The vast majority of women I’ve had some kind of intimate relationship with have all made the same mistakes in bed. There are certain things that many girls lack in the sack. It’s really a shame because there are some beautiful women out there who are nice and fun to hang out but as boring as could be in bed.
It really doesn’t take much to impress the men you are intimate with. Having that ability can turn a guy on in ways that will have him hooked for good.
Some girls have a unique style—something that sets them apart from other women—that is difficult to put into words. It’s a matter of attraction on an individual level.
There are no hard and fast rules for that, but there are certain things you can do to turn your man on during sex in a way that you may not already be doing. There are also a few things that you should avoid at all cost because they might turn your man off. Here are some things you should do and should not do.
1. Don’t just lay there
Do something—anything—just don’t lay still. I understand that sex is a act of dominance for many people, but you can still actively participate. Even something slightly weird would be better than what most guys call the ‘dead fish.’
2. Use your hands to massage his body
Most girls just kind of hang on to part of a guy’s body during sex and squeeze, be it the back of the neck, bicep, back, whatever. Work your hands around. Guys also love to be touched, especially by a woman they are attracted to.
Women’s hands feel so soft to us. It’s a very intimate thing that turns us on. Rub his body, and literally give him a massage during sex. It will definitely bump up the pleasure!
3. Use your nails on his back
Some guys are into nails more than others, but I know a lot of guys who are crazy about it, including myself. Gently drag your nails across his back. Think ‘massage scratching’ rather than scratching something hard because it itches.
Scratching kind of hard is okay, but you shouldn’t ever be breaking the skin. That will probably hurt him, and might turn him off. Very light to medium strength scratching is best.
4. Don’t bite hard
As I’ve already mentioned, not every guy is the same, but most of the girls I’ve encountered, who have a thing for biting, did it way too hard when they were drunk. Your boyfriend is not a chew toy, ladies!
Lay off the gnawing unless he is obviously into it from the get-go. If he’s just indulging your fetish and you’re really into biting, that’s a good thing, but you need to respect that and not bite too hard.
5. Don’t start talking in a normal tone or asking questions
Do not do anything to break the mood. It’s so annoying when a girl starts talking about something during sex—or, worse, while he’s climaxing. Do not make him laugh or say anything that will induce some kind of semi-normal thought—just let him enjoy it. If you interrupt his moment with some random comment, the pleasure from his climax will be diminished.
6. While he’s finishing, do something to increase the pleasure
Nails, rubbing, kissing, massage, kissing the body—these are all great examples of what you can do. Saying something dirty just before or during the moment can be really, too, but be mindful of what you choose to say.
7. Don’t fake it
Guys take offense when they can tell you’re pretending to climax for whatever reason. It’s kind of awkward. If you want to stop, come up with something to say.
Some examples of something acceptable to say would be something like, “I want to make you…” or maybe even, “Are you going to…in/on me?” He’ll get the point, so save the theatrics.
If the reason you’re faking it is because, for some reason, you can’t and you feel like you’re expected to, ask him to do whatever you think might work. He would rather do exactly what you want most than have you miss out on the opportunity to enjoy it more.
8. Don’t scream
No matter how good it feels, you do not need to scream at the top of your lungs like a crazy person. It’s annoying, and the guy might feel embarrassed that the neighbors can hear it. Moaning during sex is a way better option.
9. Be enthusiastic about oral sex, even if you hate it
You don’t have to pretend that you love it, but don’t let him know you hate doing it while you’re doing it—that’s important. He needs to feel like it’s okay to enjoy it, and not feel guilty or like he’s making you do it against your will. Whatever you do, do not stop and give him an awkward look. Just stop altogether if it comes to that.
I guarantee that if you make these changes—even just some of them—the next time you have sex, you’ll find that both of you enjoy things even more. Your guy will certainly be more than happy to return the favor when he sees how enthusiastic and, more importantly, how sincere you are between the sheets.
What are some of the common mistakes that you think men make in bed? Let us know in the comments section below.