Master The Woman on Top Sex Position: How to Ride a Guy

Master The Woman on Top Sex Position: How to Ride a Guy (Properly)


Men love to have sex with the woman on top, and it’s one of the best sex positions for a woman to reach orgasm through penetration, but being on top requires technique and stamina. Here’s how to ride a guy (properly)…

Sure everyone knows that the woman on top sex position puts the woman in control of her own sexual pleasure, but it also gives you the responsibility for providing your man underneath with pleasure.

How will you know if you are hitting all the right spots? How fast should you go? Does he like it at this angle? Will it hurt him if you bend back a bit? And so the questions begin to flow…

Soon you’re not thinking about your own pleasure any more at all because the whole thing is stressful and tiring – you had no idea he had to work so hard!

Woman On Top Attitude

The first thing in learning how to ride a guy is amending your attitude. If you want to wow him with this position, then you have to get the mentality right.

Being on top is sexy because it wreaks of power – even though you will probably feel vulnerable, exposed and be lacking confidence in your technique.

The whole point though is to be in control and enjoy yourself. If your guy sees you basking in the glory of riding his Big Fella all over the bed, then that alone is going to send him over the edge, you won’t even need technique!

Follow these tips to get yourself feeling sexy and in control…

1. Do you have the right attire? Remember, the main attraction of the woman on top sex position is that he gets to see you in all your glory.

This is definitely the position to satisfy any man who loves to look at breasts, so make sure your breasts are looking their best! You can go for sexy lingerie, bras that give you lots of sumptuous cleavage, bras that are made of sheer material so that he can see your erect nipples poking through.

TIP: If you are feeling self-conscious of your midriff, because we don’t all have flat tummies, why not wear a sexy corset, or a silky night-slip to cover up any flabby bits that distract you while you are writhing away on top?

2. Clever tricks to make you feel powerful, and drive him crazy… There’s going to be a whole lot of manly chest in front of you to play with, so why not paint your nails bright red to match your siren red lips and tap into his secret sex fantasies?

Every man has fantasized about having a sexy woman on top of him raking his chest in ecstasy with her pointy red nails – there’s just something fetishistic about it. Give it a go, sometimes stepping into a bit of role-play can give you that extra confidence you need.

You can even take it to the next level and leave on your heels! He will feel like you are his hot dominatrix lover, or a sexy secretary. The imagination is a powerful aphrodisiac.

3. Don’t be afraid to look him straight in the eye. Establishing this kind of connection in the woman on top sex position can be incredibly hot, and it gives you the opportunity to communicate with him through facial expressions, dirty talk, or even just a simple smile that reminds you that it’s still just you and your man having great sex, with nothing to feel intimidated about. (note: eye contact is especially important if you’re giving him mind-blowing oral pleasure)

So now that you have gathered the confidence, you are ready to take action!

How to Have Sex in the Woman On Top Position


What Every Man Actually Wants, But You Probably Do Not Know

Add this 1 simple ingredient to your sexual repertoire and make him sexually addicted to you… [continued here]

Don’t worry it’s not rocket science, just follow these simple steps so that you’ve got the basics, and then go with what feels good.

1. Make sure that you are both turned on. He should be hard and you should be wet.

2. Roll your guy over so that you can mount him. Once you’re straddling with one leg on either side, you may want to tease him a bit before lowering yourself entirely onto his penis.

You can hover, brushing against the tip of his penis with your clit if it feels good for you, you can kiss his chest, stick your butt up in the air, even go down and give him a bit of a suck if he’s not as hard as you’d like.

3. Then slowly use your hand to guide his hard penis into your vagina. Savour it. Move up and down until you have teased the head of his penis through the entrance of your vagina. Enjoy those sensations. Remember if you feel good, the chances are so does he!

4. Once he’s in you might want to move up and down along the length of his shaft slowly and purposefully, tilting your hips slightly when you push down so that they rotate and you can feel him rubbing all the right places inside of you.

5. Don’t rush into anything, keep the penetration steady, vary your movements so that he doesn’t get too excited too quickly.

TIP: If you do the same thing for too long and he’s really enjoying, he’s gonna blow, so tease and make it last. Most importantly focus on building up your pleasure. It’s not that difficult to get a guy off once you get going, so focus on getting yourself off first.

6. Try rotating your hips in circles to see how it feels. Try shallow penetration so that the head of his penis slips in and out and you can feel that wonderful ridge of his on the lips of your vagina.

Try long deep thrusts, using your PC muscles to grip his penis inside your vagina. Try bouncing up and down – but not too hard – it might snap!

7. Don’t forget to get him involved too. He doesn’t have to just lie there while you do all the work, you’re going to start getting tired pretty quickly if you’re not used to being on top, so get him to help you.

He can lift you up and down with his hands underneath your butt, or he can pull you down onto his penis with his hands gripping onto your hips. He can rock you back and forth… You can take the pressure off your legs too by using his thighs or chest to lean on.

8. Don’t be afraid of letting your breasts bounce either, that’s the sort of thing that will turn him right on! Men are visual, the sight of you bouncing up and down on top of him is going to send his straight to heaven, trust me!

A few more tips and insights…

• Be careful not to get too carried away. If you stroke him in the opposite direction you could end up fracturing his penis! Just keep in mind that it’s not designed to handle all of your weight by itself.

• Experiment by turning around so that he has a great view of your back and butt.

• If you need a rest, you can focus on fondling his balls, kissing his chest, or slipping off his penis and going down on him.

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34 thoughts on Master The Woman on Top Sex Position: How to Ride a Guy (Properly)

  1. i’ve never done it, i would like to do it on my boyfriend, i love him so much and if i dont do it there is just anal sex.. or oral, so if i would like to get it in the p*ssy he wants me to ride him, i’m getting really nervous, and im getting shy when im in focus.. what to do???

      • youqueen girl illustration Shannon

        hahahahahah yes. Exactly what I was thinking when I read that. Anon, you’re obviously too young to even be having sex… anal, vaginal, or oral. and you may be “in love” as of now, but more than likely, he will not be the one you marry. Save yourself. You don’t want to be known as “loose” or “easy”

    • youqueen girl illustration Destiny

      Im 16 and i just started riding my boyfriend about 4 days ago. Before we wuld always try and it wuld hurt. But how i did it was facing him and i had him lean up into a sitting position and while i was ontop of him i lifted up and slowly sat down. It was uncomfortable but not painful and i still cant get the bounce right but he gets off and so do i. It also helps if ur bf praises you, mine told me “its in” “your doing it baby” it helps u feel more confident. Hope this helps and use protection always.

    • Rubbish. Those replies are a tad mean, and definitely unhelpful – which should be pt of forum. Anyway, I suggest rereading part of article above about confidence and ‘your’ pleasure. This is not easy when you’re young and still discovering, but could easily apply to a just divorced 50 yr old. Main thing is if you have a loving, trusting partnership then this should be fun -can you let your partner in on the secret, that you’re a bit shy or nervous? And he’ll reassure you. If not, then maybe not one for you. After all, your choices and especially your pleasure is down to you. Ps if a woman respects herself and, no such thing as ‘loose’ or ‘easy’. That’s guy talk.

    • In regards to this “Shannon” uhm..chick*, there is no such thing as loose or easy, there is only one who does as she pleases, and one who leads a life within the parameters of societal “norms” to avoid judgement. Do whatever the f*ck you want girl. Ride that d*ck with confidence (if that’s what your comfortable with) or don’t.. Either way it’s about your happiness and pleasure. Communication is key; if you’d like to start with/ try something else don’t hold back, just tell him! He should be more than willing to try out what you’ve suggested. If not, forget about it. You deserve someone who respects your wishes and comfort

    • youqueen girl illustration Haydyn

      Hey, I don’t think you should pay attention to Nathalie or Shannon. Yes you want to be old enough to understand sex from a non-porn perspective. If you’re not on birth control make sure you use condoms and also if you really love him and he loves you back then you should also feel comfortable asking him if he’s been tested or if there’s anything you should know about and vice versa. So, first I would start by making a fake bf outta pillows and unleash your inner sexiness on that and talk dirty. (If you wanna jump ahead to sex)Hip movement is really important so gyrate them back and forth (not too rough though- d*cks can break). Take deep breathes with light moans, they calm you down and I bet he’d love seeing that. Once you know what you’re doing explore the rest of his body with your hands to take things of your mind- remember keep a steady breathing pace- and don’t get too distracted. And even if you do get shy, you can place his hands on your hips/ass and imply or ask him to take over until you feel more relaxed. I’m planning on riding my bf two days from now so I can come back with more tips. Idk if valium would be affective but I hope I helped. By the way, you cannot get loose and have sex with whoever you want to as long as you’re being safe. The vagina is a muscles that contracts. A guy can f*ck the hell out of your vagina leaving it “loose”, but after several hours up to around a day, it’s going to tighten up again. It’s just like working your muscles out, and that’s just how they work. Be easy or play hard to get, your body, your choice, remember that!

  2. youqueen girl illustration sheeba

    girl go for it it doesn’t hurt if you try but you kinda seem like your not ready you need to be confident and know that .. that d*ck is yours so take care of it

  3. youqueen girl illustration Constantina

    A woman shouldn’t wait for marriage to enjoy sex.
    If she is at a right age and she feels ready and in love I think she should go for it.Just be sure the guy feels the same and he is not just using you for sex.
    If he deserves you,Then it’s good to learn how to please him.Women take sex for granted,But it’s one of the things that keep your relationship alive.
    Just because you want to have sex and please your loving man doesn’t mean you are easy.As long as you are both serious and respect each other.

  4. youqueen girl illustration Constantina

    Also,It’s not all about marriage,In my opinion marriage is just another way to control people just like religion.
    You don’t have to be married to be considered “serious” or respectful.

  5. This was kinda useful I just hope I won’t make a fool of my self by attempting with my man

  6. youqueen girl illustration tamara

    this was a helpful tip it actually work for me!!!!! thnx ;-)

  7. I really want to please my boyfriend and ride him like badly but im scared to mess up and it wont feel good for him! i always feel heavy when i sit on anyone or being picked up so i get nervous!! But we have dated for basically a year and have had sex just a few times but ive never rode him..he always does the work and just wanna change it….? Any tips or advice?

  8. i have a bit of trouble on top its difficult moving my body in a good rhythm, like as soon as i get on i have trouble grinding and riding

    • Try putting on some pop or twerk music and follow the beat with your body. It may help you get in a rythym

  9. I do that all the time while i’m grinding my man and it seems to go perfectly fine. But this time it’s going to be full penetration I think I’m going to lose my V card for my boyfriend. I’m nervous and should I go for this position?

  10. Yeah..good as a read..but missing a few very important realistic points..i wasn’t born in the Last shower..been on top PLENTY..the issues I hav are with my little short legs v his large man hip girth..being onli 5ft tall every guy unless a jocky is much bigger than knees barely touch the matress..i figered this out..i base myself apon my feet & spread my knees wide & yes it burns those thigh muscles…be careful not to put all your weight on his chest or dig into his thighs with your hands as u brace your weight (even a little chik can seem heavy to some guys)..& not all guys like the same kind of ride..some like up n down..some dont mind stirring the pot lol..but definatly helps if u got rhythm :)

  11. youqueen girl illustration trisha

    woman on top never tried it because am kind of the shy type am shy when he sees ma face and when he looks at me into ma eyes

  12. youqueen girl illustration Miraika

    I love riding my 70 year old man. I’m 31, we both enjoy it! Thanks for the tips. Bouncing my boobs and tilting gives us pleasure.

  13. youqueen girl illustration Sophie

    While on top, if you lean backwards, and hold your man’s thighs for support, there’s more chance of him hitting your g-spot. It feels amazing, but it can become uncomfortable after a while for you to be tilting your hips backwards, and for him to have nails digging into his legs :)

  14. I’m sorry but what exactly is a 16 year old doing having sex? I wish someone would had told me what I know now as a teenager. Ladies more than likely that man will not be your long term lover or partner because he’s just as young minded in immature. Please don’t be so quick to grow up…these things and guys are not going anywhere. There will always be someone else and then there’s the right one for you, but you MUST be patient and mature.

  15. Would like to amend comment that a woman should respect herself AND her partner. Ps LOVE y blog, have learnt a heap :)

  16. I’ve tried it but I’m not so good. He says that the sex isnt exciting anymore because we always do the sameeeee thing. So I’ll keep trying until its right.

  17. Hi a’m 21 years old my boyfriend and i just started have sex yesterday he did not know about it due to the it was his 23th birthday and i know birthday sex would be a perfect gift and today i Googled what i can do next to turn him on and yesterday we used some moves and tips stayed on YouQueen we enjoyed yester day but i want more form him. He is afraid to do it ruffle and hard is cute that he does to hurt me i just want him to relax and do it as ruff and as hard as he wasn’t with out holding back what can i do? And i have a lot of new things i read on this sit that i want to try with out him hold back i want him to go for it can someone help me?

  18. youqueen girl illustration rebecca

    I’m a virgin and I want to do it with my bf but am scared, he never talks about it but I know he wants it I heard having sex for the first time hurts badly, i want to love him in bed
    Is it true first time sex hurts???
    Is that the best position for a virgin????

    • youqueen girl illustration Cierra

      If you’re a virgin id say do missionary let him on top but tell him to be easy because it can sometimes hurt your first time

  19. youqueen girl illustration pulliiee

    I really enjoyed reading about this fantastic tips…..but am so scared coz I wanna do on top style but am chubby

  20. youqueen girl illustration random

    this was the most helpful information that i’ve read about sex so far. I’ve got to ask: Am i the only girl that feels something in her vagina while reading this? I really can’t wait to have sex.

    • youqueen girl illustration sparrow

      riding my partner its my problem , because he always ask me to ride on top him , he can’t do any position except ride on him, because he has a big belly can’t do missionary position too,
      I’ve annoyed of that position , I’d like to feel his nuts slamming on my butts and,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,please tell me what can I do?

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