In the bedroom, there are certain things a girl cay say that will turn a guy on much more.
There are also sounds he likes to hear that add to the excitement, and even facial expressions, or kinds of behavior that guys love to see during sex.
Most of all, he wants to know that he’s pleasing you.
Here are some ways that you can let him know that.
Tell him what you want him to do
Guys really want you to let them know what it is you like and how you like it. I don’t mean as an ego boost, I mean just for the sake of actually knowing what you prefer in bed. As guys, we already have some idea about what you like.
We might even do exactly what you want without having any way of knowing other than from past experience. But if you want it a certain way, by all means let us know. If you want to change to a different position, tell us.
If we don’t feel like doing whatever it is you ask us to do, don’t worry. We’d rather that you simply let us know so for future reference so that we have a better idea of what turns you on.
If you want it crazy hard, say so. If you want to take it easy, don’t be afraid to let us know right away. We don’t want to do it in a way that is uncomfortable for you.
But we have to know what you like in order to make you feel good. You could just show us instead of verbally telling us. You don’t have to say it outright, but communicate with us somehow.
Say our name
Hearing someone say your name has an effect. It really grabs your attention. For guys, it also lets us know that you’re not thinking about someone else. We know how common it is for a girl to be thinking about another guy in the bedroom because we do it too, frequently.
It might be tough to imagine that your partner could be thinking about the waitress from the restaurant that he ate lunch at, but it’s totally true. And we know you do it too sometimes, but we don’t want to think about that. We especially don’t want to talk about it.
The comedian Louis C.K. said it best in a bit about masturbation in which he talks about a conversation he had with his wife:
“Well do you think about me when you’re doing that?’ What? Are you f**king high? Why would I do that? I can think about anybody”
The same principle can apply to sex, especially doggy style where there’s no face to face interaction. Basically, you saying our name is sobering and proves that you’re not off in la-la land thinking about some other guy.
If we do happen to be thinking about the waitress from the restaurant where we had lunch, hearing your voice saying our name will dispel the fantasy and bring us back to reality.
Even if we were fantasizing about someone else, we’ll still like the sound of you saying our name. It makes is feel like you really want us.
Complement his member
Every guy likes to hear you say how much you want it, how much you love it, and how good it feels. Saying that will eliminate any thoughts that he could have about whether or not he’s big enough for you.
Even if he’s relatively large, he might still be insecure about his size. You will give him more confidence if you tell him explicitly.
Guys like to hear you make sounds, but not excessive screaming. We want you to enjoy the sex as much as possible, but we also want you to keep control of yourself and not disturb our neighbors.
That being said, it’s always nice to hear that what we’re doing feels good to you.
We love to hear you tell us right before you’re about to climax. It turns us on a lot. It also lets us know that you might be ready to stop after that, unless of course you can climax again. If we don’t know, we’ll probably ask you if you feel like you can again.
If we don’t ask and you’re sure that you want to stop soon, try to let us know that you’re done. You can say something like, “That was so good,” or just something that lets us know that you’re basically all set now and it’s our turn to finish.
The sound of slapping your butt
Guys love slapping a girl’s butt. The sound it makes and the feeling on our hand when we do it is satisfying. We like slapping it really hard, but we assume that you don’t want us to do it too hard.
If you like getting your butt slapped hard but your man doesn’t do it firmly enough, maybe he thinks you’re too sensitive for him to do it hard. Tell him to slap it harder if you like it.
Like I said before, he wishes he could read your mind and know exactly what you like and don’t like so he can turn you on better and please you more.
It’s no secret that guys love receiving oral. Hearing some noises and sounds while it’s happening is nice. Whether it’s a subtle moan from the girl or just the natural sounds of what’s taking place, it can add to the excitement and turn us on even more.
You can make it more audible on purpose to enhance the experience even more. You can also ask us things, for example if we like it but in a sexy tone of voice, or how we want you to do it.
Making eye contact while doing this can be hot, but if a guy is really into the moment he will probably make all kinds of goofy faces and when you look up at him it might kind of snap him out of it. If you look up and he locks eyes with you that probably means he likes looking you in the eyes while you’re doing that because it turns him on.
If you look up and he darts his eyes away or you notice he tries to regain composure every time you look up at him, then it’s better not to look at him and just let him enjoy it without worrying about how he looks at the moment.
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Talk dirty, but don’t go overboard
Don’t go overboard with the dirty talk. A little bit goes a long way. Sexy conversations are erotic because they allow you to be someone else for the period of time you spend saying those dirty words.
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Some things are better left unsaid
Don’t start talking about normal things. It kills the mood. If you have to talk, say it in a whisper or in the middle of moaning, or in a sexy voice.
Don’t talk in a normal tone of voice, ever, during sex.
If you’re going to complement his body or his member, that’s good, but if you say things that are really nasty and freaky, he might not like it, or he might think back on it later and laugh.
Obviously, neither of those are good. And if you say something really nasty, he probably will laugh about it later. Unless, he says the nasty stuff first. Then you know he likes to hear you say things that are really dirty.
Feedback is important during sex. It’s not entirely necessary, but it can only add to the experience to give compliments or in some other way let your partner know that he’s pleasing you. Guys always enjoy it more when their partner is enthusiastic.