.
    It looks dangerous and makes a woman too tall.
    Most men like women shorter not taller.

  • in the book “The Joy of Sex”, another fantastic and scientific explanation of heels in the bedroom explains how the scent of a lady’s shoe can expand the sexual experience. It was gratifying to discover I wasn’t nuts and there was a real reason that I enjoyed the scent of worn heels.

  • As a man just old enough to remember the girls I dated always wore heels and stockings–not so much to look sexy, but because it was the dress of the day.–No panty hose or flip flops, just garter stockings and dress heels back in the day. I’m drawn to women who still can and want to dress that way. There is an air of sophistication and confidence with such women. They know what they want and how to get it which makes them very exciting indeed.