10 Reasons Why Men Love High Heels in the Bedroom and Why You Should Wear Them - YouQueen

10 Reasons Why Men Love High Heels in the Bedroom and Why You Should Wear Them


If you are looking for an easy way to turn your man on in the bedroom, dig out your highest pair of sexy stilettos and wear them while having sex! Why do men love high heels in the bedroom? Let’s find out…

For some reason wearing stilettos during sex is guaranteed to turn most men on. I’m not just saying this, I have asked many men, and researched through many online forums, and the verdict is that every single man has expressed an enthusiastic (drooling) response to the mention of high heels in bed.

Personally I quite like it if my man wears his trilby to bed, so maybe it’s an attraction to formal-wear juxtaposed with a raunchy intent.

I have come up with a list of 10 reasons as to why men love high heels in the bedroom to explain this phenomena, along with lots of handy tips for you sexy girls who want to give it a go!

1. The Fantasy

Whether you are half naked in the bedroom or suited up in the office, women in the highest heels get the most attention from guys. It may not always be the kind of attention we want, but it’s a fact. Men are turned on by a woman in heels.

Why? Because it reminds him of his secret fantasies – Shagging his boss, being whipped into submission by a hot dominatrix, a close-encounter with a high-class h*oker. High heels connote erotic sex. It makes sense to wear them in the bedroom every once in a while!

2. Body Enhancing


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When you wear your heels suddenly you are taller, you stand up straight with an air of confidence, your legs look longer, your chest is perkier and your bum sticks out and swings when you walk.

Heels naturally mold your body into the right shape to sexually attract a man, and the higher the better!

High heels also make you appear slimmer because of the way you have to hold your body, and they draw your man’s attention to the entire length of your body when it is looking it’s best.

3. High Heels and Stockings

They go together! Why?

Because your man’s eyes will be directed from the sexy heels, up your curvy shins to your sexy thighs… and what’s hidden between your thighs? The “X” spot you want him to pay attention to! Think of it like a trail… leading your man to the treasure/pleasure zone…

4. The Fine Line Between Pleasure and Pain

When a guy is turned on, it doesn’t hurt when you graze his back or thighs with your stiletto, it drives him wild! Why?

Because it contains connotations of S&M, so your guy’s brain is instantly programmed to be turned on by your stilettos as instruments of sexy pleasure/punishment when you tease and dig that heel into his muscles.

5. Feeling Sexy Equals Confidence

If you know you look good, then you will naturally exude confidence which essentially is what’s really turning him on!

High heels make you feel dressed up and feminine, they compliment your day-wear and evening outfits, so why wouldn’t they compliment your bedroom outfits? If you feel sexy, you are confident, which means he will see you as a sexy confident women.

Who wouldn’t want to take that sexy woman to bed?

6. The Visual Turn On Vs. Practicality

There is just something so sexy for both you and your partner to see a flash of your high heels during sex – whether your legs are waving about in the air above his head, or wrapped around his waist while he’s thrusting you up against the wall!

It’s that little bit of raunch you need to spice up the sex and make it seem a little bit more risque than usual.

Of course, wearing heels during the actual act of sex isn’t always practical. For example, if you are quite active during sex, changing positions regularly and moving about in bed, then your heels are just going to hinder you and possibly even poke someone’s eye out!

But if you wear heels you can easily kick off when you need to, then there’s no issue; just remember to kick them off to the side before you get acrobatic…

7. High Heels Can Make You Look a Bit Slutty

Yes, wearing high heels in bed may make you feel like a tarty little whore, but if you’re into it and so is he then who cares? Some older women may have their hang ups about wearing heels and feeling like they look a bit slutty, but if it turns you both on, then I say go for it.

Sex is all about having fun and connecting with your partner, and besides it’s just between you and a man you trust so there’s no need to feel insecure. It’s time to experiment!

8. Red Heels and Long Red Nails

Guys love this sort of thing because it’s sensual and erotic, especially watching and feeling your red nails and heels rake his chest or legs.

It provokes all sorts of erotic fantasies that adds spark to your sexual session. Red is exciting, and bringing it into the bedroom at some point is a must.

9. Half-Dressed Sex Is a Turn On

Having sex with your partner and not necessarily removing all of your clothes is hot because it gives an exciting feeling of unplanned and spontaneous sex!

Opening your blouse to reveal your bra and allowing one nipple out but not actually taking any clothing off is sexy because it feels rough and raunchy. Hitching your skirt up and pulling your knickers to one side is sexy because your guy will want to look down, and he will see that you still have your high heels on too, which will turn him on.

10. High Heels and Mirrors

Wearing high heels in the bedroom is all about appealing to your man’s visual appreciation, so why not step it up a notch and introduce a full length mirror?

Then not only will your guy get the pleasure of having sex with you in heels, but he will also get the voyeuristic pleasure of watching you have sex in your heels in the mirror, which will give both of you a whole new level of enjoyment.

I am inspired by the ways people interact. Human behaviour and emotions are wonderfully complex, and I want to dig deeper and understand more. This is why I explore intimate relationships in my writing. (I’m also ever so slightly kinky.)

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7 thoughts on 10 Reasons Why Men Love High Heels in the Bedroom and Why You Should Wear Them

  1. My man, Mo Garcia, used to love when I’d wear high heels in bed.

  2. youqueen boy illustration johnny starr

    You have got it all right , babes in heels and stockings is what most guy’s think about , im aguitar player in a rock band, I have wrighten a lot songs with stocking’s and heels in my song’s , that’s a big part of beeing a women and a big part of rock and roll, hell the two go together like ice and tea, you have got my vote hands down.

  3. everything here is right except i hate red nails. id rather her have french mani/pedi

  4. My husband love it when I wear heels all day on the weekend than hop into bed with nothing but my heels on.Makes for great sex

  5. youqueen boy illustration Anonymous

    As a dude….. this article is way to complicated. It’s just damn sexy to see a woman in heels. Not resemblances of S&M, just sexy.

  6. This article is 100% spot on! I got a taste for this about 10 years ago and everytime I am with a woman, she leaves her stilettos on….#10 on this list is the best and a must! She even has 3-4 pairs she uses when we shower together!

  7. My wife and I are wild for each other when she wears a sexy pair of stilettos with nothing else on but a black negligee. One of our favorites is when I pin her against the wall (standing, facing me) while I drop to my knees to give her cunnilingus. During this I love to fondle her sexy footwear and enjoy it immensely when she unintentionally squashes my fingers during her orgasm.

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