Guys Explained: What Does It Mean When He Doesn’t Show Up for a Date

You’ve been stood up and you feel angry and hurt, and above all you feel humiliated. What does it mean when he doesn’t show up for a date? There can be many reasons. Listed below are just a few examples.

Something Unpleasant Happened to Him

If he doesn’t show up, you shouldn’t worry, get mad or blame him right away. Perhaps something has happened to him on his way to pick you up or while going to the place where you were supposed to meet. A car accident or a family misfortune could be plausible explanations, as well as justifiable excuses. Wait until he calls. If he doesn’t do it within a day, erase him from your life.

He Forgot about Your Date!

man in suit looking at his watch

In this case you really have every right to get mad and blame him. If he has a plausible excuse, give him one more chance. If it happens again, dump him.

He Doesn’t Want to See You any More

He didn’t have enough courage to tell you he doesn’t want to see you any more, so he just didn’t show up for your date.

He is Seeing Someone Else

man and women drinking coffee at the seaside

If this is not the first time that he hasn’t shown up for a date, then perhaps he has started seeing someone else. And even if he has always managed to offer justifiable excuses, you should however start being suspicious. This is a good warning sign that there is another person in his life. So, don’t accept his explanations, but face him and find out what’s going on. What he is doing is selfish, disrespectful and disloyal.

Do you have an awful sneaking suspicion that he  already has a girlfriend who he is not telling you about? Here are our top clues to tell if he does.

In Case It was Your First Date…

Well, in case it is your first date, there may also be various explanations for his not showing up.

1. He might have decided that he is not that interested in you and that he doesn’t really wish to see you.

2. He had a girlfriend and he suddenly felt guilty. Well, he should’ve called and explained. This is called inconsiderate behavior.

Well, these are just some of the many possible explanations for why a guy doesn’t show up for a date. Whatever the reason may be, remember to preserve your self-respect and don’t ever allow anyone to play with your feelings. You should expect the same from the others.

And What if He Calls You Again

The best thing to do is to say no.  He was disrespectful. Unless he has a REALLY good excuse. There is a trend going on among men to disappear and reappear without an explanation. We’ll help you understand why guys disappear and how to deal with that.

Keep your head up high and pursue what you want, not what’s standing in front of you. You owe it to yourself.

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Jessica is a translator who has lived for many years in Asia and South America. She now lives and works in Europe, while preparing her new journeys. She enjoys traveling, meeting new people, exploring different cultures and foods, and being in love.

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  • I could also be that he’s ADD. Yep, it’s an issue that is widely undiagnosed. Usually inherited but not a mental disease but can be a pain. It is also a pain to sufferers. If he’s aware though diagnosis then some coaching is needed. Medication can help but is not a cure. This is useful for Mothers with ADD children. One other aspect if well managed can be the source of Great creativity.