What to Do If He Is More Sexually Experienced Than You

Are you worried that your partner is more sexually experienced than you, and that you won't be able to satisfy him in bed? Here are some tips and advice to help your confidence...

Bear in mind that men always exaggerate their previous sexual experiences, so whatever he has told you about the number of partners he has had in the past, or his crazy sexual antics, well just take it with a pinch of salt, trust me!

Even if he is as sexually worldly as he describes, it doesn’t mean that he is going to be putting you on a scale of 1-10 for your performance. The chances are he is more concerned about topping his own performance, which only means that you’re in for a treat between the sheets.

The second thing to remember is that sexual innocence is enticing to most men. If you feel you are not very confident in the bedroom department here are a few things about you that are already driving him crazy…

  • You radiate the innocence of a virgin, and he is itching to ravish you.
  • Your lack of experience gives him more confidence in himself.
  • Your coy manner presents him with a delicious challenge.
  • To him you are pure and untouched, untainted and ripe for the picking.
  • He has an thrilling urge to be the one to introduce you all kinds of new pleasure.

Sexual Teacher and Student Rapport

If you don’t think you know enough about pleasuring a man in the bedroom, there’s no need to fret about it. All men are different anyway, and each new partner is a learning experience whether you have had a lot of sex in the past or not.

He will be learning about your body as much as you will be learning about his, and you will also be learning about your own body, and how to give and receive pleasure. A good sexual relationship is based on trust and a willingness to explore. If you are eager to learn about his body, then he will be eager to guide you. Sex doesn’t have to be a guessing game.

The best way to establish that you want to know exactly how to pleasure him, is to ask him lots of questions. Ask him if he likes what you’re doing, what he wants you to do, where, when, how, why… Don’t be afraid to use your imagination and keep asking if it feels good. Go at your own pace and only do what you feel comfortable with. If he has had as much experience as he says then you can feel confident that he has had a wide variety of different experiences with woman, and he understands that every woman has different needs.

An experienced lover should naturally make you feel at ease, because he will control the situation and you will feel safe.

If he is rushing through and trying every position in the book before he has even bothered to find about how your unique body and mind responds during sex, then his so-called experience counts for nothing, and you should jolly well tell him to slow down! Saying that, a guy’s ego is easily bruised though, so if you want to continue in the relationship with him it’s probably best to be tactful.

Remember: Being experienced at sex doesn’t just mean knowing all the moves or having more sexual partners. It means being experienced with individual people, just like in everyday situations.

How to Combat Your Nerves

A woman’s mind tends to go on overdrive when she feels insecure. You have probably already compared yourself to all of his ex girlfriends, if he has been so ungentlemanly as to describe his sexual relations with them to you!

The most sensible thing is to get in touch with your feminine side and be confident in yourself before you let him anywhere near you. Here are some tips to help you get in touch with your inner goddess…

1. Learn to love your body – Body insecurities are at the top of the list when it comes to bedroom jitters. Get used to seeing yourself naked so that you will feel confident when you bare all to him! This means propping a nice big mirror up in your bedroom and strutting around in the buff, until you are completely familiar with yourself and which positions your body looks and feels it’s best.

2. Treat yourself to new underwear – Feeling sexy isn’t only a state of mind, you can help by knowing that you look good by investing in some sexy underwear. He won’t be thinking about whether you’ve got any fancy sex moves once he sees you in your racy red knickers… no he will just be thinking about getting them off! It’s amazing how the right attire can do half the work for you.

3. Learn how to pleasure yourself – If you know how to feel good by yourself, then you will be more likely to be able to feel good during sex with your new man! If he thinks he’s making you feel good then that in itself will make him feel amazing… no need for fancy sex poses, just the right noises and pelvic movements will do the trick.

Do Your Research

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If you are still really nervous or worried that you won’t be able to satisfy him, there’s nothing like increasing confidence with a little bit of knowledge. Go online and learn about his penis so that you know how to handle it if you need to.

Half the fear is of the unknown, and a man’s penis is probably the most daunting thing about sex, because we don’t have one, so we have no idea what stimulation feels like for him! But really it’s like anything in life, if you have the right knowledge then you’re on the right path. You have everything else you need to get your man off, it just takes some courage and practice.

Also, talk to your girlfriends and ask them for tips and tricks. Girlfriends will often tell you loads of interesting things that you would never learn from a text book. This is because every experience is different, and every man is different. we all like different things and that’s nothing to be afraid of.

Sex is an adventure and a journey. You don’t have to be intimidated, embrace the challenge and don’t be afraid to embarrass yourself and make mistakes. We’ve all been there.

About the author

Scarlett Robinson

I am inspired by the ways people interact. Human behaviour and emotions are wonderfully complex, and I want to dig deeper and understand more. This is why I explore intimate relationships in my writing. (I’m also ever so slightly kinky.)


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  • Amazing!! I loved this article, literally what I was looking for :) Thank you so much Scarlett!!

    • You’re welcome Karina! Let us know if there are any other topics you’d like us to cover x

  • Is there a corresponding article for what to do if a guy is less sexually experienced than you are? (How to encourage him to share his desires, try new things, etc. if he is shy?)