For some reason, some women find it difficult to tell a guy exactly what they are looking for during sex. Maybe it’s because they're nervous about what he’s going to say or afraid to make him feel like he’s not doing a good job. I don’t know.
But one thing is for sure, there are times where we would find ourselves enjoying the sex more if we made sure to get what we want out of it. Here are some things women love in bed, but are too afraid to ask you to do.
Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay. Us women, while we don’t have to get hard for sex to happen, do have to have a certain amount of foreplay to make sure we are turned on enough to have sex.
If you need more foreplay or even just enjoy it, don’t be afraid to tell your man that! The more turned on you are, the better the sex is going to be for the both of you.
2. Rough sex
We are not all delicate little flowers that you have to be worried about hurting. Most of the time, a good grab of the rear can really turn us on and want to go the extra mile to make sure you’re enjoying it, too.
Most girls don’t mind it if you try to give them a little choke or slap on the behind. As long as she consents to it, you are free to do what you want to her.
3. Trying new positions
There are certain positions that maybe certain people weren’t interested in before or things just didn’t work out, but there are always positions that girls secretly want to try.
There is always going to be something exciting about doing something new in the bedroom.
So even if it doesn’t work out well, then you could always try to suggest something else and be able to explore new positions and see what you both like.
4. Dirty talk
Everyone is going to be into something different, so there is a chance that you will be with someone who doesn’t always enjoy talking dirty or getting talked to in a dirty way.
Even with that said, try it out and don’t be afraid to test the waters every once in a while, if talking dirty is something that your girl is really into. Like I’ve been saying, the more into it she is, the better it’s going to be for the both of you.
5. Watching porn together
This is something that a good number of couples already do together. Watching porn together can give some insight to what you and your partner like or don’t like.
This can also be an opportunity to look up ways to spice it up in the bedroom and discover new positions. While watching porn, this can be your chance to really ask if there’s anything weird that your partner is into. It can open up a line of communication to a very pleasurable experience.
6. Random grabs
It can really be a turn on to have your partner come up to you randomly and grab your boob or your butt. It involves a certain element of surprise and can bring a lot of unexpected passion to your day.
Unexpected sex can sometimes be the best sex because you don’t need to plan or it and it can leave you thinking about it for the rest of the day.
7. Changing the spot
This can go along with the random grabs and spontaneous sex. It can really turn someone on to be in the kitchen and just start having sex. It brings something new to the table (see what I did there?) and can really help to spice things up every once in a while.
One of the most important parts of having a healthy sex life is making sure that you still enjoy it and find it pleasurable. Sometimes, sex can get boring, which is something we obviously do not want.
Changing the spot can make it feel dangerous or even like you’re about to get in trouble, which makes it all the more fun.
8. Adding toys
Most women find it very difficult to reach an orgasm because of penetration alone. Many women need to be stimulated in other areas, which can often be forgotten during sex.
If she doesn’t reach orgasm during foreplay or after you finish, then make sure she does. Adding toys, such as vibrators, can assist a woman reach orgasm during sex, which would make it even hotter for you knowing that you could do that for your girl.
There are a lot of things that can turn people on. When you’ve been having sex with the same person for a good amount of time, there is a large chance that you’re going to get bored of it, even a little bit, at some point in time.
Role playing allows you to add a little something interesting to make the sex even more fun. Try different roles and outfits to see if it brings back a little bit of that passion.
10. Kissing and cuddling after sex
There’s nothing worse than going into separate corners after finishing sex and letting it get too awkward. You two just got very intimate with each other, and there needs to be time spent together after that.
Many girls would enjoy kissing during and after sex, especially because some guys forget that we like that. Cuddling after sex shows us that it meant something to you, too and that it was enjoyable for the both of you.
Sex is something that is supposed to be fun and enjoyable, so make sure you are getting exactly what you’re looking for! Don’t settle. You have needs, just like your man does. It doesn’t hurt anyone!
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