Are you looking to spice up your sex life? Maybe you live with your parents and don’t have places of your own to have sex, or perhaps you or your lover is excited by the idea of doing it in public places?
Fantastic, because car sex is definitely a fun option for you, but you have to get it right if you want to avoid all that awkward fumbling. Here are my 5 sexy tips on how to enjoy having sex in a car.
1. Go prepared.
Just because the sex is meant to be spontaneous, it doesn’t mean you have to be unprepared. I know, I know: I’m such a control freak, but I can’t help it.
I’m the kind of girl who can only enjoy organized spontaneity; that might sound a bit like a contradiction to you, but trust me, if you anticipate something sexy is going to happen, you can avoid all sorts of embarrassing scenarios. I am talking from experience. If you are dating or in a new relationship, you will probably be ready and eager for all sexual encounters anyway.
By ‘organized’ I simply mean self-preparation. Preparing myself for a fun and exciting sexual possibility allows me to fully relax and look forward to an event that may or may not happen.
For example, if you are anticipating a sexual encounter in a car, make sure you are wearing the right clothes! I don’t think I have to explain the awkward difficulty of trying to get your super-tight skinny jeans off while clambering over the gear stick… There is nothing worse than worrying about getting caught by a passer-by with your trousers around your ankles; you can’t disguise that kind of thing. Wear a skirt, ditch the tights and keep it simple.
2. Keep it private.
Yes, technically it’s sex in a public place, but don’t attract an audience! It’s not cool to get caught doing it in a car. In fact, I think it’s very unsavory indeed. Yes, I’m in my 30s and my perspective might be a little different to yours, but just trust me on this one: nobody is going to think you are a rebel; they are going to think you are a dirty prostitute.
Besides, having sex or exposing yourself in a public place is illegal, and your car is considered a public space unless it is parked in your private garage. If you get caught or reported, you could be facing a hefty fine and be charged with a number of different offences—not worth the risk. You don’t want to scare innocent children with your acts of indecency either, do you? Hopefully not, so keep your sex in public places private.
The point is that if you want to enjoy car sex, and share the intimacy and thrill of the experience with your guy; you want to be comfortable and relaxed so that you can focus on each other in the heat of the moment.
You can’t do that if you’re parked under a lamp post or in front of someone’s house. Find an obscure spot to park where you are least likely to be seen, and preferably at night when fewer people are likely to be wandering about, so you can focus all of your attention on enjoying the experience together.
3. You don’t have to have full sex!
Having sex in a car is often a much more satisfying experience if you use it as a place to enjoy some foreplay before you take it upstairs. Let’s face it: there’s not a lot of space in most cars.
Yes, you could hop out and get into the back seat, but really there’s no need. In fact, I’d like to suggest that keeping it all in the front feels much naughtier and is more of a turn on because it is less thought out. Having sex in the backseat can be equally thrilling, but I will come to that in a minute.
Why not enjoy some passionate kissing and fondling over the gear stick? You don’t even have to get out of your seats. Personally, I think the absolute best car sex experience is giving and receiving oral sex or masturbating each other. One of you is able to keep an eye out while the other goes down.
The sexy thing about it is that you don’t have to end it all in the car, which means you get to experience the anticipation of what the rest of the night has in store for you! Work yourselves up into a state of “I want you right now, let’s get out of here!”, then find a place where you can seriously get down to business.
4. Create a relaxing environment.
If neither of you has had car sex before, or if you have but the experience was a bit of a failure, you might both be a bit nervous or cautious, to say the least. You can easily get rid of the awkward silence and embarrassing sounds of fumbling in a small space by putting on some music. Just make sure that you keep it low so that you don’t draw attention to yourselves, and pick a tune that isn’t going to have any distracting unsexy lyrics.
It’s also a good idea to make sure your car is at a comfortable temperature. If it’s cold outside and you create more heat inside, you could end up with very steamy windows, which is a dead giveaway.
5. Take it to the backseat.
If you want to have full sex in a car, you’re going to need to take it to the backseat. There is a lot more space for you to experiment with some of these sex positions in a car:
- Have your guy sit in the backseat and then sit on top of him facing forwards. You’ll need to move the front seat forwards to give you more space, and a skirt and no knickers are required. This is a great sex position because it gives you optimum space for movement, provided your car doesn’t have a ridiculously low ceiling. You will be in control of most of the movement while your guy sits back and enjoys himself. He can also reach around to stimulate your clitoris while you grind on top of him or pull you back against his chest so he can fondle your breasts underneath your blouse. You will feel wonderfully violated!
- Missionary is totally possible in the back seat if you wrap your legs around his back, but it’s much more comfortable if he lies on his back and you straddle him on top. You will weigh less on top and be able to move about more so that you can both reach your climax.
- With him sitting up again, you can sit on top of him, this time facing towards him for a more intimate experience where plenty of sensual kissing can work you both up into a state of horny-of-no-return. Get him to hold you under your ass and graze his fingers over your anus for even more naughty sensations!
Don’t be afraid to give car sex another chance even if your first experiences are awkward. The more familiar you become with having sex in a small space, the easier it will be and the more physical and mental enjoyment you will get from it. Just remember to be smart and safe, and respect other people’s right not to witness your public porn show!