Sex Positions and Tips That Enhance Sexual Intimacy

Have you ever had a rampant sexual romp with a guy, but been left feeling ever so slightly empty or dissatisfied afterward? Not the best of feelings eh? Are you in a long-term relationship, and is your sexual routine in danger of becoming predictable and stagnant?

God forbid, but hey it happens! This feeling of dissatisfaction has nothing to do with whether or not you climax. Usually, it has more to do with a lack of emotional connection established between you and your partner before, during and after intercourse.

The great news is that re-establishing that connection is easy – phew. All you have to do is stop closing your eyes! Only kidding, but this is something we should look into…

Why Closing Your Eyes During Sex Hinders Sexual Intimacy

When you really think about it, closing your eyes during sex is a fairly selfish thing to do. Usually, we close our eyes to help focus our concentration on the pleasure that we are receiving or the sensations we want to build within ourselves.

We cut ourselves off from the reality of the room we are in and even the person we are with to escape into an abstract dark place where only our own physical pleasure is important. In effect we shut off the most obvious of our five senses; the main one which is directly related to intimacy – seeing.

The first thing you should think about doing if you want to connect with your partner is open your eyes! When you can see your partner you can look at their facial expressions and into their eyes and sense what they are feeling, and even what they are thinking without them having to say a word.

Communication in sexual intimacy doesn’t have to be spoken out loud – that is called intellectual intimacy, which can also add to a deeper sense of overall intimacy before, during and after sex.

Looking into a person’s eyes, especially during an act as personal as making love, can leave you feeling extremely vulnerable. When you do open your eyes and share moments with your partner you are in essence displaying a level of trust and openness that can be very sexy.

Don’t get me wrong, staring in an unblinking manner at your partner while he is thrusting away could be unnerving and put him off, but moments of eye-locking intensity can make you both feel like you are experiencing something together, rather than working towards your own separate goals.

And watching your man look into your eyes while you lose yourself in the pleasure he is creating with you, can be seriously hot, because all of his attention is on you, and you can see it! I guarantee you he’ll find it just as hot roles reversed.

One thing I do have to bring up at this point though is open eyes during kissing – don’t do it! When you leave your eyes open during a kiss it has the exact opposite effect because it shows that you are not really in it, you are somewhere else entirely, and not in a good way.

I have a confession to make. Once I was dating a guy and I didn’t even realize that every time we kissed I had my eyes open. It was so strange and it really freaked him out.

Sex Positions and Tips That Encourage Intimate Eye Contact

1. Classic Missionary Position – When you are close together there is the perfect opportunity to look into each other’s eyes in between kisses, and when your bodies are further apart you can both admire each other’s sexy torsos.

2. Lights on – They don’t have to be bright, but if you are in darkness what can you see? Not a lot.

3. Change the tempo – when you change position slightly, like straightening out your legs or bringing you knees up, the distraction of the flow of intercourse can give you an opportunity to establish some of that yummy eye contact.

How to Create a Connection through Touch

The second sense you should focus on when establishing an intimate connection during sex is touch. It should be slow, sensual and varied.

You should be watching each other’s every move. If you touch your man’s chest during sex with your eyes closed it’s just not going to have the same effect on you or him than if you have your eyes on his chest too.

I’m telling you, ‘looking’ is a powerful thing when it comes to creating an intimate sexual experience!

Touching each other’s bodies during sex is a form of worship and discovery. When you take the time to explore each other through touch, establishing eye contact as you go and watching your partner touch you back, you are taking a journey together.

If he is stroking your stomach you can slide you hand down your stomach to meet his, and then you can take his hand and together make your way back up to caress your breasts.

Touching can involve kissing because you are touching with your lips. It can involve foot-play too; you can rub your feet on his and around his ankles, intertwining your legs so that you feel locked together in a passionate and intimate embrace.

Sex Positions That are Perfect for Hands-free Touching

1. The woman on top – Sex on top is an intimate sex position because it is vulnerable to him as he is underneath and you are in control, and it is vulnerable to you because your body is exposed to his gaze. Of course, both of you now have full access to look into each other’s eyes and caress each other’s bodies.

2. Doggy position – While this one is no good for eye-to-eye interaction, if he leans over you he can hold you in his embrace either by pushing you down flatter onto the bed or pulling you up so that you are sitting in front of him. He can hold you in his arms and stroke your stomach, cradle your breasts and kiss your neck, and if you really want you can turn your head towards him for a kiss or a sneaky peek at his face. This position also has the added benefit of your man being able to touch and stroke your thighs and rub your clitoris, which will feel very intimate indeed!

3. Sitting position – If you both sit facing each other on the bed with you sitting in his lap, or on the sofa or a chair, this position will allow you to look at each other and rock gently together.

Discovering an Animal Intimacy through Scent

The final sensory tip to encourage sexual intimacy is to focus on your partner’s scent. When you make love to your partner you are naturally attracted to the scent he gives off, and your scent will be turning him on to no end. Natural scent is often underestimated.

Your partner has a unique scent that will be different to every other man, and the same goes for you. When your bodies heat up with passion your scents will mingle together creating an urgent desire in you both to be all over each other!

When he furrows his head into your neck he is trying to get your scent all over his face because sexually he wants to merge with you. It is this sense of wanting to merge that can create a wonderful intimacy between you both.

Sex Positions and Tips to Attract Him to Your Scent

1. Spooning – With him behind you and your neck exposed, he will not be able to resist the urge to nuzzle his nose into your neck. The heat from your head will enhance your natural scent, and before you know it his hands will be all over you!

2. Don’t shower – If you’re not in desperate need of one before you have sex, skip it. Most men love the natural scent of a woman. Your natural scent is much more likely to turn him on than the scent of your bubble bath! If you do have to shower don’t use anything too flowery, go for something simple and fresh.

3. Let him go down on you – there is nothing more natural smelling than that secret, warm moist area between your legs!