Seduction

Office Romance: How To Seduce A Guy At Work

Seducing a coworker can be risky, but if you really like him, there are ways to subtly give him hints of your feelings. Here's how to seduce a guy at work!

Seduction is a fine art, but in certain circumstances, it can be risky. Work is no exception because you run the risk of losing your job over your antics, be slapped with a sexual harassment lawsuit, or attract unwanted attention.

That being said, there’s nothing wrong with having a little fun now and then if your crush happens to also be your co-worker. If you play your cards right and be discreet, your crush can easily become your man.

Our tips will have him succumbing to you in no time!

Dress to impress

Young manager flirting with businesswoman in sunset

Appearances are always important. While you want to attract this attention, you shouldn’t be unprofessional about it. After all, this is the workplace and you need to reside within the proper dress codes. However, you can still bend the dress code to suit your seduction.


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You want to wear something flattering and tasteful, yet playful enough to attract his attention. Firstly, wear a modest skirt that is just a tiny bit on the short side so that you can give your crush a small glimpse of parts unknown.

If the length of your skirt is too provocative, it will attract unwanted attention from other male coworkers.

While an extremely low cut top could showcase your chest in all its glory, a more modest one will be a more practical choice as you will only want to reveal tiny glimpses. Wearing a push-up bra will accentuate your goods and make them irresistible with any top you have on.

Heels are a must, but they don’t need to be sky-high stilettos to showcase your legs and make them appear longer. A tasteful heel, no matter the type, will still look sexy, especially if you round off the look with thigh-high stockings and garters to keep them taut.

Play hard to get

If you know your crush is interested, make him work to get you. Men enjoy a challenge and he will keep his interest piqued if he has to keep chasing.

Never throw yourself at him or else he won’t be excited by your antics and will assume that you’re trying too hard to vie for his attention.

If a male is faced with two types of interested females, he will always opt for the one who is more difficult to conquer. At the same time, don’t constantly play hard to get or he will think you aren’t interested in him

To remedy that, create a pattern. Be flirty and amicable one day, then appear cool and disinterested the next. Men have fragile egos, so following this pattern will have the right effect upon him, as it’s the best of both worlds.

Men aren’t adept at reading non-verbal cues, so when you flirt, make sure it’s using your words. A man can easily misinterpret a smile as just being friendly or a sexual overture. In addition, those men who are highly intelligent will be more likely to misread non-verbal cues. Why?

The side of the brain for logic, spatial abilities and memorizing grows at the expense of the side of the brain for reading non-verbal signs.

Lingering, unexpected touches

beautiful businesswoman looking seductively at her colleague in the office

When you are having a conversation with him (at lunch or during coffee breaks), place your fingers over his palm while emphasizing a point or hold him by the hand as you’re crossing the street. If you’re sitting next to him, perhaps brush your feet against his and pretend you didn’t notice.

The bottom line is: create chances to let him touch you and he will want more. Men are tactile and love to touch when they can.

If you are unsure of how to create that circumstance, here’s a tried and tested trick:

Jewelry, especially pendants, can be a great way to hook him in. Just before you speak with your crush, unlatch your necklace so that it falls to the floor.

Discreetly pick up the necklace when you’re in conversation and then ask him to fasten it around your neck. His fingertips will brush the nape of your neck, one of the most intimate places on your body. He will definitely be affected by your close proximity.

Smile, smile, smile!!!

Men are automatically drawn towards women who seem happier and more fun to be with. A smiling, flirty lady is more approachable than a surly, stern one. Also, it makes you exude confidence, a trait that most men find sexy in a woman.

When you’re talking to him, smile often. It will make you seem good-natured, happy and content. He will be powerless to resist. Your smiling needs to have a sort of balance, though.

If you smile too much, it might show him that your interest is glaringly obvious. You’re trying to seduce him, not let him know you like him!

Your goal is to make it look like he’s the one pursuing you, even if you’re spinning a web of seduction to ensnare him with each step you take.

Flirty is fun!

flirting secretary with a guy in the office

Flirting is an important part of your seduction. It tells him that you’re up for a bit of safe fun now and then. When you’re in conversation, start flirting with him and make him want to continue the conversation with you.

Start off subtly and begin puffing up his ego. When he becomes excited, say something to deflate it. When it comes to flirting, it’s more effective when you keep him on his toes.

It’s more exciting to him, and it plays his insecurities just right to keep him working harder to keep your attention.

The key is to be subtle and mysterious because if you’re direct and specific, he will think you’re too desperate and become immediately turned off. Remember, men love a mystery.

Create awkward situations

If you want to be successful in your seduction, you need to be wily. This is where you need to act in a seemingly random fashion to keep him guessing and keep him aroused.

Get into a crowded elevator with him and “unknowingly” allow your butt to caress his leg. Or, you can brush up against him so that his shoulder or arm makes contact with your chest.

If he’s sitting down, come from behind him and reach across his table to get something when he’s unaware. He will do an involuntary turn and his shoulders will be in perfect trajectory to your chest, even though it’s “by accident”.

Be circumspect, though. If you don’t make your strategy obvious, he will think he’s the lucky one for getting to touch you in places a man can only dream of. By creating these awkward situations, his pants will get tighter and he will do more than just fantasizing about you.

Seduction at work is a tricky art, but if you play your cards right, he will fall right into your lap (figuratively and literally). As long as you play hard to get, wear the right clothing, snare him in awkward situations, flirt effectively, and create opportunities for light, physical contact, he will become yours for the taking.

About the author

Tina C.

Tina C. is a young “Jill of All Trades” who aspires to be a best-selling author someday. A well-educated, well-read, and well-traveled individual, Tina takes pride in all of her work and loves trying something new.

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