We’ve all gone through it, haven’t we, ladies? Sometimes even our sexiest partners can’t seem to get the job done.
Even the most adventurous of us tend to fall into sexual ruts. Lovemaking becomes comforting but passionless, emotionally satisfying but dull.
You know you’re in the sexual doldrums when you catch yourself wondering if he’s almost done so you can get back to your TV show.
This is especially common in long-term relationships. Long-term love is where you get the best, most emotionally connected, deepest, most meaningful sex of your life. And it is also, through the cumulative weight of hours of seeing each other’s bodies naked and free of mystery, where you get humdrum sex that feels like one more item checked off the to-do list before sleep.
Don’t worry, ladies. It doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t have to linger in sexual limbo, reminiscing about wild and crazy nights that you’ll never have again. You can have them again – starting tonight!
If you find yourself getting bored by sex, it’s time to spice things up a bit. One of the best ways to do that is to that is to change positions…literally.
Sex becomes routine because we get into a comfort zone. Comfort zones are comfortable but not exciting. There’s nothing wrong with comfortable sex. But sooner or later we need to turn up the heat. Here are some tips you can use to rekindle the passion.
Spice Up Missionary Position
Missionary is one of those comfortable positions that people get used to and take for granted.
I am a very big fan of missionary-style sex for the simple fact that it feels good. He’s not hitting you at any weird angles inside, you’re not over-taxing your muscles and the heat of his body covering yours keeps you warm on cold winter nights.
Plus, you get to see his face and look into each other’s eyes. Sometimes that’s sexier than getting pounded hard in doggy position, you know?
Still, it’s always good to spice things up a bit.
Instead of sticking to your everyday missionary routine, try a few variations.
Roll your hips to the side so that you’re almost in a spooning position while his body still covers yours. It makes entry awkward at first, but the sensation is amazing!
If you’re not feeling flexible, try embellishing missionary position by throwing your legs over his shoulders as he’s inside you. He won’t expect it, you’ll get a deeper penetration and you’ll see things heat up real fast!
Crank Up the Intensity With Doggy Style
Doggy style always feels a bit naughty to me. It definitely puts him in charge and makes you the submissive one. Doggy is a fantastic choice if you’re craving deep penetration or you feel like getting a little dirty.
Have him tug your hair as he’s thrusting inside you. Ask him to smack your ass. Encourage him to tell you how you look and how you are making him feel. The intensity of his need for you makes doggy sexier. The more he is driven by his uncontrollable need to possess you, to fill you and thrust himself deep into you, the more you will feel like an irresistible sexual goddess.
If that’s not sexy, I don’t know what is.
Ride Him, Cowgirl!
If you feel like being in charge, then I recommend sex on top (doing it cowgirl style).
Sex on top is basically reverse missionary. He’s on the bottom and you’re on top facing him. There are a number of benefits to cowgirl-style loving.
Did you ever hear the song “Pretty” by a band called James? There’s a line where the singer says, “But she only cums when she’s on top.”
Some women are like that. For them, cowgirl is a godsend.
I find that being on top makes me cum much more than any other position. Not only do I enjoy being in charge, but the deep penetration is nice as well.
The real reason it’s so easy to achieve orgasm in this position, however, is that as you bounce up and down, the tip of his penis has a much better chance of stroking your G-Spot. There’s absolutely nothing in the world like it.
Plus, cowgirl leaves you free to lean down and kiss him, run your nails down his chest, press your breasts against him or pull his hair as you cum.
For him, cowgirl offers an unforgettable sexual show as he sees your body rising and falling on his shaft. And his hands are free to play with your breasts or take hold of your ass.
My goodness. I’m getting a little turned on just writing about it. Honestly, this is the best sex position.
Give Him a Show With Reverse Cowgirl
In the mood for something a little more daring? Try reverse cowgirl. You still get the thrill of being on top, but you’re facing toward his toes instead of his face.
Here’s a tip: Once you’re in reverse cowgirl position, lean forward and place your hands on his knees. You’ll feel an angle of penetration unlike anything you’ve felt before! It feels good and it feels exciting.
Men love reverse cowgirl because they get to watch your ass bouncing up and down. It’s sexy, it really is! You may not think your ass is worth a second look, but he will enjoy the review, trust me. And that sensation of being deeply penetrated at an angle? Oh yeah.
The Romantic Art of Spooning
You’ve slept in spoon position, so you already know how comfortable and cozy it is. It’s great to feel yourself dwarfed in his strong arms as he wraps himself snugly around you.
Now imagine feeling all that…while having sex.
This is not a kinky position. It’s sensual and romantic.
When you have sex in the spooning position, your bodies are wrapped lovingly around each other and the feelings that arise cause you a lot of heartfelt pleasure. Having sex while spooning takes your bedroom play from sexual to sensual. The afterglow from this position must be experienced to be believed.
Sit On His Lap, Facing Him
You can make your next sexual rendezvous naughtier by leaving the bedroom behind. Plant your guy on a sturdy kitchen chair and warn him he’s in for an experience he’ll never forget.
This is a lot like the cowgirl position, but there’s something just a little more erotic about being in a chair.
Maybe it’s because you’re away from the bed. Maybe it’s because it puts you in a more dominant position. Either way, sex in a chair is definitely going to spice things up and add some fun to your sex life.
Assume the Lap Dance Position
Did you ever fantasize about being a lapdancer?
Since you’ve already got him in the chair, why not get his motor running with a sexy lapdance? That’s right, shake your beautiful naked ass in front of him as if you were a stripper. Once you’ve got him where you want him (you’ll know when the time is right), sit yourself down on his naked erection…while facing away from him.
Tying his wrists together behind the chair cranks up the heat in this position – for you and for him. Or you could add a blindfold.
This position can be a little hard on the leg muscles, but trust me – it’s worth it!
Fun Places to Have Sex
Sometimes it’s not the position you’re in that counts, but the location.
We do a lot of things in the bedroom. We sleep there. We discuss important matters when we’re lying in bed at night. Sometimes we watch TV read a book there. I’ve been known to bring my laptop and meet deadlines next to my partner.
All of that tends to rob the bedroom of its mystique. It’s not a sexual place anymore. It’s just another place.
That is why sex in bed can come to feel like another chore.
One of the best ways to spice up your sex life is to try new positions along with new locations. Mix it up outside the bedroom. The fear of getting caught is part of the fun!
Up Against the Wall
Why wait until you get to the bedroom? Go ahead, grab him as soon as he walks in the door.
Don’t let him go upstairs. Just start undressing him right there in the living room. Press him up against the wall and take him without hesitation.
You may find that he takes charge and spins you around so you’re the one with your back against the wall. And there’s nothing wrong with that!
Either way, sex by the front door is a passionate, unmistakable way of telling your guy you still desire him.
Ambush Him On the Sofa
Do you have a comfy couch? If so, put that baby to use! Almost all of your favorite sexual positions can be played out on the couch.
The best way to get started is to start undressing him as he watches TV. Unbutton his pants and tease him mercilessly until he takes you, right there on the sofa!
A word of caution: Don’t try this while the game is on.
Sex on the Stairs? Yes Please
I am an outspoken advocate of sex on the stairs. If you’ve never had stair sex then you’re seriously missing out.
The stairs are perfect for sit-down positions, for a comfortable alternative to doggy style and for standing-up sex when there’s a height difference between you and your lover.
The only thing you need to be wary of is rug burn. It’s easy to get caught up in stairs sex and then feel the pain from the carpet in the morning, so be careful. Otherwise, the stairs are the perfect place to have sex. Be creative and have fun.
All Tied Up
Okay, so maybe this isn’t a “place” per se, but there’s nothing quite like being tied up. You can tie him up or have him tie you up, but a little light bondage goes a long, long way toward breathing new passion into your sex life.
Don’t have any rope? That’s okay. You can use a pair of pantyhose or stockings to tie him up. You can bind his arms with a necktie or scarf. It’s easy to find bondage toys around the house. You just have to use your imagination.
Blindfolds can intensify the bound partner’s feelings of sexual vulnerability. And…well, once you get started down this road, the possibilities are almost endless.
In the Car
Yes, car sex can be awkward. This is especially true if your car has a stick shift. Still, the car is one of the hottest places to have sex. There are lots of wonderful options.
Most of these options need to be done someplace secluded, so it’s a good idea to drive out to the middle of nowhere and pull off to the side of the road. You want to find someplace with no people and no cops.
Now you can have sex in the back seat, in the front seat or on the hood of the car. Every bit of it is fun.
If you want to get things rolling, give your guy oral while he’s still in the passenger seat. Men love oral sex and they love cars. Imagine what he’ll feel when he’s experiencing both at once.
Make sure he returns the favor, of course!
Why Not Start Tonight?
Spicing up your sex life doesn’t have to be outrageous and crazy. You don’t need expensive toys or membership in a swingers’ club. All you need is something that feels a little new.
Give these fun sex positions a try. What do you have to lose?
My soon to be ex enjoyed sex somewhat when we first did it. Then she got concerned with how everything looked. Cow girl for her was about 5 minutes then she’d be tired, you seem to enjoy it not get bored. Wish someone would have taught her how to use her 5’7: 126lbs, size 2 body with the 32c addition for more than a clothes rack
I loved this article, I’m trying to think of new things for when I see my boyfriend next. You helped!