The 5 Best Sex Toys You Can Use With Your Man

If you’re in a loving relationship that’s great, but it’s time to spice up your sex life and introduce some fun sex toys into the equation.

Of course, the most important thing in any relationship is to have a loving and healthy relationship, but as you well know, like anything, if you stick to routine, it grows old. Sex is a HUGE part of any relationship. It’s our way of connecting with our hunky men on a more intimate level. If you’ve been with your man for a while, it’s time to let the inhibitions go and not be shy anymore… Shy is for new relationships, not a guy you’ve been with for ages. Yes, ladies, it’s time to spice up your sex life. What better way to do than with a fun sex toy?

Sex toy? Isn’t that just for single women?

Sex toys are for everyone

Hah! You’re so misguided. Sex toys are for everyone and it’s a great way to add a bit more fun and interest into your relationship.

With a plethora of different weird and wonderful sex toys on the market today, it’s really easy to get overwhelmed.

That’s why I felt compelled to share with you my inside knowledge and experiences with just a few ideas that are going to rouse both yours and your partner’s curiosity. That will, of course, leave you both feeling more than just satisfied.

1. The Vibrating Egg

Put off by its name? Don’t be. A vibrating egg, otherwise known as the bullet, is one of the most gratifying and versatile sex toys there is. What’s even greater is that you can use it solo or with your partner. With the vibrating egg, you’re guaranteed an orgasm every time, yes you heard right “EVERY TIME”! It certainly gets the job done, that’s for sure. Perhaps what makes this simple yet effective sex toy even better is that it’s one of the cheapest sex toys available. If you’re both sex toy novices, this is ideal for you.

It works by using a remote control that’s connected to a thin and subtle wire. Are you super horny? Well, that’s great you can set it to the highest settings for your extra pleasure or if you’re just getting in the mood, you can set it to a lower setting and enjoy the vibes.

2. A Set Of Handcuffs

Do you want to step it up a notch and play dominatrix? Or perhaps you want to be the submissive one and be dominated? Do you want to test the waters first before getting into some more serious bondage? If you’re jumping up and down screaming hell, yes, then handcuffs are the way to go.

Handcuffs are a mainstream sex toy and there’s nothing dodgy about them – use them either during foreplay when you’re getting things hot or during sex itself. Do you want to make him squirm and pleasure him in ways that will make him wet and wild? Tie him up with handcuffs and tease him or vice versa, but do make sure you set a few ground rules before using them; you don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable. Over time you’ll both get used to the idea of being tied up and you may want to spice it up even more by adding a few more naughtier things such as a blindfold or a whip next time round.

3. Lubes And Massage Oils

What’s hot sex without your trusty lube? If you’re not already using lube, head to the nearest sex store near you and stock up. Fragrant lubes, flavored lubes, lubes that leave tingling sensations…you name it and there is probably a lube variety. Lubes or massage oils not only make sex and penetration much easier, they also enhance your sexual pleasure…it’s a double-whammy.

Like anything, there are good quality lubes and then there are crap cheap ones. Pay a little more and buy the good stuff because some aren’t compatible with sex toys and you’ll just end up destroying them and this is something you really don’t want, right? If you’re looking for a way to really get or give mind-blowing oral sex, opt for a flavored water-based lube. If you’re a little bit more apprehensive and want to take things a little slower, opt for scented massage oil to heat up those massages and get both you and your man in the right mood and hanging for more.

4. The Mini Massager

When I say mini, it’s mini and super discreet! You’ve got to love the mini massager because there’s nothing more intimidating that a massive dildo – especially when you’re using a sex toy with him for the first time. When you’re introducing a sex toy into your relationship for the first time, start with something small. The mini massager is code name for the inconspicuous ‘Pocket Rocket’ which is just small enough to get you in the mood and turn you on like crazy, but at the same time it’s not enough to turn your man off and have him running in the other direction screaming, “Get that thing away from me.” Compared to other bigger vibrators, the vibrations are just as effective and strong – actually it’s so small you hardly even realize that you’re using a sex toy. Turn him on even more by taking the initiative and start playing with yourself; you’ll soon get him going.

5. The Vibrating Penis Ring

Oh my God, what’s that? I can hear you gasping already. Never fear ladies, this is not as scary as it sounds and in fact it’s going to bring you a hell of a lot of pleasure. It’s no secret that women definitely have a hard time reaching orgasm from just sex (no, you’re not the only one) and this is where the vibrating penis ring comes in. This penis ring is a ring that is placed on the shaft of your partner’s penis and restricts its blood flow. The result? Harder, more prominent erections (yup, it gives him pleasure too) that last longer and it creates the most amazing sensations that you will never have experienced in your life (that is assuming this is new for you). This ring can either be directed to your clitoris or his testicles depending on which sensation you want, but I’m guessing it’s going to be clitoral!

Whatever kind of sex toy you and your partner use make sure you’re both comfortable and of course, don’t forget to have lots of fun and enjoy the moment. You’ll never look back!

About the author


Victoria loves life, people and travel and writes for YouQueen’s Love and Sex sections. She loves to laugh, dance and cook and has a penchant for dessert. Her life is hectic and often a little crazy but this is her driving force.

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